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We4all:
OP, the only part that aroused my interest was where you stated that your girlfriend is a baby mama. Baby mama to who kwa? Was that statement necessary? Unless you want some resident poknosers to start the bashing.

As for your neighbors, well... there is love in sharing.

Ok. Should I edit it then?

Ok. There's love in sharing. Could u pls share 5k with me? I honestly need it🙏

Natbrowny:
The quiet and easy going types are the types that can easily switch to another personality.

I ain't bragging. But u do that and u'll be regarded even if na only greetings level.
When u see somtin dats not ur concern. Dont react. If dem wan make u yarn. Just drop any short words to escape. Avoid ur usual gatherings, avoid ''broda make we come play ludo na''

One thing is for certain. U'll have peace

Ok. Thanks. You're correct

Pojomojo:
It sounds like you're dealing with a frustrating situation with your neighbors. They're borrowing your belongings, not returning them, and disrupting your daily life.

Key Issues:
1. Lack of respect for boundaries: Your neighbors are not respecting your property or your time.
2. Inconvenience and disruption: Their actions are causing you inconvenience, stress, and disruption to your daily routine.
3. Lack of communication and consideration: They're not communicating with you about when they'll return your belongings or considering how their actions might affect you.

Potential Solutions:
1. Communicate your concerns: Have an open and honest conversation with your neighbors about how their actions are affecting you. Try to use "I" statements instead of "you" statements, which can come across as accusatory.
2. Set clear boundaries: Let your neighbors know what you're willing and not willing to lend, and establish clear expectations for when they should return your belongings.
3. Consider a lending agreement: You could propose a lending agreement that outlines the terms of borrowing, including when items should be returned and in what condition.
4. Reevaluate the relationship: If your neighbors continue to disregard your boundaries and disrespect your property, it may be time to reassess the relationship and consider distancing yourself.

Personal Growth:
1. Assertiveness: Practice being more assertive and communicating your needs clearly.
2. Boundary setting: Establish and maintain healthy boundaries with others.
3. Conflict resolution: Develop skills for resolving conflicts in a constructive and respectful manner.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and consideration. Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself and prioritize your own needs.

Thanks for taking out time out of your busy schedule to speak and convey your thoughts in the most simple, explicit and elaborate terms. You've said it all.

Natbrowny:
One simple tiny step.

Act like a sadist

Most neighbors are users and will complain that you are not a good person when u dnt wanna be used no more

D issue be say una don too play.

In alll d places I've stayed. Omo na boundaries o. D only time wey we dey discuss na when we dey gather nepa money. We are on mature levels, greetings and regards. Thats all.. i no dey smile. People are users and Motherf*ckers will b d first to talk behind ur back if u wanna break dere using cycle

Its not like I play or laugh. I'm just quite and easygoing. However, I'm going with your advice

sisisioge:
Please follow his advise for your own sanity
Tops, they will carry face for you but life will go on. You don't need that kind of stress biko.

If you're determined to be too kind,get them a pressing iron and mortal as gift. If they ask you why,tell them you really do not like sharing things. Issue resolved fa.

God bless you for this advice. Much appreciated 🙏🙏

Money na sand sand

WhiteIverson:
It's simple. Tell them to always return your properties after use. If they don't change, next time when they come to borrow, tell them it's not available.

I remember that year in my lodge, some guys always come to borrow my camp gas and would never return it after use. I was always coming to collect it when I need it.
It was funny because other neighbours thought I was the one going to borrow gas not knowing I was going to retrieve it. Even worse my flat was upstairs and theirs was downstairs, so imagine the waka.

One day I para for them, after that shame no gree them come borrow again.

Honestly, it's annoying

ThugCheetah:
no ss3 student today can explain something like this to you. Ask one to define motion and see how they stare at you like you asked a stupid question. We’re in Trouble

My brother, the traditional place of education in our contemporary society is in grave Danger

In life, one must learn to tolerate people for peace to reign. Though peace is not necessarily the absence of conflict. But managing conflict is crucial and critical to harmonious coexistence amongst people especially your immediate neighbors.
As an introvert, I like being alone and try as much as I can to avoid issues. Whenever I perceive trouble looming, I do everything to avert it. I believe in building good relationships with people cos nobody knows tommorow. Besides, your neighbors are like your security, they help watch over you. In fact they are your first family.
I have a neighbor who is doing pretty better than me. He and his girlfriend(a live-in lover) come to borrow stuffs from me. Sometimes, little money. Most times, household equipments and electrical appliances. But when they do, they fail to return them. As for the little money they come to borrow, they don't return it and I also don't ask. My major issue is my pressing iron and Mortar. Once they come to get my mortar, they don't return it after use. I will have to go get it from them before I can cook. They have NEVER borrowed and returned without me going by myself to collect it back. There are times I go and not meet anyone of them at home, then I get stranded and unable to cook my food. I don't use powdered pepper to cook, it's fresh pepper, onion and crayfish I pound whenever I'm cooking, and sometimes, okpehe. Same issue with the pressing iron. We all know how NEPA operate. Nobody knows when the lights will come on or go off, so whenever there's light, I try to iron a few clothes. But most times, I won't be able to do so because the iron is locked inside their room and they are not home. This attitude of theirs is really pissing me off. Mind you, I don't have any issue giving my things to neighbors. My only issue is why don't they return it after use? These are adults who are way older than me for crying out loud. I'm not good at handling issues with diplomacy whenever I'm angry. I just blow up whenever I've had it to the brim.
There was a day I needed to iron a dress for work, Its a dress code for a particular day. I had returned home late that day and forgot the pressing iron was with me and I slept off. When the light was restored in the middle of the night, I woke up to get the clothes ironed but remembered they had borrowed my iron the previous day. I couldn't go to wake them up that night and before daybreak, NEPA had seized the light. I ended up not using the dress code meant for that day, my boss issued me a query and also fined me for flouting the rule.
As I write, my mortar is still with them and has being with them for a week now. I'm planning on retrieving it soon and once I do, I will never give them again. Leaving the mortar with them means they know I don't cook always and I see it as me allowing them to know too much of me. I have a girlfriend who's a baby mama that comes around once in a while and she's really not happy about this. She said it's because I'm too gentle and soft that's why I'm being treated this way.

I feel disrespected. How can someone borrow your properties and end up privatizing and personalizing same? Nawao.

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Smartwave:
She is still following the Pastor instructions

Meaning she was financially induced by the pastor to say what she said?

This will go down history as the most protracted supremacy saga between a sitting governor and his immediate predecessor

Correspondence:
The next news will be SIM FUBARA IMPEACHED!

In your dream?

This wahala no too much?

johnog4sure:
hahahahah my level? u would not want to be in my position bro, I owe Polaris bank almost 5M, I am owing loan apps about 300k with their respective interests, I am about to take another 1 M loan from my office and another 3M loan from a business partner. Stakes are higher responsibilities mounting

Why not help me with something, no matter how minute? I need ur support pls. Poverty is in levels just like wealth too.

AgroBizSolution:
😀🙆 Such grammar almost always scatter high school pupils' head. Something they should have explained in simple English and terms and even use our local language to break down. 🤷😀

I swear. Then the pupils will be clapping for the teacher thinking the teacher is good.

johnog4sure:
More reasons not to be poor, even nature hates poverty

I pray I get to ur level someday.
I currently owe a debt of 30k and I'm being harassed on an hourly basis. I'm being threatened arrest. I've lost my peace of mind

adekolaelect:
she made the Testimony to attract the followers of the church to believe in the Miracle of that Pastor and church. She did that in favour of the pastor and the church which she can't do without the consent of the pastor to Waooo their member in other to bring more income for the church and its owner.

So why is she saying she acted alone?

Congratulations to her. Wish her more years.

She used to be decent and modest in her movies those days.

Why should the prophet(so-called) be arrested?
The lady said she acted alone. She made an untrue testimony

Alarming!

We are in a very serious trouble.

Congratulations my Uncle's uncle

Things dey happen!

Reno, you'll soon die on top El-Rufai matter.
Now, no be PETER OBI again.

Who ordained this man a Pastor?

The sun is almost always vertically overhead at the tropic of cancer and Capricorn leading to solstice and equinoxes

My SS1 teacher of Geography those days.. chaii. Secondary sch sweet o

Trumped up showoff

This is painful to hear. Let's try and reach out to the poor old widow please.

I think it's high time Tinubu summoned all serving security chiefs and even the non-serving ones. The insecurity is becoming something else. It is unbecoming of Nigeria, the supposed Giant of Africa

Donald Trump is a Mafian.
He's too too rugged to have sailed.
Bleep oo

SultanOfAbia:
So Aboki dey go University??

Nobody in the entire southeast is as intelligent as the late Maitama Sule.

timilehin007:
like they should all go pissed themselves off huh?

😆😆😆

This is a season of renaming.
Tinubu will soon rename Nigeria.
Anyway, I love Maitama sule. He was a very sound and vocal voice

Wahala no too much?