Thanks to you guys I feel better about myself now. Its good to read that loads of people can feel my worries and reflect with me. In all aspects of my life this is one issue where I lack self esteem but reading all your replies I now know I never should let this issue downgrade me again. 
Am married now with another daughter and my husband treats my first right no complains about that.

I really appreciate all your replies.

The point is Rahman never asks for his daughter. I do the calling several times and sometimes I go through stress to get his number . I always send out her photos through emails without him asking. He does not say anything about her growth or achievements. He hardly replies my mails and when he does is ' feyi am doing fine' u? I try to make him part of her life . To be part of her teenage years but he refuses. not verbally. She has never asked me about her father;not once!
Is it fair? Or is there something I can do to  make him act otherwise? I don't want him coming during his old days like I see in d movies d asking her for forgiveness. I will end up feeling cheated

Dear Nairalanders,
My name is Feyishayo and here's my story.
I had a child 15 years ago for a man 14 years older than me. At my age(32) now have to to conclude that I was abused by this man . Had just finished my secondary education and when I met him and he was my tutor for the upcoming jamb exam. I was not promiscuous( for the judges). I was just a teenager. He de flowered me and though no promises were made I got pregnant. My father insisted I keep the pregnancy even when my mother and elder family members interfered and insisted on an abortion my father refused. I had my baby . The only right thing the concerned man( Rahman) did was acknowledge that the pregnancy is his . He got married to someone else a year after that and has 3 kids with her now. We speak few times a year only via mobile. His not part of my daughter's life . He has never spent a kobo on her , not seen her since she was 4. He lives abroad with his wife. I live abroad myself though in different countries. Everyday I think as though my child is an illegitimate child(she's his first) a bastard! My family and friends tell me otherwise but deep now I feel someone is just not willing to tell me the truth . I spoke with a friend a few months back and we discussed the matter and he was the only person with enough balls to tell me
'Rahman will never be part of your daughter's life. He has his own family and bitter as that might sound you and your daughter aint part of that family',
Nairalanders, I work hard to give my daughter the best education there is. She attends a boarding school in europe and she lacks nothing aside from not knowing her father or father's family. Will I be wrong tomorrow if he ever comes back to want to be part of her life and I refuse? Will I be judged for refusing him access to her? I don't ask him for anything than to be part of her life.

The only fabrication in this post is the names.

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