KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

SIR I RESPECT YOUR WRITE-UP.
THIS IS PURE WISDOM FROM A FATHER.

THE TRUTH IS MOST OF US NO LONGER WANT TO MARRY AGAIN.

YOU WONDER IF WOMEN ARE RATIONAL, SORRY TO SOUND THIS WAY TO ALL THE WOMEN FOLKS BUT IF YOU FIND IT OFFENDING, WELL ITS WRITTEN AND I DON'T CARE.
YOU BEGIN TO WONDER WHERE IS THEIR RATIONALITY IN THINKING WHEN YOU HONESTLY SPELL TRUTH.


THANKS FOR THE SHARED EXPERIENCE SIR.

eddyvilla:



I doubt if this person is married

eddyvilla:



I doubt if this person is married

This tread was for married people and never meant for those in BF and GF r/sh.

It not only that, its meant for those who are currently managing their marriage and enduring all in every way and with every possible respect.

I also believe this tread was prompted by a single person who see persons who has been in marriage for a very long lime like 30-40 years and respects them alot, knowing that relationship is one thing and marriage is WORK WORK AND WORK.

Beautiful Matured Grown Devilish Ugly Hearted Babies.
I ended my last relationship thats on 3rd october, 2018 because of this.
I hate to say this but I just have to. God knows I cannot feel any atom of love for this kind of woman having said something like this to my face talk more more of 'Social Media' no matter how beautiful she thinks she is. In fact what i consider beautiful is the content of the heart and mind. You can spill something like this to my face and expect me to give love.
I' m even heart broken about this.

#WordsCanBreakAMan.
When you spill something like this I know you are love with my money or how I even make you feel.

I read this some months back.
I'm still baffled how would someone u said have been working for 20 years as a cleaner still be 24 years and moreover the picture I'm seeing are men not less than 35...
I don't get it..