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Iffa hear say na her breast be that... Na her kneels be dat joor

If d guy's face dey like this when he dey kiss only God know how e go dey when he wan cum

Nothing truer can be said! Op you just stated d undeniable facts.

More than 80% of Nigerian University lecturers deserve serious beating... Them too dey overdo themselves

Buhari is a silent achiever

My reaction to anything that has to do with Buhari

NwaAmaikpe:



Her determination is to be admired but this is such a waste of good certificate.
Her school fees is also good money down the drain.

She should just become a horror movie actress because no employer will hire a staff with such a mutilated, freak-of-nature-like face.

You are a stupid old fool..
I only blame doz pple dat keep liking ur useless posts nd comments dats what's giving you the guts to keep posting and commenting thrash

Toluensdollars:
I understand ur feelings very well and have ones been in dat situation before. let me outline d reasons y u are feeling dis way to u and then tell u d way out. D very first reason of u feeling dis way is just becos u are so much in luv with and u also have no other or don't wish to cheat on her, it practically leaves u in a state whereby u feel insecure in d relationship and kind of suspect every of moves, calls, texts and chats. Buh d best way to tackle these is u getting urself involved in some activities that will get ur attention and make u forget abt her @ least for some hours during d day, sit her down and talk to her. Tell her ur fears buh make sure u don't let her know u scared of loosing her cos she's gonna take u as a weak guy. Then hear her response and see her reactions to it, her actions will either clear ur doubt or proof that ur instinct were right initially. Goodluck!!!

OK tnk you

[quote author=kweenphavy post=71837150][/quote]U re a terrible person.. Dats all I've 2 say 2 you

anayolity:
I know this feeling bro.... I can totally relate ... I'm this kinda person that hates getting emotionally attached but then I decided to go into this relationship with a girl I love so much .....She feels same for me too... Just this week I felt a strong feeling that something is wrong... I summoned up courage and asked her " What are you not telling" babe opened up that she's liking someone (kinda) and they have kissed twice ... I felt an AFRO on my skincut ... Distance has a way of tearing relationship apart....she's coming to Lagos next week where I'm based.... although will be visiting me often and spending some days with me while staying with her family but that thought ruined everything ... she's a good girl and have some qualities I desire... even though she apologized and promised to cut ties with the guy.... I don't believe it at all, Its making go back to being old person I used to be till I find someone better again .... But I'll find a way to build the relationship, I'll rather be the one to end it!!!

Right now I just hang out a lot with a very nice female friend..... Guys can't do the magic sometimes!!!

Thank you

daviesblaze:
Start making friends with tons of women, don't be afraid to pick female calls when in her company, flirt with different ladies that catches your fancy.

If she confronts you about it, simply dismiss her tantrums by teasing her about how silly she looks in making a big deal out of nothing, then proceed by assuring her about how she is the lucky one among women orbiting you web.

This way, you are creating an abundance mentality not only for yourself but also towards her. she would start getting the vibe that she is easily replaceable. This is where are emotions kicks in. it will keep her on her toes and get her more attached to you. she will start doing things to prove to you that she is the one for you.
This is where the opportunity of getting her more emotionally invested in the relationship than you do comes in. once she gets invested, it will become very difficult for her to break-up with you.

You see my friend, Love or whatever you guys call it, is like a game of chess, there will always be a loser and a winner. everything is fair. you don't want to walk out being the loser do you ??

WARNING!!! Be ready for the side effects though (But what will a relationship be called, if there is no little bit of drama to spice the brew

Cheers!!!

I so much love this bruh there's so much wisdom in it ... Am feeling a lot better now I'll strt doing as you said..

daviesblaze:
very easy, the summarized answer is Fake it till you Make it.

you should start by having interactions with strangers (Both Male and Female). A simple Hi, or how's your day going won't hurt.
stop viewing women as some celestial creatures that needs to be worshiped. you should start treating them the same way you would treat your Sister at home. if she says something stupid, tell her how stupid that sounds. if she is acting bitchy, ignore or tease her bitchy attitudes.

Set a target on the number of strangers you should approach in a day (say 5 or 10). if you follow this advice, you should start experiencing results and a big difference in your personality within 2 weeks.

Now about your girlfriend, you should consider implementing a triangle on it.

Please what do you mean by implementing a triangle on it?

RussianKGB:
You welcome, you can reach me via pm. As for the ban well it could be anti spam bot. Anyways take k and hope you're getting urslf back 2gether.

Yes am getting better.. Tnkz I'll reach you

daviesblaze:
Firstly, op never listen to the advice this female monikers are giving you. secondly, rather than orbiting her around you thoughts, you should start adding more women to your circle. this is where game comes in. to achieve this, you need as small as a little level of confidence to get started. lastly, in addressing your girlfriend, you should start making her to get more emotionally invested in the relationship.

Please do you know how I can build that confidence.. It's really lacking in me

Diamond23:
Went through ur previous posts nd saw were ur problems started. First u v to work on urself to get ur self-esteem bk.As for d right way to put it to her pls ask d guys to help u out cux dat I know not!......Maybe start by discussing ur last relationship with her, hw it ended, d causes, wot u went through nd wouldn’t want such to repeat itself again.

Alright thanks so much

MissRaine69:
It’s based on how you described yourself not my annalysis of you.

That I voiced out my fears and challenges doesn't make me a terrible person or a nightmare.. I was only looking for solution

romenna:
Trust your instincts.

OK u re saying I shud believe she's cheating

Diamond23:
Of course am a girl. I knew cux I v been der!!!, once u r sure she z not cheating on u let d fear slide. Communicate ur fear with her.

Telling her my fears won't mk matters worst? And if I've to let her know please wats d ryt way u tink I shud put for me not to look too desperate or be at her mercy?

Karaske:
Bros Go Visit A Rehab, Dats D Only Way Out Man

Why?

MissRaine69:
You can help yourself by not being in a relationship until you resolve the source of your paranoia and deep insecurities.
First form a relationship with yourself and address your lack of trust because without that you are just one heck of a nightmare boyfriend no woman should be involved with.

U sounded a bit harsh.. Honestly am not even close to wat u described above

Diamond23:
Learn hw to control ur insecurity and jealousy.Dz type of tin do happen especially wen ur babe z Vry pretty. U always felt threatened by oda guys snatching her away.Communicate wit her xo she also know wot u r going through

I believe you re a girl.. How come you know abt this?
Have you seen a guy who have tru this B4? Truly I feel threatened by d kind of attention she gets from oda guys

Botfuss:


Let me make some assertions:

Your girl is very beautiful.
She has small money more than you.
Many rich guys(you know some) are chasing her.
You don’t know if she can wait for you to settle and marry her.
You didn’t know you loved her this much until now
You know if you broke up with her today,she will have another boyfriend(finer and richer) before nightfall’s.(she is that beautiful)



Here is the good news,she has cheated and still cheating on you. lol..Thing is,she is not yours honestly.

You have to break up with her before she does. That’ll restore some of your pride.

But if you are thinking this feeling will stop after the break up, you are so wrong. lol. As a matter of fact,it’ll grow stronger. But you have to let her go honestly. She is not yours.

This doesn’t mean she never loved you though ,it’s a decision she has to make as a woman.

The best news is,there are thousands of girls more beautiful than she is. Just make your money and steal the love of the life of another young guy who will in turn feel the way you feel now. lol. It’s a cycle bro...

You’ve enjoyed the love,now it’s time to suffer for it. Las las,ul be fine

OK bro.. Thank you

Tripleclick:
I mean.. Maybe you are thinking she is too beautiful for you.. And then feeling insecure if you can hold on to her

Yea she's beautiful

Ray97:
if u trust her u shouldnt worry about it. U can stil talk to her

OK.. Thnks

Diamond23:
U really need help cux is dz type of [/s]LOVE[s] insecurity dey make person commit MURDER!!!....Crime of Passion!

That's why I brought the matter here bcuz I know I need help

Ioannes:
So you are not strong and mighty after all.

Do you have a job? No?

Go get one. One that is mentally and physically challenging. One that you are already on the way to work at 6am and not back until 9/10pm.

I assure you, the next time you remember that you have a girlfriend will be in a year's time.

Thank you.. I'll get my hands on something that is really time consuming

Darevofpeace:
The very first thing to overcome your fears is that you need to stop been idle, the fear of the "unknown" requires time of you sitting down and over assumption on what might not be actually true.Instead of you worrying whether she is cheating or not, why don't you increase your self worth by adding to your value's so as to increase your self esteem.Insecurity do stem's from low self esteem.

Thanks I'll do that...

RussianKGB:
Before men were men they were first of all boys.
Well just to be on the same page with u and help assuage your feelings, many guys have been in ur shoes before. Truth is, there has been dt one girl who made every guy cringe and submit till a point of emotional turmoil. Don't mind what some braggarts here have been submitting in the name of emotional maturity, some of them don't have relationships or probably even suffered this fate of yours earlier or will probably suffer it in the future.
Now to your problem. You really love this girl. Trust me if u didn't, u won't have this problem. Secondly ure emotionally naive meaning u don't have much relationship experience. In situations like this it's quite difficult to break free of this torment especially when ur feelings keep playing with ur head and ur suspicions are not met with evidence. Truth is, your girl may be cheating on you or not...but the answer is not the problem. The problem is you getting out of this mental delirium that is messing with ur sanity. I suggest u take a break. When i mean take a break i want u to free urslf of anything that has to do with this girl. If you live together, let her pack her stuffs, expunge her messages or the ones you sent her, anything of hers in your vicinity that puts those thoughts in ur head should be expunged. It may sound harsh but it's d easiest way to get back to normal. Also avoid love songs & blues. You don't need those emotional triggers. Hangout with your guys, play video games, hussle, jst get involved with anything and everything but her. Avoid the temptation to reach out to her else you're back to square one. Give it time, in 2 weeks to a month u should be fine. While getting better rearrange your relationship priorities, try not to get too deep next time ure getting involved, and always have the notion that a woman is never totally yours, even in marriage(with exemptions though) but this ideology should guide u to be wise next time. This guidelines is just to help u seeing you're a newbie in the relationship game.
For some of us who've been there and done that, we don't have this type of problem, we just booze and call the next gal on the line...who says bachelorhood ain't interesting Lol. Stay safe and man up. Is just a phase bro, you'll be fine.

Thanks so much bruh.. Ur words made me feel a lot better, I'll reli love 2 keep in touch with you ... I couldn't reply yesterday don't know why I was banned

duduade:
You need to grow up

How?

Ray97:
Its called insecurity. Fear of the unknow

What do you suggest I do?

ikhileomotayo:
Change your moniker to WeakAndFeeble

As strong as Samson is na woman kill am...