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to every body that deemed it necessary to drop an advice,I thank you.for those that criticize me I appreciate you.for those like blokus

Goldenboy007: The problem about seeking advise in forums like this is that people that don't having business advising you will also give you terrible advise.

I wonder what is wrong with people these days, you got married and now decided to change something about yourself regardless of what your spouse think? You do not have the right to change from how your spouse found you!!! This exactly is what causes problems in marriage !!! SO because you are married now, you think you are secured so no need to keep up your game? then you will have yourself to blame.

OP, I quite agree with you !! you have a genuine concern and nobody should criticize you! Don't let anybody condemn you on the way you feel! There is something that attracted us to whomever we married and it is not necessary for it to be "Love" !!! Some is physical attraction, some its money, some it is character ! Don't condemn anybody's reason for getting married !!!

This is a common problem, call her parents or an elder she respects and talk to them, let them talk to her. Even the bible clearly states the husband as the head of the wife and if whatever you are practicing negates this then you don't God. What if you decided to adopt a strange habit too? like getting a tattoo? earrings? or go become a Buddhist? How would she feel? However sha, keep your cool, at least thank God it is good thing she adopted and not that she decided to become a "wakawaka" wife

Nairalanders! If you are not married! stop advising married people because you don't know jack what it is all about !!!! Your Nollywood and Mills&Boom Romance Novel experience don't apply in reality!

thanks alot

apolonius: Cheating is such a silly response to what you are bewailing bro.

Take your time to show her hundreds of pastors and priests-so-called faith leaders-who do not joke with fashion.

Also,use the Mary of Magdala pouring perfume on Jesus' feet as a foundation to a sound theology of fashion and how Christ even appreciated it.

Listen to her reasons and give her hundreds of reasons including teachings by pastors like Myles Munroe and Dag-Edward Mills on the woman's beauty and fashion sense and its importance.

Then,finally educate her on the effect or impact of her new 'no fashion' spirituality isd begining to have on your union. These should get her to change.

Again,you can invite her to any of these churches were women come in high fashion- Living Faith,Christ Embassy,Worship Centre in Abuja,COZA and what have you. Women by their nature can't stop taking note of fashion in unusual places. She will be inspired to see what she is losing.

Of course,good luck.

I have tried this suggestion of yours but she looks at those churches as though they are not practicing real Christianity,I will keep on talking to her til she changes or I will accept her like that.moreover the union is for better for worse

l appreciate all the advice given,it makes me strong and opens my eyes more to understand something s which I didn't.by God's grace I will never cheat on her.

Blockus: OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

hey guy,you are harsh,its my wife we are talking about.I love her very very much.

xynerise: Exactly

he who asks for good advice won't make wrong decision,so is either u drop an advice or you keep quiet,cos if I wanted to cheat y shld I ask for advice?I want u guys to understand that in the journey of marriage nobody knows it all.

Provie: Op it's not all about her orientation; it's about yours too. She is not really looking dirty or unkempt, is she?

Having noted the above, know that women tend to be fanatical wit their new-found Christian faith. All you need to do is allow her some time. The steam will definitely blow off. Just help her kip out of trouble.

Secondly, u must upgrade yourself in terms of Christianity/Bible knowledge and make out time to have a chitchat with her on biblical principles as different from what is really taught these days. I'm sure your wife will be back.

Op ask me how sure I am: My wife was like dat too. Incidentally Op, you and I married about the same time!!!!

thanks bro

Provie: Op it's not all about her orientation;its about urs too.She's not really looking dirty or unkempt,is she?

Women tend to be fanatical wit new-found Christian faith. All u need to do is alow her some time.Just help her kip out of troble. She'll b bak.

thanks alot

flipflop: Sir, I'm sure you did not marry her just for beauty alone. Your wife has acted on faith, you criticizing and demanding for her to change may destroy her faith. Give her your support as her husband and friend. If you feel she looks unkempt, it just because you are still looking for that woman she used to be. You suggesting cheating on her is absolutely absurd and terribly wicked. Your wife is your wife, stop loving her for the outside "beauty" and start focusing on the inward beauty that does not change or fade. *#shrugs shoulder

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ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone.

tanx alot,I still love her very much,she is the mother of my child.I can't do anything to hurt her,that's why am asking for advice.

alabiyemmy: Did He Say so.

help me ask amoo

akraym: Hey, another HIV victim lurking around the corner

Chai

where is the victim?for my 4years I have never cheated on her.

My question still stands[/quote]if you have advice please give and don't interview me cos am in dilemma

hei not the make up issues alone,she now looks unkempt and refuses to make her hair and refuses to even look attractive.

I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

how much is it going for?