Seriously, why do people keep claiming that men are wired to cheat? I feel like I feel intense sexual attraction to my male companions ALLLLLLL the time. I have never done anything and do NOT intend to but still, I get these urges. Also, a lot of my girlfriends have stated the same exact thing. I guess this is why data on female infidelity has been known to be extremely flawed, because the way some women talk about their outside flings, or near incidents is quite mind-boggling.

So ladies, am I alone on this feeling? How do you all fight this urge?
Guys, How would you feel if you found that your girl or wife had these same "urges"? would you be upset? do you wanna know? Do you think its right?

Hello guys.

First I thank you all for your thoughtful responses. There are a few points I want to clarify:

I noticed a lot of you stressed the student loans. Trust and believe that I havent gotten as far as I have being "simple" minded. My gripe here is not that I spend my money on him. Whatever I do for him financially comes from the heart, and if he leaves me tommorow, it doesn't matter much to me and I wont be in huge debt on his account. I mentioned my loans because I wanted to point out that I myself am not swimming in dough. yes I know I have to pay back eventually, but I am pretty prudent with spending and when I say I help him out financially, we are talking 40, 50, 60 bucks range, nothing dramatic.

I don't know if most of you got my point, but my issue here is that I just want someone to splurge on me. UNFORTUNATELY, i have an awesome boyfriend who can't do that right now. That drives me nuts and I know his situation wont be this way forever. But I am young and I don't want to regret not being able to do certain things now at my age simply because my bf could not afford it.

He works very hard and does not ask me for money ALL the time. In fact, sometimes his pride is so great that he would rather starve than to ask me for money, OBVIOUSLY, I wont want to see that happen. So sometimes I offer him the money. I know some may think I am naive for doing so, and I am ok with that because thats not the real issue at hand. I dont wish to base my relationship on fear that someday he might leave me, rather I see it as this is my partner whom I love dearly and one day we will start a family together. Any money I spend helping him out is money I am investing in our relationship. I simply wish I could have a guy splurge on me sometime. It troubles me because I almost feel selfish for wanting this. I guess I cant have my cake and eat it too huhn?

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Ok, so I say that I am not too down for all that traditional crap about men providing and women taking care of the home and all, but I have to say this. My bf is a bit older than I am and I am a med student (taking out A LOT of student loans). He works and does take some classes and he doesnt make much money. Since I have a lot of loan money, I tend to have more money available to me. Although he doesn't always ask me directly, sometimes he does, OR he'll say he is strapped for cash, and me feeling guilty will offer to give him money and he Accepts willingly. Additionally. even when he does spend on me, I know the next week, he is going to be complaining about being broke or not having money for food, so I end up basically paying back for whatever he spent on me.

I dont know but for some reason I dont feel right anymore. I kind of wish I could have a guy to spend money on me and spoil me. I feel that this wil continue on forever seeing as I will be a doctor and he will be-----(wont specify for privacy sake). The fact that he is older than me makes it hard3er to swallow because I sometimes feel he should be the one giving me money. I dunno, but I feel really weird and torn. He is an AMAZING partner in everyway though, He is very atentive, caring, honest, loyal, spiritual, and intelligent. I feel sooo bad and I know he feels bad too asking for money or telling me his financial situation. I feel he does so sometimes because he wants to be totally honest with me and doesnt want to make me feel dissapointed when we go out and he says he doesnt have enough. GOSH, I dont know what to do. someone plz help me. He is a good guy but I just want to have a guy that will take me out and splurge on me. I am in no way a gold-digger but after X (more than 1, less than 4) amount of years, I am feeling kind of down in the dumps and craving a man to spoil me. Is that too much to ask?

I was with my bf for about 4 months before he told me he was 3 yrs older than the age he had told me originally. I WAS PISSED! because i felt that I had already fell in love with him as a 28 yr old, not a 31 yr old. That was awful and it made me not trust him for a while, In fact, I still doubt him sometimes and it has been 2 yrs now. Sometimes I go through his papers just to make sure everything is in tact. , so that right there should tell you all that not being upofront with your partner AS SOON AS POSSIBLE can become very very destructive.