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@Nairalanders,
@ Babyosisi, spoilt, Red_lips, everyone,
your posts encourages me , knowing there are people out there who really understand my situation and are ready to share some ideas.I am getting new ideas from all your posts on how to handle this issue and i will try them out. i don't mind more posts, i really want my marriage to work.Thanks.

Yes i work but my hubby would not take money from me, men's ego, u know.

It's not like he doesn't ve money to rent an apartment, just thinks it's a waste of money instead he would invest the money he would use as rent in shares, that is exactly the problem.

What he doesn't realize is that the share certificates at home cannot make me happy and if things continue the way they are now, i might not be there with him when he is enjoying the dividends so he shld invest in our happiness now and when we have happily settled in our own home, we can still buy more shares or what do u guys think?

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Tunde,you know we are just newly married,I would hate to have a strained relationship with mama,I love her just like my own mother.
I feel we need to get our own place,it's not that I dislike your family,not at all.I do love them with all my heart but we need to be independent as we build our young family.
Please think about this honey,this would mean a lot to me,I love you baby!!"

I ve tried that several times but it didn't work, he said, i don't like his family, which isn't true, i was very close to his mum but when i found out that she was very manipulative, i withdrew a little and that was when the whole trouble started. My hubby has decided to move us out of there, when? i don't know and they are all very mad at me and saying all saorts of things and my hubby is not happy about moving out, he said he just wants to do it because the heat btwn his mum and i is getting hotter although it's a cold war with no face to face confrontation, aparently, my hubby tells his mum that i am not happy and thinks she is interfering too much in our affairs. This woman is so sweet on the outside but wants everyone to bow to her and she feels she has everone's interest at heart afterall she is more experienced and knows her son better. But she fails to realize that there are somethings i ve to find out about my hubby myself. She feels she is a perfect mother in law so i don't have any reason to be unhaappy because she manipulates so subtly & sweetly  that before u actually know what she is up to, u have fallen into her trap.

It's so difficult to deal with her because she will tell u the nasiest things in the nicest way, she really looks harmless but a green snake under green grass, that was how she decieved me that she wasn't the troublesome type but alas,that is very wrong.

I really agree with everyone of you, i think you really get the picture and your responses are really true.we were not meant to stay this long, just for a few months i was told, never knew i was tricked. Anyway, i am praying seriously and trying to keep my cool with them but at times it really gets bad. I am still trying to convince him why there is a need for us to get our own apartment but they think as per he is the first son, the house belongs to him so why go and rent an apartment when he is the landlord.

Help! My husband is so attached to his mother and his family.

We have been married for over a year and we are still living in the family house. He prefers to please everyother person in the house other than me.

His mother gets in the way everytime and all we do is quarrel over one family issue or the other. I am so depressed and unhappy. I am not enjoying my marriage. Does he really love me. Please, I need your advices.

@nikynike

u no resemble who dey Texas o! If na AJ city u dey no wahala cos u resemble dem well well.