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NoToPile:
I know it's painful for you that someone you squeezed out and gave something out of the very little you had to at least help her stand her feet is now ignoring your calls simply because it is assumed it because of the 50k you are calling. Even if she doesn't have the money can't she just say it and stop ignoring your calls.

But It's better you are learning this now some learnt the very hard way at the ripe old age.

Since she's not picking stop calling, and for the youngest sis dothe little you can do to help her stand on her feet once you are financially balanced.

I am not surprised she's not even supporting the girl with small change, it's all about sacrifice, some people don't know what it means, you did it for her, she might not do it for either you or your sister just understand that, she might not be a bad person, shes just not wired for such.


I hope you bounce back soon.

Sure I will,the God that brought me this far will not stop here by his grace.
I was just 5 when we lost mom and dad and she was 3 and our last born was just 3months old imagine the condition all the way and now she is 21 I expected her to be my back my bone in this life of ours so we can grow up together helping each other but since it's like this I will put her aside and focus on become a better person while I do my possible best for our last born.

MrBrownJay1:
it doesnt matter whether you are an orphan or from an extended family... you have to stop expecting people to do what YOU want them to do with their finances. she has her own life to live, her own issues, her own wahala to deal with... and if she decides she cant help you then so be it. see as you are hellbent into believing that she MUST help you by fire or by force?!?! go put that negative energy on the dude who empregnated you instead, HE should be the one you turn to and DEMAND he does something, not your sister. she said she aint go it and cant help you, and that should be the end of the story.

stop making plans on other's people pockets, just because you put your own self into some trouble! your misplaced hormones are acting up.

no wonder people dont want to talk to you or answer your calls, when you reason the way you do!

I don't know your area of study based on education if it based on counceling or law you are not doing well at all.

My husband has arranged to get me some money to start up with again because he started the first that the unfortunate person made away with.
My reason here is hear people's opinions on what could made her act this way to me and her own younger sis whom she has refused to help too.
All your comments are based on why I got pregnant for the guy in the first place and this same person has been there for the both of through the whole time besides not all successful couple start their life with wedlock especially the less privileged like me #all fingers are not equal we may grow up big tomorrow and wedding is not age limited.

Pls come up with a better opinion not blames.
She is still my sister I can't just forget her like that rather I will live her to do what she thought is good for her. No one knows tomorrow she may come to need my help and I will be limited which I have never done to her
For once in our lives that's it

TheWolfen:
Hmm.
Don't put any expectations on your anyone for they only humans and you should always expect humans to act like human so you won't be surprise by any of their act.
It is hard to fault your sister even with the little information you provided but I think you should focus to get help elsewhere.
May God see you through

I ain't puting any expectations on her,I have my business that I am doing just that the unfortunate person came and made away with my money and more over it's this same guy that am pregnant that start the business for me without my #5 on all the whole expenses and it's now from profit I was able to there for her all through but now am down and she refused to help me or even my last sibling because I have been there for the two of em still she got this extent of earn some money per month at least she should try to help to reduce my worries. Am not really make it compulsory she must help beside my guy has made request from his new job to get at least 300k for me to start up with again.

greenmonk:
I just wonder how new generation of Nigerians reason or you just want to be woke. She laboured to train her younger sibling even when she had nothing and she didn't frown at her lifestyle but when she's hit by adversity her sister remembers that she has her own problems and you people are here justifying her selfishness.
Op, I pray that you find the help you're looking for. Just forget you have any siblings but also try to acquire some skills even on part-time basis to ensure that you are protected from the current situation in future.

You are with me perspectively. I wanted her to be somebody my heart would be like a house without windows and doors so we will be able to push further but her is so deep that she even don't care about our last sibling and she knew how life has been rough to us as orphans without help just this guy, he is like God sent to me.

bigjackass:
It's very possible that she doesn't have 50k to give you. Infact I don't expect her to have. Because 50k is a meagre salary and she has been working for just 6 months. It will take being extremely stingy to herself for a woman to have any savings on 50k salary. Feeding alone will consume more than 30k and that is with plenty management. Daily commuting, clothes, skin, hair, airtime and data, and so on.

What if I said I still do all this till last month before she stopped picking up my calls still thesame last month somebody on my POS business made a way with my money.

She doesn't pay for accommodation she is living with a family member where I was before meeting my husband.and this month my last born asked her for just 2k and she refused saying she does not have isn't this enough to think other wise.

MrBrownJay1:
so now for this above reason, you believe that your sister must bend over backwards and kill herself because of your issues?!

in life, NEVER EVER expect people to be you, they will always be THEMSELVES!!! i am sorry you had to learn the hard way, now stop wasting time expecting nonsense of others and SORT YOUR OWN LIFE OUT!

You are always in the wrong side side you seem never to under what it means to be ophan without family help just the three of us and grandma, I expect more from her than any other person because only me can do it all...this is it

baby124:
I know it hurts but just let her be. Why don’t you acquire a skill of your own on the side now that you have the time? You did your best for your sis to land on her feet but you don’t know what she’s struggling with. When people are working hard and earning they make plans for their money you know. You can’t come from no where and suddenly put your burdens on them. 50k is not really so much in a place like Lagos. She may not know how to say no because, you think she owes you. Give her time.

6months of working for 50k dos not mean she has 300k. Won’t she survive? Her expenses may cut the cash she has down to like 150k or even less. I hope you know? That is even if they are paying her full salary. Give her time to land on her feet dear. It’s only you and her other sibling she has in this world.

Also try to ensure your boyfriend does right by you, like marriage. Your other sibling, try to help that one too to get a skill. I know it’s a thankless job and yoU are feeling used by this sibling but trust me, you are doing the best thing. In future you really don’t want them as responsibilities on your head. God bless and reward you my dear. You have tried for a 24yr old.

Get your skill, start working and send yourself to school. You seem very smart, many people older than you cannot even accomplish what you have at 24, wow. You will be fine in life. This is nothing, don’t dwell on it, she will reach out to you soon. Work on improving yourself so you can better yourself.

You got all wrong.
I wasn't depending on her. Like I said in the write up, I only ask her once for money after then I have been trying to reach her to know about her well being she doesn't pick my calls any more get it, it isn't about money mainly

Kobojunkie:
I don't think your sister abandoned you. She probably just does not want you putting your burdens on her and for good reason.

You choosing to get pregnant without first having adequate savings to handle your emergencies is your problem and headache. She probably does not even see why you would do such a thing when you all have no one to fall back on. I say you work on resolving your issue between you and your boyfriend.

As for the issue your sister has with you. Somehow I suspect she does not approve of either your relationship or even your pregnancy. Ask her..

What options does an orphan with out family help has? And this guy is everything a lady would want from a man.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think your sister abandoned you. She probably just does not want you putting your burdens on her and for good reason.

You choosing to get pregnant without first having adequate savings to handle your emergencies is your problem and headache. She probably does not even see why you would do such a thing when you all have no one to fall back on. I say you work on resolving your issue between you and your boyfriend.

As for the issue your sister has with you. Somehow I suspect she does not approve of either your relationship or even your pregnancy. Ask her..

I doubt because she already has a guy she is dating and she never allowed me to know that guy still date.

MrBrownJay1:
stop making plans on other people pockets...your sista said she aint got it, why dont you believe her, instead of thinking that she MUST help you by fire or by force...?! SOLUTION: focus on the main issue at hand and SORT YOUR LIFE OUT!

My sister is no other person to me.
This guy has been the source of my being able to care for my sister while on her skill aquisition.

Animegirl:


Some people forget that life isn't bed of roses, at some point in our lives we need helping hands.

Even if your sister can't help but for the sake of the unborn child at least let her assist. I'm not saying she is obligated but I hope she as compassion on you.

But OP, the man who impregnated you should take responsibilities of everything concerning you, even though things are hard. Both of you should sort out plans na.

He left his old job and got a new one this year... He has been my Piller all along. He is even the reason why she got the tailoring job and he still gave me the 300k that somebody I employed ran away with... We lack family help

Where have I gone wrong?
We are 3 sisters all orphan both mum and dad gone, I and my last born was brought up by grand ma.
At some point I realized that grandma is getting old I have grown up and able to hustle to support grandma so I moved to Lagos left behind my last born with grand ma and the one after me went to be with a family member in calaba.
Am 24, second 21 last is 19
I start hustling to help pay fees for that last born and at a point my second sister had to come to Lagos because I was able to get a place to stay with my guy so she came to be with my mother's brother that I was living with before. They only got her accommodation all other expenses are on me clothing, pocket money,skill aquisition fee and damages (tailoring) in short I was there like a mother just to make our life won't be as worst. After she graduated form learning she stayed back at her boss fashion design shop and don't get paid so I fought with her to look for a job with her skills at start doing at least it may either be a daily, weekly or monthly payment but something will be coming in for her too in order to reduce my expenses on her and fortunately WE got one 50k per month at the age 21 isn't it enough? At first I got pregnant for my guy and I told my sister she acted like it's non of her business and never congrats me or my guy.
I was into POS and after 6months in her employment my employee made a way with my money worth 350k and I got broke.
And my guy just left his old job for a new one and things where not really in line for me and my I looked around to see if I can get help or loan to restart my business but all efforts falls in vain so I turn to my own blood sis to request 50k to add to my capacity to start up with something she turned me down saying she didn't have anything to afford after 6month of 50k per month and ever since then she refused to pick my calls even with the intentions calling to know how she's doing she desists from picking my calls.

Your opinion pls
I didn't offend her in anyways and I have asked her on several meetings to know what her problem is but she always says nothing to me.

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goshikid:
You did well my guy, na jealousy go kill am,
Make i no lie you bros, you deserved better hand shake, the reason why she come meet you na because say her relationship with that guy don crash So babe want use you adjust body. She no sabi say you don wise up

beer or harbal origin?

GoodHardDick:
OP, my real nigga, you're an OG.

Nice one bro. You're smart and knows how to play the game very well.

Lagos has it way of blending it's occupants so I got blended too I no longer used to be her village guy with low mentality based on say I lover her.

Ahmed0336:
Na man you be. Thank God you are not a SIMPle man

It's a long story, the whole thing happened between 3year and I was applying wisdom all through. At a point my parents and siblings thought I was not mentally ok because they have heard a lot about the girl and have warned me but love didn't allow me to pay attention.

@my ex, we started dating in the middle of 2013 when I was about graduating from tertiary education same year she gained entrance to tertiary, the love was sweet and fresh as we water it to remain fresh and growing as well until she resumes and started attending to her classes.
At first she told me one of her lecturer is asking her out I told her if she respects and value what we share she should be able to handle it in a polite way that won't affect her education.
At some point it became multiple lecturers and some students I got angry and told her not to tell me anything about who ever asked her out if she can't handle then it's better she stops telling (I won't fight because of women is my vow). She said ok...

Getting to 200L she asked for money for fees and accommodation of which I was able to afford my capacity to her and she complained not enough and I just moved to Lagos after a year in the village without income I really don't have enough still.

She said since you are not able to pay for the accommodation she will squirt with a friend so I said it's fine that way at list it's manageable not knowing it's one of those guys asking her out she intends to go stay with and she thought I won't know base on distance relationship (kogi-lagos)
She went ahead to be the guy and I have eyes on her in and out of the school which are my friends from home,after some months my friends feeds me with a lot of her doings which is bad and against our relationship and when ever I traveled home she plays along like nothing happened I investigated and found out that even after school tha guys parents knew her as their wife to be and has even gone for introduction...

Me as a Lagos guy I don wise up but I didn't let her know that I already knew what's up I come dey play along too its my time play game..
While playing along I met a pretty girl young, respectful, God fearing in fact a wife material in Lagos of which I don't believe I can come across in Lagos and she got pregnant for me so fortunately my sisters wedding came up and I had to travel with my wife the village on getting to the village she (ex)was already at my parents house waiting to meet me and she had no idea that I have moved on to the extent of even expecting a blessing from God(baby).
So she came to huge on sighting me alone but I gave her a hand shake talk and dismiss the second day I introduced my wife to her,her to my wife and she was really shocked,after the wedding i moved back lag with my wife and ever since then she has been on my neck saying that I should choose between her and my pregnant wife that she will be able to settle things out with her guy(dump) within a month if I should choose.

Pls guys am not asking for any advice but
My question is hope I haven't done anything to offend her because am surely moving on with the mother of unborn child.

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