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blackpanthar:
COLE? wow, you really should calm down o, lot's of promising young people like you make mistakes with relationships that they regret later, I feel you can still work things out with cole.

Asides that, I do hope you read relationship books or at least watch people like kinglsey okonkwo on youtube because he teaches mature stuff on relationships.

I was just wondering if you have tried putting down your thoughts and fantasies in written words.
See, stop for a moment and evaluate your journey in life, relationships are very key to making progress, you can not be an ISLAND for too long.

Why not get a friend that can listen to your weird moments and help you balance it with reality. I mean a FEMALE friend.

I do hope you write about what's up with you in your nairaland diary often so you offload the stress.

falcon01:
you are not OK, dont listen to him, You need therapy, The people in your head grew too that's a serious issue right there, it's not like you ain't attached to the world, but you have a whole new world In your head which is not normal. normally by 12 13 this Imaginary people start disappearing but yours grow older. You need to talk to someone.

blackpanthar:
you are perfectly OK,
You actually didn't become like this INSTANTLY.... it grew gradually over time.

See, you are evolving and IT IS NOT OVER YET.

You need to really make new friends and chat with people who have similar or different experiences, all I'm saying is YOU NEED BETTER EXPOSURE.

Before you hit 28 or get married, I strongly believe you will be BALANCED.

Time management is also another issue for you, so you need a guide or mentor to help you through this PHASE.

Your Impulsive HOT TEMPER can be altered with music and calm response.

You are simply GROWING out from your "own world".

Just allow others into your life and you will see things differently gradually.
Storm665 pls cut off from STAN, stick with COLE and be faithful.

Just let the past be the past.... MOVE ON TOTALLY and live a FULL and FRESH life.

exynos:
How is your Life with Christ?

The problem you're facing may not be ordinary.

blackpanthar:
you are perfectly OK

Heartbender:
That guy is smart. He'll be the third entanglement

Rukkydelta:
How are you sure Stan doesn't have another girl?
Because his attitude to commit, speaks something fishy to me.

The truth is Stan doesn't love you, he just uses you as his emotional rock, someone to lay his frustrations of what transpired between him and his ex.
The truth is both guys are likely not your life partner. You are still young and will definitely meet other amazing men in your journey of life, so buzz up and ditch Stan from your life cos the dude is so immature and manipulative trying to use the emotions you have for him against you.

I know it's going to be hard cause he is your first love plus the one that deflowered you and you may feel he has a part of you because of that, but the truth he can't hold a part of you if you set yourself free for him.

Out of sight is out of mind so cut off every form of communication with the Stan guy for your own sanity.

For Cole, you don't know much about him but I will say you should give him a try because he seems to be more matured and know what he wants from you.

My final advice is to build yourself
Focus on your education and try to groom yourself to be a better woman. Don't carry love and relationship so much in head cos it might ruin a part of you.

People fall in love and also fall out of love so don't hold feelings so dear. Remember you can control who you love and who you don't
Date but with a sense, commit only to the one who wants to be committed and knows what he wants.
I am team celibate though but I will advise if you want to be having sexual intercourse, be sure the guy is into you for real because there are many sex-starved guys out there.

I wish you the best dear.

SaintXto:
Sms your number to this number (08173953114)

I copied paste this to my gf... She gave me her option and advice but insist on speaking with you... Want ya to call her asap...

baralatie:
my issue is Feb 2020 This is when there was lockdown because of covid 19.
and a guy called you over from where you are residing to crash at his place for sex.OK

Thank God you are alive and well

trueguy573:
The longer you have to wait for something, the more you will appreciate it when it finally arrives. Girl, you shouldn't rush into romantic relationships especially at your age right now. Your priority should be your education and your future. Don't damage your future on the bed of emotional gratification. Your ill relationship is a dust to your eye, covering the bright future you have. Let both men go. They are just using you. God knows who belongs in your life and who doesn’t. Trust and let go. Whoever is meant to be there, will still be there. Moreover, Never let your feelings get too deep, people can change at any moment.

fayded:
calm down..
Skul never start yet na why all ds things dey happen.
When skul start and u start interacting and meeting people, you'd be busy.
Shey na 100lvel u Dey?? And unizik?? Calm down, stress go reset u.
What course u studying though?

DemonInvoker:
Matters of the Heart are resolved by the Heart.
That's why the Bible says we should Guide our Hearts with all diligence.
Wether you like it or not Okafu's Law must take effect at one point or the other.
Na so e be.
Just free your mind and fvck to your satisfaction then when you start to feel more matured and start to think with your head.
After all na your Heart you don dey follow since.
There should be no Regrets.