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SisterAnn:
I have experienced everything you wrote here and I concur.

The only thing I don't agree with I that women were not created to work (make wealth).

In the bible which is often the standard in arguments like this, the virtuous woman worked. She did business. She sold clothings, she made money.

A woman should never be idle. That's a devil's workshop there.

I didn't spend all together 8yrs getting a degree to become a housewife.

I will loose myself in that marriage. I'm big on spending and it's because I earn enough for myself without being a burden to my spouse.

The one I don't like is too much neglect of the family because you are a working mom.

Italy today, Milan tomorrow and UK next week. This is a no-no for me. You can't give your family good attention with this.

Even when I was a department head in the bank, I made it a duty never to take work home.

But full time housewife is a no for me.

A little business that fetches so little is also a no.

Op seems a good guy, he should calm down and find a good solution to the challenge.

Thanks for your understanding.

Regardless, I did not imply that women are ment to be idle, what I ment was that whatever a woman does should not be an integral contribution to the family finances and she doesn't have to shoulder responsibilities of any kind, whether directly or indirectly. It disrupts her hormones.

Owning a business or working in a public office is good, but even at that, if pressure starts to build in either of this places, it will still affect her.

It's best if the husband has a family business where she will be the general overseer and not a managerial position that comes with tasks while she receives her salary like every other employee.

From experience, women are happy and always in their best when there's no pressure.

The fact is that a man can easily step aside from pampering a woman if she is always showing she's capable.

This is why most women that are hardworking mostly fall victim of wrong guys.

A woman that appears soft and fragile always enjoys more than those that show strength.

And it gets worst when a woman starts a relationship with a man when he's still struggling financially, though she may be a good support through his struggles, most of the times, moving forward it makes her forget her position. She continue working while the man unintentionally forgets to pet her

God did not create women to work.
Their natural assignment is to organize the home, train the children in the family's culture and entertain the husband.

The above mentioned assignments is even too heavy for one person not to mention another additional 5:7 Job.

When a woman is burdened with responsibilities that adds pressure on her, there's a shift in her hormonal dynamics favouring stress hormones and testosterone, and this makes her not to feel tender and natural as a woman. By this, she starts becoming aggressive, and less emotional.

Just understand that you are in a precarious situation and your wife is innocent and have not intentionally done anything wrong. She won't accept to stop working if she senses you are not financially buoyant to take care of the family. This she might not tell you, but never you misunderstand her when she becomes aggressive or refuses your moves.

I will advice you to prove your financial capabilities first, then you can discuss with her and make sure to approach her with empathy.

Cheers!!!

EagleMenage:
Hello Nairaland,


I have a serious confession to make and this has been killing me emotionally and I can’t keep it anymore.

It all started at age 14, I happen to be the only male child and seeing myself among my sisters I started developing a kind of strange affection for them which is really strange and evil.
My sisters are really beautiful indeed to be honest.

I share room with my elder sister, and there was this night I woke up and realized she was on a phone call with her boyfriend and at the same time using her fingers to play with her vagina, but when I saw her she tried to get my attention to have sex with her but I refused.


Honestly the next day I didn’t inform any of my parents about this and I kept it confidential.

I thought that’s all, but afterwards, whenever am alone then I feel like having sex, I’ll become Hot to the extent that, I easily get moody after some few minutes without satisfying myself.

It went on and on until one day I couldn’t hold it anymore and I had to take my elder sister panties and wrapped it round my penis, and this is where it all started, unfortunately I had this idea from no where that I can use that as a means of satisfying myself without any girl.

From the beginning it feels good to me and honestly I was enjoying it, gradually I improved on it.


This is the journey to my addiction…..I started Masturbating with ladies pants everyday at any little opportunity I get.

I can masturbate more than 5 times in a day.

Am an introvert so this really hunt me more and more. It got to a time I feel within myself that it’s evil but I couldn’t talk to anybody about it because I was afraid even my parent couldn’t like me again so I kept it on the low.

I did everything possible to stop this addiction but all failed.

Sometimes I feel a strong energy around me, mostly when am alone and that’s the exact time I’ll start thinking about woman, and this caused me to love porn.


Honestly this hunts me amicably so I decided to have a girlfriend at age 18yrs thinking that will rather help me stop masturbating but it became worst, I even ended up being a womanizer, chasing girls everywhere.

Truth be told, my worst enemy now is Masturbation, I am 28yrs now with a woman and two handsome boys but ridiculously, I still masturbate, it’s eating me up and am getting depressed over this addiction.

Masturbation is reducing me, both physical and spiritually, I feel drained.

Everything is shutting down on me, and I have no one to talk to about this, am really scared my wife will get to know about this and right now things are getting out of hand.

Am facing a lot of trauma, my business isn’t moving anymore and I can’t stop Masturbating.

I can be having sex with my wife and still be masturbating.

This have caused me to have no limit over my sexual life, and whenever am having sex, I feel an extra energy within me that makes me sex for so long without getting tired.


It’s killing me slowly within, right now I’ve developed a waist problem and I don’t know the next damage this will cause me again.


Please everyone here, am pleading you all to help me with a solution, I need help to overcome this, I’ve confessed this to several pastors but couldn’t get any solution……

Please nairalanders, help me.

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You CAN overcome this. Peace!

Mcslize:
Make una shine una eyes. Who is selling rice at 40k? They are selling the ones they brought at that price but normally rice sellers will still be selling at the actual price of 90k. Why are Nigerians so gullible?

Go to the market whether you will see bag of rice being sold 40k by rice sellers.

The question you guys should be asking should be will market women and super markets sell bag of rice for 40k? ABI any time we want to buy rice is it federal government we will be buying from? Can u see that the masses are so foolish and can easily be distracted with things like these that won't have any meaningful effect to price of foods in the market?

If rice price still remains the same in the market, then we the masses are very very foolish to be believing this crook government. Our mumu don do.

Even if you see at 40k, how much is the proposed minimum wage? When can minimum wage buy basic food?

Jflex07:
Lol. So they could reduce the price of rice all these while, but they refused, yet making Nigerians go through so much pain. Our politicians are really wicked and heartless. How does this even get to the common man? I don't trust these governors one bit.

A bag of rice at 40k when they are proposing 70k as wage. So over 50% of salary just to buy rice? A piece of yam is how much again? Full tank of fuel is how much again? Ordinary malaria treatment is how much again? And 70k for an entire month is ideal for a full human?

I thought minimum wage should at least at minimum sort the beneficial out for the month including minimum rent, food, clothing and the likes.

But the best we can do is to celebrate 70k that can't buy a bag of rice?

slim75d:
What is the benefit of the new minimum wage to an unemployed youth like me?
He should use the same effort to reduce fuel price

A bag of rice is how much again? A piece of yam is how much again? Full tank of fuel is how much again? Ordinary malaria treatment is how much again? And 70k for an entire month is ideal for a full human?

I thought minimum wage should at least at minimum sort the beneficial out for the month including minimum rent, food, clothing and the likes.

But the best we can do is to celebrate 70k that can't buy a bag of rice?

You did very great. Do not relent in your pursuit for machine learning and artificial intelligence.

I develop Machine learning and artificial intelligence programs with focus on computational genomics and applications for educational advancement and I can proudly tell you that you don't really need a school for this, all you need is the zeal, persistence, and guide on books to read and online classes to attend. Machine learning demands knowledge of statistics, computer science (programming), mathematics, research capacity, domain knowledge and good story telling skills. These skills cannot be gotten from one class, it requires guidance to know the areas to cover because if you dive in on your own, you will learn things you don't need and probably get tired.

Most of the schools abroad offer courses on this free. I will recommend you begin with codeinplace.stanford.edu, here you will learn Python basics, Conditionals, and control flows, and robotics principle.

I wish you all the best,

Taylor92:
Have y’all not noticed Nairaland mods has refused to push fake Tinubus record to front page?


Rather they’re pushing other pro Tinubu news


Tribalism started on Nairaland


That’s what monopoly of a forum does


If to say another forum like Nairaland dey many people for don commot here


Seun keep romancing news on Tinubus fake and forged certificates


At least all of us dey other social media channels where wey dey get real gist

I will do this by 2025,
God's willing. Things are in place

It's not power that drained him
It's troubled mind.. when all they know is how to glorify in evil and punish citizens
There can never be peace in their heart

Remember, a merry heart is medicine to the bones

I would love to know the supplements your wife took.. my wife is also having PCOS and this is our eight year in marriage, no kids

Concerning your current dilemma, I wont advice an abortion, wait for your wife to put to bed after which you can tell her but disconnect from the side chick and take care of your babies...

The truth will truly hurt your wife, but you coming out of clean will make the difference

@justwise

Moderator, kindly push to front page so we can get more feedback

I'm not sure if relevant authorities are aware of the internal crisis happening there.

TUANKU:
Immigration HQ Sauka...home of bribery and corruption.
Grease their palms with naira and see magic.

It's not even about greasing their palms, the issue is actually internal and has affected one woman that's supposed to travel with her daughter

I have been battling with this issue since last year, my story goes as follows.
I applied for update of my date of birth at Nigerian Immigration headquarters Abuja since first week of December last year (2022) after which I was told the passport will be ready in six weeks, and the sixth week was second week of January this year (2023).

The problem now is that, since that January till now, the contact I have there who has been helping me told me the passport is ready he even sent me evidence but said they cannot print, the reasons he was given was something I couldn't understand, he also told me that no one that applied since last year December has collected their's

Please I want to know if anyone else is experiencing this with me because currently I'm already being affected by this