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i am not a boy
i am 28 years old
she is 24 years old

bujebudanu1:
How old are you boy?

How old is the girl?

please advice me and mind my vocabulary

i have been dating this girl for 5 years now

when we started it was all lovey-dovey you know always around me she would be at my place for
long we would have fun no sex as she was a virgin
now during that period, she cheated i didn't take it serious because i tot she was young i am her first boyfriend
and of cos, she would want to explore and lastly because she was a virgin
now i caught her she promised it won't repeat itself only for me to catch her again

in fact, I confronted the guy,
the 3 of us and i asked her who does she want here she said me
the guy even asked him who is he to you (that is me)
she replied, my boyfriend
he asked her who am i to you she said i don't know.
life went on we continued me and the guy part ways.

i so much love this girl with all my heart
we attend the same church my family knows her family knows me
everyone around the neighborhood knows us and are praying for us to finally get married
now fast forward to now

i got her a job in my company.
we had sex she started becoming so beautiful and hot
everyone wants a taste of her lol
now a guy came into the picture

the both of them were so close everyone at the office where complaining guy becarefull guy becarfull
i called her and asked her hope nothing is wrong she said is should ignore the rumors that she can never love him
that he his too small for her, that what can he offer her
i said okay but please try and avoid him .based on trust i ignored
my job took me out of the office for a 4-month project outside lagos
she called meone day telling me she is falling for this said coulleague that i should please forgive her
that she just find her self loving hm.

i got angry and told her why would she allow such happen and i also adviced her to stay away from him
as attention is the bedrock of all dis.she thank me and ask for forgiveness and we moved on

now because of that incident i frown at her anytime I see the 2 of dem or a call from him
or anything about him .we quarrel, we fight, we settle based on this guys matter

hmmmmmmmm ...

a bit about my self i have shown love to her, pushed her to be a better person
sent her to training but i ensured they are not with my money so i don't become posssesive
i either tell her to do some jobs and she den use the money that comes out of it for training
i am always loving fun to be with and she too.

now back to the story
she just called me out of the blue moon that she was pregnant
i suspected foul play becos i started having some kind of feelings lately and started making sure i do not release inside of her.
and take note of when we have sex. and this sad month she got pregnant we didn't have sex because anytime i touch her she doesn't want it
whenever she comes to place all she does is sleep.i would challenge her she adjust we would talk for sometime
she would sleep.

now she said she doesn't want the baby ,n for me too its kind of too sudden even when we have plans of doing intro by september, and marriage by November
so we started the plans of removing the pregnancy i.e me and her
den the worst happened

i came across a WhatsApp chat with her and the said guy
she begging the guy to love her back that she wished she met him before me
and the guy said hence i am in the picture he cannot continue with the feelings
and this happened after i created a scene in the area where the guy lived that he was a distraction to my relationship
becos at this point i was still thinking they were just friends you know all does guys that would be friends with a girl just for chit chat
that was what i tot about them

only for me to get to know he was actually the owner of the pregnancy I was not surprised because I felt foul play and I was glad that at least
I got to know this.

please, guys advice me
feel free to say anything u like
i don't know what to do she was supposed to come over to my place after the abortion.
please advice me

we the same company with me and everybody knows us together i can't put up with the shame or disgrace
i intend telling her to resign or i tell her parent all that has happened
what do you guyz think