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MichaelBukamzy:
10months old??
Don't allow her to go with that boy.if you want him to be groomed with love and care.

Yes that is what I'm trying to do. But it's quite difficult and Its not possible to tie her down with rope.

madridguy:
Let her go and give her just 2 month before she return back on her kneels.

I'm afraid she might go dump him in the village and forget him there.

I met this lady few years back in Akure and I barely know her well when we started having intercourse. After few months of relationship she got pregnant and that is the beginning of the problem. She found out she was pregnant 3 weeks after she left akure for Abuja.

According to her, her family started treating her badly after they discovered she was pregnant so she left and came back to Akure on the note that she is been treated badly.. She request I give her money to abort the pregnancy, but this is totally against my values and refuse to take part in such.
She stays with me until 2 month till delivery and In other to have a proper care after delivery, I took her to my mum to look over her.. She had a safe delivery and now the baby boy is 10month old.

She suddenly changed recently, start to complain and begin to protest she wanted to go with the baby. When I ask her where she is going with the baby, she initially said she doesn't know and later agreed that she need to start working and she cannot leave without the boy.. I explained to her that if she takes the boy with her, she might not be able to take proper care of him but all turn to her deaf hear.

But yesterday, it got really serious and she wanted to leave. I was furious and ask her series of questions and all I found out was that she doesn't even have a proper plan for the boy and she said it to my face that 'if worst comes to worst she will go and abandon the child with her family in the village' and continue her life, but there is nothing I will ever say to make her leave the boy..

This insuluate that she is going to put that boy through strenuous life and would refuse to provide him with the basic needs.. It really hurt me to hear her say 'she might go drop him at the village'. This is the same people that initially rejected her with the pregnancy. So I thought they will only make the boy experience tough things if he is left with them.

Pls what do I do in this situation. There is no formal connection between us and I strongly detest her taking custody of the child.. How do i stop her??