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@ Gtay

thank you.will do just that.

@ ariblaze

thank you too.

thank you so much you guys.
i really really appreciate your help.
ive come to realise from your views that in as much as i love him, i do need to also have a life outside my home
i will try my best to make him realise that, no matter how ugly it gets.
thank you all so much for your help and may you find favour in your time of need too.

@ nana

we did. we dated for almost two years before tying the knot

and that is why i find it strange and am concerned that he is now exihbiting this attitude

atleast then, i could still go hang out with friends and go places on my own.

@NaJaHaJe

thank you so much.
im trying my best but he`s so short tempered and does not like to dwell on conversations that are not favourable to him.

he knows am nothing like any of his ex`s cos av tried showing him and also telling him.

@ junegirl

he was not like that before we got married

he changed the moment we got married

@ moladun

thank you.

@ NaJaHaJe

well, he hasnt been in too many relationships and they havent been that good either.
his first ex cheated on him and the last ex woke up one day and said she was no longer interested.
i dnt keep too much friends but some of them have questionable pasts though
he has both single and married friends and the married ones are responsible men.
he`s not the outgoing type so i doubt if its peer pressure.

thanks alot for your advice. it does help.

@ joey82

believe  me, the day i tried to call his bluff and insisted i wanted to visit a friend without him, it turned into a serious quarrel.i shall not forget that day in a hurry.

@ benit

thank you.

@easybaby

what condition?

my husband

@ joey82

that is my predicament. how do i make him see reasons?
my male collegues have nicknamed me "ice queen" cos am not friendly with them and they believe am putting on airs.

@ igbonla

my  immediate family all live in the north so there is no one close by.
my friends he does not let me visit cos he says am now a married woman and so should not be doing the visiting.
the few friends i can visit, he takes me there himself and brings me back home.
his family, i cannot confide in cos he has forbidden me from going there without his permission or in his absence.

@ thonia

thanks. i will try my best cos i dnt have any choice.

ive asked him so many times if there was something he discovered about me and he said no.
each time i bring it up, he tells me its the men he does not trust, that he trusts me.
morever, why go ahead and marry someone you do not trust ?

@ joey

i dint say i was tired of him trying to protect me. i know he cares about me and i appreciate that.
but he`s being excessively jealous and i wonder why, cos av never given him cause to doubt my love and faithfulness to him. the funny part is, he wasnt like that while we were still courting so why the sudden change now that we are married? it was easier for me to have cheated on him while i was still single(which i didnt), instead of now that i`ve married him, dnt you think?

@ osereka

i have never given him cause not to trust me cos ive never cheated on him and he knows it.

no!

hi yàll.am new here and would really love to get some advice from you.

ive been married for a couple of months now and i love my husband with all my heart.
he`s  a very loving and caring husband but my problem with him is his insecurity
i cannt go to visit friends without his permission and even when he permits me to go,he must take me there and bring me back home.  i must not have male friends and must not give my number to even male collegues except if its absolutely necessary.   i cannot attend events,parties or shows without him.   if my office is organising a party or just a get together, i cannot go because he will not be there and my male collegues will be. i cannot even have neighbourly chats with male neighbours cos he feels they all have designs on me and by being friendly, i will be encouraging them.
he has deleted my family friends numbers from my phone, just becos they are guys and might suddenly wake up and decide that they love me.  ive tried so hard to convince him that i will always be faithfull and true to him, all to no avail.
funny enough, i  trust him and don`t keep such tabs on him.

i really dnt know what else to say or do to convince him that i have no interest in any other man except him. which why i married HIM in the first place.