₦airaland Forum

For those that claimed she lied regarding the Facebook issue,that was a typo error (the date).If truly anyone read the book not for the juicy whatever but 'reading for art sake',one would be able to decipher,relate and see that it was just a typo error. As to if it was a lie or not,I think it wasn't and I would say why:because we(most of the readers) weren't there when she was growing up,we only saw what we were asked to see the same way we are judging what we are asked to read,so by the authority that guides a writer,whatever that was said is true. In short,I think she is so sure of what she wrote as she poses that memoir to Maje&Anita as: I DARE YOU. She never played the righteous fellow in that memoir,truth be told. She acknowledged her naivety, stupidity,everything acknowledgeable that was wrong,so nothing was biased on that book.

It hurts me a lot when I read all the posts to find out that FEMINISM is been trashed about by men,it hurts much more when I realised that majority of the condemnation comes from women.............them I'm forced to ask,are you comfortable with this gendered society? A society that is forcing you to be second to your fellow human(whether male superiority over female and vice versa)? Talking of man and woman,I though God made Eve out of Adam's rib,so they are equal,made of the same stuff,so why should one claim seniority over the other? There is difference between respecting your spouse and a spouse dominating..........let's get it straight and right.
Beyonce....... when did blacks ever get accredited for anything they do no matter how excellently well they perform? If you are curious,read Nairobi Heat(though a fiction,it tells more). Beyonce cited Chimamanda doesn't mean she made her popular,after all who is the father of fame if not God,and believe it or not,many dont even and cannot link the song(with) and Chimamanda.
Chimamanda isn't saying one should not marry or see men as important,from what I've read so far,all I can say about her work is this:men are important,so are women. You both need each other to balance out. She is saying:we don't want a society that favours one based on gender(my example,I'm carrying over a course cos I am a female,lecturer wants a fast one - i am wanted cos I have what it takes to satisfy the man;my best friend male is carrying over the same course cos he is my friend - the man hates him cos he is a male). Another instance:A male lecturer is hated because he doesn't have what to feed the hungry eyes but a female is loved cos she has what to feed the hungry eyes(this is just in a school setting oooooo) compared to the bigger society. She is saying:judge everyone based on their worth not because one is masculine(a female can be masculine) and the other is feminine(a male can be feminine)...................
But Nigeria is just so patriarchal that's why it seems that she is advocating against men,take for instance; it hurts me when my mum keeps saying,you are a girl,keep your virginity for your husband,it's a thing of pride,why can't she just say keep yourself cos it makes you responsible...........,my elder sister dropped out of school cos my brother had to further his masters degree(after all my brother is a male and in the end,the wife is claiming the owner of his life,mum is just left with the two girls) and many more the female children are facing out there(sacrifices that are not worth it).
However,she always have space for telling people that:'never treat the oppressed as saint' meaning that she also acknowledges that some people cause their havoc themselves not because of gender.
And besides,who gender EPP? who masculinity and femininity EPP?we've been practicing gendered based society and what do we have to show for it? hubbies beating their wives to stupor,wives hating/poisoning their hubbies,male children getting the whole attention,female children doing the chores................ITS HIGH TIME WE TREATED EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT,that's the only way we won't have to war ourselves........internally and externally

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