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[size=8pt][size=8pt][size=8pt]Infatuation or Love; Knowing the difference.[/size][/size][/size]

She seems to be the perfect one you have been looking for and he also look like that special one that satisfies your very heart desire. You can’t just get your mind off him and you think she might be a perfect match for you. Nothing seems to matter any longer, she seems so perfect and great; an utmost desire of your very act, nothing you say could ever change your love for each other.

But the question is that “how do you know if you're really in love”? It's easy to mistake infatuation for love. Although we always hear that infatuation is a shallow emotion, it's actually quite powerful. Lots of people claim to be in love when in reality they are only being infatuated. We hear words like “I just know he is the one for me”, when asked why, they tend not to give a convincing answer, some ended up saying “I feel it very strongly”. But one thing that these individuals do not take into consideration is that infatuation is also a feeling.

It’s heartbreaking and alarming that most of the relationship that develops overtime end up in frustration and anger. I believe that a proper understanding of what love and infatuation is will prevent you as a youth and single from having a painful love experience in life, and this will help you from hurting yourself and others.

To start with, it will indeed be very helpful if we can define what love and infatuation is, this will give us a simple and laconic understanding of what they entails.

What is Infatuation?
Infatuation is an intense but short-lived and irrational passion for somebody or something. I think this is the simplest definition of infatuation to the best of my knowledge. Now, let’s see what love is.

What is Love?
I must say at this point that defining love might be a little bit difficult, reason being that it is a word of different meaning to different people and circumstance. Wouldn’t you be surprised when a person says he loves his job and few minute later turn to his wife and say “I love you”, you wonder what the difference between the love he’s exhibiting towards his job and the one for his wife is. This is so, because the root word from which our English word Love was translated has levels and categories, but those level and categories was not found in the English. So, that explains the reason why there is confusion in the usage of the word Love.

In a nutshell, Love is a strong unselfish feeling of interest and affection expressed towards an individual. This expression could be casual, plain, intimate, romantic or natural.

It’s very sad today that most youth and singles uses the word “I love you” without even knowing the weight or the implication of the word on the other person. I remembered sometime back, I was actually going to send a text-message to a male friend of mine (because I am a text message freak) and ended with the word “love you”, and I sent this same message a female friend of mine forgetting the ending word. Thereafter, when we got to see each other, I discovered that she was reacting to the text I have earlier sent to her, so I decided to check her phone some few weeks after the whole event, and to my surprise I discovered that the message was still intact in the phone.
Now, let’s take a look at the characteristics of Infatuation and Love, to determine the difference between the two experiences.

CHARACTERISTICS OF INFATUATION
Here are brief features of infatuation, please considered each of these features carefully, if you discovered that you are exhibiting anyone of these features, you can immediately adjust and make correction(s) when necessary.

1. Based on Physical Attraction.

This is the most commonly exhibited traits expressed in infatuation. True love is not only based on physical attraction. An infatuated individual can be attracted to 30 people in a day due to physical attraction. I am not saying that beauty does not count in love, but it’s not the key factor neither is it the ultimate. One thing we need to realize is that physical attraction eventually fails as people get older and age. What count most are your lasting virtues – the inner qualities that you possess as an individual. So, if the reason you are in that relationship is wholly based on physical attraction, you had better think twice and make things right.

Recently, I had an encounter with a young biker on my way to school. I noticed that he displayed a strange gesture at a particular girl while the bike was on motion, so I decided to ask if the girl has offended him earlier, but he said no. Because I was curious to know the reason for his action, I kept on asking and he finally told me the reason. Guess what he said? He said he likes the girl.

Well, there is no problem liking a girl, but his was different. Due to his reaction, I further asked him if he would like to marry her, to that he answered an interesting yes and said something interesting. He said he sees 30 different girls in a day and his attracted to all of them!

To be very sure of what he was saying I asked if like those girl he has been seeing, and he echoed a resounding and an exciting yes. What this young man is saying in essence is that, he falls in love with 30 different girls in a day! That is what infatuation is all about; it gives you a burning but not lasting desire. If you are in the same shoe with this young man, you need to consider your feelings carefully and make sure you are making the right decision.

2. Selfish Aspiration: One of the apparent features of infatuation is the tendency of expressing selfish desire in a relationship. If all you think is what you can get and not give in return, you are likely to be infatuating. Infatuated individuals only think of themselves and nothing more, they do not consider the welfare of the other person.
That explains the reason why every decision made out of an infatuated mind is all about self centeredness and egocentricity. If all your partner is saying or doing is to his favour and does not put you into consideration, then you can be sure that it wasn’t a true love.

3. Always in a rush: One of the prominent features of infatuation is the fact the infatuated individual will always want things to be done in a hurry. One of the reasons why they do this is because they are uncertain of their next moves and feelings, and they felt they are unpredictable. And that is what they truly are, capricious.
For instance, if you are in a relationship and your partner is asking you for sex as a proof of his love for you, it implies that you are not loved but lusted after. One of the reasons why most young people give in to this sex crazy lifestyle is because most of them cannot discern between true love and infatuation. You need to understand that true loves waits and it is patient, it is not in a hurry to do things, especially in the area of sexual intercourse.

Listen ladies, if that guy truly loves you, he will definitely wait for you. But, if he says that he cannot wait, then, that is a sign that he wouldn’t have the time to wait for you in marriage and this is the most devastating aspect of a relationship – not getting along with your partner.

4. Does not last: Another major feature of infatuation is that it does not last. Love on the contrary can stand the test of time, but infatuation cannot. Infatuation tends to be shot lived based on the fact that it a reaction based on peripheral and not from the genuine longing of the heart.

This is most times seen in relationship that evolves among young people of the opposite sex. When a relationship is based on infatuation, the individual seems to be the perfect being on the surface of the earth. Therefore, reality is no where to be found. It is only when infatuation has been fully maximized that the individual will come to the understanding that they are not truly in love. This might be painful at times as one of the infatuated individual suffers the consequence, or at most the two.

Infatuated individuals at the end of their blind love for each other later became the greatest enemy. The hatred and bitterness that follows is always alarming, as one will find it difficult to believe such individuals who seems to be moving along intimately could change in just a twinkling of an eye.

The truth of the matter is that, infatuation, is sporadic in nature, it comes and goes. So, if you discover that you are experiencing such feelings, try as much as possible to control yourself, because you will later discover that those young men or women that you are aphrodisiac about will later be of no interest to you, for some explicable or inexplicable reason(s).

These are the few features of infatuation that you need to watch out for, if you discover that you are exhibiting any of these, please make a quick correction before you regret the relationship.

CHARACTERISITCS OF LOVE

Having check out and examined the features of infatuation, it will be more helpful for us to examine that of Love too, in order to make the difference between the two vivid and clear. Here are the characteristics of true love.

1. Love Respects: This is one powerful aspect of love; it gives respect irrespective of the status, category or condition of the individual.

A relationship that is based on love is one that is full of mutual respect for the member of the opposite sex. This is one major feature that is lacking in infatuation. True love is not possessive and dominating, it gives rooms for the other person to express themselves by sharing their point of view while infatuation does the opposite.

Let me cite an example here for more clarification. If two young people are in a relationship, that is foundational on true love and not mere feelings, they see each other as two different people coming to a term, with the recognition that they are committed to tolerate each other’s perspective on the issue of life.

Love goes beyond mere feelings, true love takes a person the way they are, not the way they want them to be. This is yet another mistake that most young people make in relationship. They are always looking at changing an individual into what I called their Mental Creative Robot. They want the person to become their dreamed personality or robot that has no choice but to yield to their desires, this terribly mistake, please don’t make such.

2. Love Grows: This is an outstanding feature of love. I discovered with the little experience I had about relationship that true love is not spontaneous, but it grows. Most young people are usually deluded with the thought that love is magical and could be out of the blue. This thought in summary is what is known as love at first sight, but the truth is that you can’t love the person you don’t know.

Most young people fail to realize that true love doesn’t jump into conclusion without verification, it is not something that happens abruptly, it takes time for it to develop and grow based on understanding and communication. It baffles me when young people say they are madly in love with someone they have hardly known, not even from Adam. Love is not just a feeling, it is more than that.

I personally discovered with the little experience that I have with individuals that true love is not something that comes boobs; it is a systematic process that takes time to grow. Most people that I have come to love today is as a result of their personality and that is really what makes them beautiful and always good to have around.

Just like so many young people had been deceived to believe in the principle of love at first sight, many youth and singles has been entangled in the trap of this ambiguous feelings and mindset. Many youth through this principle have come to discover that their partner is not really who they taught he was, they were only been deceived and hook winded by their hormones and sensation.

Many youth have confessed to me that it seems they where being under a spell and where controlled by a force beyond their strength and resistance, thereby being a prey of this deadly and heartbreaking experience. Most of the love at first sight experience is borne out of infatuation and not true love. You need to understand that love is tangible and can be measured and evaluated, but not so with infatuation, that explains the reason why most infatuated individuals when asked for the cause of their feelings they tend not to give a substantial reply of what it is all about.

3. Love Gives: This is one outstanding truth that I have come to understand about true love. True love will want to give to other no matter how little it is. This same principle was expressed in one the most popular verse in the bible, John 3: 16 to be precise. It state that God love was demonstration thought the act of giving, it is sure an exceptional qualities that can’t be found in infatuation.

Though this feature is very efficient one, it has been abused and misunderstood especially when used under pretense and deception. You have to be very careful here, for the fact that someone gives and bombard you with gift does not indicate that they love you; some do these to merely take advantage of you. Therefore, how do you get to know that there is an ulterior motive behind such act, it the demands and reactions that accompany such action.

I heard of a case in which a guy who wanted the love of a young girl by all means, trying all he could but with no result decided to use this technique, so as to show the girl that he loves her. He gave her a financial gift and started making demand thereafter thinking that his supposedly act of generosity and care would earn him the girl’s heat. But he was strangely surprised when the reaction he expected were not forthcoming and it seems his hope of getting his selfish desires is being smash against the rock, he decided to make demanded that his financial gift be returned to show that he wasn’t in love with the young girl initially.

You need to be vigilant as a young person, once you discover that a demand is being made based on the gift(s) that you had received, please check out the relationship, it possibly going to be an infatuation and not true love and might likely end with a bitter experience that you couldn’t have ever imagined. But true love gives out of the genuine and unadulterated feelings of passion towards another person for the purpose of making the other person a better individual.

There is a common saying that there is love in sharing, that is exactly what love is all about, it share with others so as to make them experience the same peace, joy, happiness and tranquility that he has. Here is the motto for infatuation there is infatuation in selfish demanding.

With these little explanation, I hope you will be able to discern between true love and infatuation. Stay vibrant and strong.

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I told you guys that the Original Arabic word for God is not Allah, but Ilah. I said that the word ALLAH is a contraction of two words, Al+Ilah= Allah, which in English language means The god.

Now, what is the implication of this analysis?, the implication is very momentous, reason being that the Arabians were known for Idol worship, which was very evident even before prophet Muhammad was born, Arabian then was full of Idol which with different tribe worship it's choice of god, due to the fact that there were 360 Idols in the Kaaba shrine, which later became one of the Muslim' most holiest place of homage today.

Therefore, it became pertinent for every tribe to chose it own god to worship and reference. But when Muhammad was born, he received a revelation from Allah to eradicate all the other Idol except Allah and that ALLAH is the only one that is to be worshiped, that was what gave birth to the statement of confession, which is called Shahada in Arabic language that; "There is no god except Allah and Muhammad is his Messenger" .

Now, why all these analysis?. the reason for these is to show that Allah which the Muslims claimed to worship was part of the 360 Idols in the Kaaba shrine, how can this be proven?, it was so, due to the fact that Muhammad has to Identify of differentiate Allah from other Idols, and the only way he could do that is to use a word or statement which will vividly isolate Allah from the rest of the idols.

To this end, he used an emphatic word in reference to Allah, he used the Arabic word Al, which means The, so for the Arabians not to confuse Allah for the rest of the idols, in reference to Allah Muhammad would use the word The god which is equal to[i] Al+Ilah = Allah [/i]in Arabic.

Hope you guys get this, I will continue some other time, till then stay bless.

I baffles me when I discover that Computer literate can still be ignorant in this age of information, especially as concern the thing that are religious.

Who told you guys that Allah is the Arabic name for God?, it's a big lie that had penetrated the world for decades, which lots of individuals had swallowed even without checking its reliability.

To start with, Allah is the contraction or the Amalgamation of two words namely: Al-Ilah, well, it's wasn't my intention to load you guys with Arabic language, but I think a little knowledge of this will clarify the issue at hand, the Arabic word for God in Arabic language is ILAH, so someone may ask, how do we come about the word ALLAH?.

Like I said initially that Allah is the contraction of two words, Al-Ilah, Al denotes the Article The in Arabic language, for example: Al-Qur'an [/i]means [i]The Qur'an or Al-Kerim [/i]means [i]The Blessed or Al-Fathia means The Fathia, with these few examples, you guys should have the understanding that Allah means The god.

Now, let us put this words together and see the results of thing, Al+Ilah=Allah, which means The god. I will give you more Analysis on this subject later. Till then, you guys should stay bless.

I do not see any thing glorious about the Quran

So you guy knows the dangers of Islam?, and you don't confront it why?, there are lot of debate here in the forum that need your knowledge and attention, I therefore advice you guys to enter these different Chat rooms and show to the Muslims with love and care that Islam is not good for them. And that is what I have been doing some fews past days with some of my muslims friend. Are you ready or not?

Muhammed is never the Prophet of God, but he is the prophet Allah. I will proof that very soon.

The "ALL" that had sinned were HUMANS IN GENERAL, then I am waiting for your answer.

It's not a surprise to me that our Muslim brothers fails to understand what was said in the book of Romans, concerning the "ALL" that had sinned by putting Jesus in the same shoe with the "ALL", but a clear understanding of the Bible will show us that this verse does not include Jesus at all, it even help to show that Jesus is sinless rather than being a sinner.

I will like to bring out some bible verses that will serve as an evidence to what I have just said, this verses show categorically that Jesus was never a sinner. I Quote:

2 Corinthians 5:21: "For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him."

Hebrews 4:15: "For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin."

1 Peter 2:21-22: ", because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth."
bullet 1John 3:5: "And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin."

Now let us listen to what Jesus himself said about this Issue:

John 8 :46: Which of you convinceth me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do ye not believe me?

That is Jesus' own word, so I wonder where our Muslims brothers get their theory from?, I hope they will go and do a lot more research from their Imam and Alfas.

Now evidence of Jesus's sinlessness in the Qur'an:
In three different translation of the Qur'an, notice words like Pure, Holy and Fautless in the following verses.

[Shakir 19:19] He said: I am only a messenger of your Lord: That I will give you a pure boy.


[Yusufali 19:19] He said: "Nay, I am only a messenger from thy Lord, (to announce) to thee the gift of a holy son.


[Pickthal 19:19] He said: I am only a messenger of thy Lord, that I may bestow on thee a faultless son.





In the Hadith,

Narrated Said bin Al-Musaiyab:
Abu Huraira said, "I heard Allah’s Apostle saying, "There is none born among the off-spring of Adam, but Satan touches it. A child therefore, cries loudly at the time of birth because of the touch of Satan, EXCEPT MARY AND HER CHILD." Then Abu Huraira recited: "And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from the outcast Satan" (3.36) (Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 4, Book 55, Number 641; see also Volume 4, Book 54, Number 506)

A word is enough for the wise, these I suppose should make our Muslim brother think and seek for how their sins can be forgiven, instead of rejecting and mocking the one that can save them from their sins.

May God bless you my Muslim friends.

A devout Muslim certainly will be kept very busy in their religious life! Can this help to save them, though?

"Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost." (Titus 3:5)

It is not the works which man does that can save him, but rather it is of the grace and mercy of God who sent His Son Jesus Christ to die and shed His blood for us, and who rose again. Only by faith in Him can we be saved, and this after He calls us and gives us the conviction to recognise that we are sinners in need of salvation. Repentance, that change of attitude and heart towards our sin, must be had before we are in a position to come to God for salvation. If we refuse to accept that we are sinners who cannot provide our own way to God, then we cannot be saved nor enter the kingdom of God. There is nothing; no ritual, no ceremony, no pilgrimage, which human beings can perform and earn a spot in heaven. "But we are all as an unclean thing, and all our righteousnesses are as filthy rags; and we all do fade as a leaf; and our iniquities, like the wind, have taken us away." (Isaiah 64:6) See, the Bible tells us that our efforts at producing our own righteousness are unworthy and flawed. Because of our sin, we are unclean things in the sight of God, and our works and rituals are worthless and filthy.

This applies to all of us, too. "As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one, For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God." (Romans 3:10,23) Mohammed, as we saw, was a sinner. The Qur'an says as much. "Lo! We have given thee (O Muhammad) a signal victory, That Allah may forgive thee of thy sin that which is past and that which is to come, and may perfect His favour unto thee, and may guide thee on a right path." (Surah 48:1-2, Pickthal translation) Further, in Surah 40:55, "Then have patience (O Muhammad). Lo! the promise of Allah is true. And ask forgiveness of thy sin, and hymn the praise of thy Lord at fall of night and in the early hours." (Pickthal translation) Mohammed himself recognised that he was a sinner in need of forgiveness.

So, if all mankind are sinners, and works, rituals, and the like cannot save them, what can? As stated above, the only way to salvation is by faith in Jesus Christ as Saviour, repenting of your sins and trusting Him to wash your sins away through His own blood which was shed to forgive sin. "Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." (John 14:6) Salvation is only through the Lord Jesus Christ. No works can replace this. "Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that entereth not by the sheepfold, but climbeth up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber, I am the door: by me if any man enter in, he shall be saved, " (John 10:1,9) Jesus, the sinless man presented both in the Bible and the Qur'an who would not lie, said that He was the way to enter into heaven. If you are trying to get in by keeping the rules and regulations of Islam, you are trying to climb up some another way, and will not be able to successfully enter in. "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5: This is the love of God. We, who are sinners by nature and by practice, and who deserve the wrath of God by burning in hell for eternity, are freely given the opportunity to escape that fate, without work on our part, and without it costing us a thing. "For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: It is the gift of God. Not of works, lest any man should boast." (Ephesians 2:8-9) Salvation is by grace, through faith, His gift to us. We don't need to work, we only need to believe and trust in Him for our salvation. Doing good works and living a moral life cannot save. In fact, human beings are not even ABLE to live a truly moral life unless they have the Spirit of God residing in them, whom we receive upon trusting Christ to salvation. Think about it. No matter how moral you may appear to other people, you know that there is some sin which you have in your life which will condemn you to hell. Why try to strive to earn a salvation which cannot be earned? Jesus said, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28) Lay the heavy burden of your sins and guilt at His feet, and take Him as your Saviour, and be saved!

Muslims do not believe that their sins are paid for, and that is the simple reason why they find it very difficult to accept that Jesus came to die for the sins of mankind. Well, it's not really surprising that they believe that because their sin according to the Quran will be weight and be accesde on the judgement day ( Quran 7 vs. 8:9).

But because the Muslims do not have assurance of salvation and they are feeling very uncomfortable about it, that's why they have to attack the Christians who claims to have such wonderful opportunity. What they could have done is to ask the Christians how their sins can be forgiven, instead they begin to jealous and wonder at such privilege given to Christians and trying to equate the their uncertainty about their sins been forgiven.

I think we need to know that the Muslim made a very big mistake by translating the Quran into an English language, and that is why they could explain away the dirty things inside it.

There is nothing like montheism in Islam it is a mere cover up and a conjecture too, i pity too many muslims because they do not know who they serve and the sincerely believe that they are serving God
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