THEY Bleep their brains out and start a family.

''A lizard in the pool might not be a crocodile in a lake'', Guy,I got to agree, it depends on your game.From that your name,its hard to believe if you were really successful with women in 9ja before coming to ''uncharted'' waters.Jus know that your white girls are more sexually liberated than their black counterparts and much more likely to be receptive and even make the first move.Your GAME gotta be tight,dude and CONFIDENCE is the tool.70% is BODY LANGUAGE, 20% IS VOICE TONE,actual words is jus 10%.Apart from bus stops,check out Malls,hair and nail salons,Art shows,Tanning salons,Gyms,Colleges,Yoga,AOL, etc.
   Notice the situation and approach when she's not likely to feel ''rudely interrupted''.You must know what to say and EXACTLY how you are going to say it.Remember to LOOK at her when talking,unless you are in a loud bar or club, in that case lean as close as you can to her ear and speak.Try and eliminate your nervous ticks,stilted body language,fast movements,stammering,fast blinking,looking around and any other signs that you're uncomfortable.Its ok to PAUSE,it builds anticipation.
    U understand,guy abi na gay?Make it a point to ''scope'' at least 3 or more white girls daily,since practice makes perfect.Develop a crocodile skin to All REJECTIONS and say NEXT when you get one, The reason I said that is because not all girls u meet might be avalaible, some married,engaged,in a relationship,lesbians,pyschos,or jus not in the mood.Approximately 5000 girls are having their 18yr birthday today and every other day so you have a wide range to pick from.
   Remember,most of the white girls love the ''MYTH'' of the black man,u know,the KONGA,TONGOLO.KOKO(maybe too much porn videos) and its up to you to present your game in line with that.From experience,you'll find them toasting you without too much words from your side.Make sure you're damn good in bed(import BURANTASHI or SKUNK from 9ja if u aint sure) and they'll tell their friends who'd like to confirm .

capricon here, born 31st dec, guess mom jus couldnt wait till new year's day b4 popping me out into d world.its all good though,

YEA,MAN, LETS APPRECIATE OUR ''FAT ''/PLUMPY MAMASITAS/, THEY R PART OF OUR CULTURE N TRADITION, REMEMBER OUR CALABAR GIRLS USED TO GO TO FATTENING HOUSES B4 THEIR WEDDING TO LOOK N FEEL MORE LUSCIOUS AND ENTICING TO THE GROOMS, iF NOT FOR WESTERN IDEAS TODAY,IT WUD'VE STILL BEEN THE TREND,

GUYS,GUYS,GUYS, TSK,TSK,TSK,TSK, ALMOST ALL THE TOASTING ON THIS POST SUCKS!! .TELLING A GAL U JUS MET THAT SHE'S AN ANGEL,SHE'S A QUEEN AND ALL THAT SHIT ONLY GIVES AWAY YOUR ''ALPHA MALE'' POWER TO HER,WHICH SETS U UP TO BEING REJECTED BY D SMART N SECURE ONES.ITS LIKE HANDING HER UR BALLS AND BEGGING HER TO TAKE IT,HOPING SHE WONT BURST IT, THATS WHAT U CALL A WUSSY APPROACH,
YOU COULD USE THE 3 MINUTE EMAIL-PHONE NUMBER TECHNIQUE FOR STARTERS, JUS WALK UP TO HER WITH A SLIGHT SMILE,CONFIDENTLY LOOKING DEEP INTO HER EYES AND SAY, HI, I NOTICED YOU STANDING/SITTING,WALKING ETC, OVER HERE AND I JUS WANT TO KNOW, ARE YOU SINGLE?IF SHE SAYS YES(SHE ALREADY KNOWS WHERE UR COMING FROM)OR NO,YOU REPLY ''COOL,LETS MAKE FRIENDS, WE COULD GET TOGETHER FOR SOME FUN AND STIMULATING CONVERSATION '', INTRODUCE URSELF AND ASK FOR HER NUMBER,
IF UR BODY LANGUAGE,VOICE TONE N DELIVERY IS OKAY,U WONT HAVE MUCH PROBLEMS, JUS 3 MINUTES INTERACTION AND CALL HER D NEXT DAY TO SET UP A MEETING, U CAN ALSO SAY''HI,I NOTICED U OVER HERE AND I JUS WANT TO LET U KNOW DAT U HAVE A LOVELY SMILE/EYES/ENERGY ABOUT U,WHICH MAKES ME WANT TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT U, MY NAME'S -------------,AND U?, THEN GET D DIGITS,
AT LEAST,GUYS, ITS BEEN WORKEING FOR ME SINCE MY DAYS IN UNILAG, P.S, IF SHE'S ATTRACTED TO U,NO PROBS,U'LL GET HER DIGITS, IF SHE AINT,THANK HER AND SAY ''NEXT'', THERE R LOTS OF WOMEN OUT THERE THAT R SINGLE AND AVAILABLE FOR U, DONT JUS GET HUNG UP ON ANY ONE WOMAN'S REJECTION,OK, NA FACT OF LIFE, STALLION STUD

Dr Tee,I can assure you dat there's nothing wrong in dating fat or plumpy girls, I think as African men,we tend to appreciate our ''African mamas''more than our western counterparts who tend to prefer the slim,anoxeric or ''lepa types, Nothing wrong as long as there r not to d extremes , you get more flesh on the a s s n b o o b s to hold with plump ladies,doggystyle from d backview is darn impressive,everly wet,moist n juicy(molten lava) instead of hitting bony angles with d lepas, most of them are able to last more in bed due to their weight than their slim sistas, Like adeboo says though, ''different strokes for different folks

I got a question from a Nairaland friend on how to keep a woman interested, Seems he was getting some problems getting his lady/ladies attracted to him, Well,I got some tips to help him though, So,my guy,

I personally think:

1) Most guys "settle" for the women that they wind
up with in long-term relationships.

2) When you begin to understand women and have
more success, you start to realize that MOST women
ARE NOT the type that you'd be HAPPY with long-
term.

3) When you have gone through the process of
learning how to be more successful with women and
make them feel that magical emotion called
ATTRACTION, and then you finally DO meet a woman
you really like, you have to handle the situation
in the right way if you want to keep her.

You've asked me a whole bunch of specific
questions, like how long should you wait to call,
whether to call or email, tone, etc.

It sounds to me like you actually LIKE this
particular girl, and would like to pursue this in
a "let's see if this turns into something" kind of
way.

With that in mind, I think you need to realize
a few things about what a woman EXPECTS you to
do,
If you're dealing with an attractive woman,
then you must remember that you're not the first
guy who has ever been interested in her.

In fact, she's probably approached all the time
by guys, and she probably has a lot of experience
with guys who want to "get involved" with her.

This is one of those funny situations that
works in kind of a backwards way (not unlike many
other aspects of male/female relationships,
actually).

If you meet an attractive girl, you can be
pretty sure of a few things:

1) She gets approached by men, one way or another,
all the damn time.

2) 99% of the men that she meets and dates wind up
following her around like puppies, either from
the beginning or eventually.

3) When a guy acts "too nice - too soon", she sees
this as a sign of neediness and weakness, and
she's repelled by it.

I realize that this is going to sound like some
kind of bizarre Zen self-help B.S., but sometimes
you have to push things away from you gently in
order to bring them to you.

And beautiful women fall into this category.

Lemme ask u a question,

"How do you make someone want something?"

Have you ever thought about that concept?

Why is it that people WANT things in the first
place, and how can you actually MAKE someone want
something?

When you think about the things that YOU want,
and then ask yourself WHY you want those things,
you'll begin to realize why this is such a
profound question.

Why is it that Coke has dominated the cola
market when we all know that Pepsi wins the taste
tests?

Why is it that people in Los Angeles buy so
many four-wheel drive SUVs?

Why is it that some nightclubs keep people
outside in line for hours when there's plenty of
room inside the club?

Well, I obviously can't go into an in-depth
explanation of why these things are so, but I
think it's obvious that:

1) Most of the things that people "want" aren't
for the most logical reasons.

2) We humans only "want what we don't have", and
once we get what we want, we quickly get bored.

3) Even knowing that something is readily
available to us makes us lose interest.

So why such a long explanation?

Why not just tell you when to call her, what to
say, and what tone to use?

Because even if you know the exact right words
to say, and the exact right time to say them, the
woman you're talking to will still be able to pick
up what you're REALLY thinking if you don't
understand how and why women become attracted to
men.

Here are a few ways to make a person want
something:

1) Create a challenge.

2) Give her a little, then lean back.

3) Give her the gift of missing you.

4) Be unpredictable.

When you create a challenge, you really ENGAGE
a woman's mind and emotions.

Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men that are
push-over Wuss Bags. Women feel ATTRACTION for men
who are a CHALLENGE.

When you give a woman a little bit, then lean
back, then you set up a "Hey, I want more of that"
situation.

If you just keep pouring on the attention and
giving her everything she wants, you'll become
uninteresting.

When you give a woman the "Gift of missing
you", you realize that for women, thinking about,
missing, and anticipating the next time is often
even more powerful than the actual EXPERIENCE of
"the next time".

Men often get insecure, and feel that they have
to call and keep an eye on a woman all the time.
This is a huge mistake. It says all the wrong
things.

When you're UNPREDICTABLE, you do something
that is almost MAGIC, when a man understands how
to make a woman feel ATTRACTION, then he doesn't
do things that are PREDICTABLE, women will tend to
think about him ALL THE TIME.

Things that are predictable don't require much
thought. They're uninteresting and boring.

Things that are UNPREDICTABLE, on the other
hand, require a LOT of thought. Unpredictable
things are FASCINATING to people, especially
women.

What makes a movie lame?

Predictability.

What makes a movie great?

A well-written story that ISN'T predictable.

Predictability and BORING-NESS are the enemies
of ATTRACTION.

Here are a few thoughts on the questions you
asked:

1) If you call her the next day, be cool about it.
Don't try to be too "suave", and don't try to set
up another date immediately. Call and say, "Hey,
what's up?" Make a little small talk, then hang
up. Lean back, and she'll be thinking about you
for the next several days (if you didn't act like
a dumb-ass the night before, that is).

2) If you email, keep it light as well. In this
day and age, I find it natural to email or call.

3) Your TONE should be cool, calm, laid back,
busy, and upbeat. Never complain about things,
whine, or act like you're in a bad mood and need
attention.

4) Be very cool about this. Don't act like you
might want to get married within 90 days, or like
you've met the woman of your dreams. Give her some
space, and the gift of missing you.

5) For the first 10 dates or so, don't see her
more than once or twice a week. Stay busy with
your life, and always have things going on.

6) Until you decide that you really like a
particular woman and want to "settle down" with
her, or have a long-term relationship, don't focus
too much energy on the relationship. If you're
dating other women, don't stop. When you focus all
of your energy and time on a woman that you've
just met, it often creeps them out and makes them
run.

Use these concepts HOWEVER you decide to
communicate with her.