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What do u say to a man u thought was christian brings out charm pours on u says u ll bury it family one by one this year.

U know sincerely Noone instructs anyone to lock u out, pls dnt lie. Why then would I open if I didn't want to, knowing ur violent nature and what could result.
I ve no single male friends even colleague because u suspect everyone. I don't live my life by u..
I set my standards by the word of God.
So say all u want. U named ur children not me... I won't go into details. it'd been a lot and u know the truth. If I was do bad like u say, wouldn't u hate me?

Unfortunately a lot of people will fall for this. Smooth talker.
First ask, how did u get to me? How did u get my phone? Violence..u just can't stop. You claim u love yet u want to kill me.
U ve some enough wrong yet u storm home and throw all my things on the floor after typing I love ur wife. I can't fool me anymore. Ur accusations I accept they won't change the truth in d sight of God.

I won't continue this with u, pls take over go ahead.
- wife

I know she will try and play the victim and take a shot at discrediting me and the family but I forgive her and love her and I choose peace,i was never a product of a broken home and won't leave that legacy to my kids I just feel we both need some time to re-evaluate our relationship and ourselves and hopefully God will give us the grace to deal with our short comings,im not a perfect man but only strive towards it,by God's grace it is well....

I love her and decided to give her space so that she knows what marriage is all about and to know being 21st century woman does not translate to waywardness or keeping old boyfriends that when we fight she starts calling them for attention or insulting her husband and cursing her children, and playing the victim,im not a violent person she knows this but the mental and physical agony I have been passing through pushed me to this point without justification. Advice marry not because of physical beauty or riches but because you have found a partner who loves u won't try to change or control you and appreciates the value of family, God and peace, she calls me a monster but I call her blessed and I know we will work out our differences and by God's grace things will be better.

Hi everyone, thanks for all your concern and advice. I feel at this point things should be made clear and spoken with truth.
I love my wife always have always will, I was really surprised she has taken our domestic difference to Naira land fully aware we some time use the same account here and I guess it's best I use same handle to clarify things. No man should hit a lady for any reason or his wife, but some women provoke men to insanity. My wife is a beautiful and intelligent lady and blessed me with two lovely kids I adore. She is still and always be the love of my life.
Synopsis: before we married I was head over hills in love with that even when I found out she had been married before (while snooping through her phone) I followed her to the court house to get an annulment and went ahead to marry her. Our issues started after we married, she kept in touch with previous boyfriends, I would wake up by 1am to see her chatting and giggling at her phone,i knew she had a lot of toasters as we call it but after 1 week I thought it would reduce then was dismayed to find out after one week no change of status on all social her social networks when I asked her reason was she didn't want her ex boyfriend mum to feel bad she married me not her son! I was shocked but over looked it I even agreed to give her time as she requested to lay them off, at this point I was asking myself if I made the right choice! Then she got pregnant and when I suggested we name our first daughter after my mum she said my mum's name Adaeze was a mammy water name and didn't want my child named after my mum.
Life continued with every challenge young couples face trying to build a home. Then I began to notice a pattern that the only time things where cool in the home was only when I did things to please her,without question. I tried to teach her things like neatness and eating healthy and being calm with me cos I knew I had temper issues which I discussed with her before we married. She was such a prayer warrior before we married and was my cold water on a hot day. All these ended after our first daughters birth under the guise of work and child bearing.
I started seeing text messages from different men she had mentioned in the past and reported the case to her family by this time things where getting bad,unfortunately this was not helpful.
Recent events:
I am a business development consultant,unlike my wife who has a regular nine to five I come home later than her. I told my wife that she should allow any nanny at home to sleep in the parlour when I'm not home so they can hear me knock severally,on this day I came home around 9.30pm knocked my knuckles for 1hr before the door was opened! This was seen as intentional cos just the previous day I had complained about always knocking for hours before getting in,the worst part is she would instruct. The house help not to open the door for me after 9pm. I got in got a cane to discipline the child and she charged at me knowing fully well I was angry and we got physical, prior to this event I kept insisting we send the Lil girl away cos I noticed truancy and a stubborn lying nature in the girl but she refused. On that very day simply because I told her the new nanny who looked 34years old but my wife said she was 19 needed time for me observe before making a decision about keeping her didn't go down well with her started raining curses on me that I will never succeed when ahead and said our children my generation would die but not her kids and I'm not the father of my children,that she will bury me and before I die I would crawl on my belly till I run mad, said a lot of things, she insults me at will threatens me to go and be with other men

Hi everyone

Sometimes instead of bottling emotions up, some people just want a forum to talk. Please dnt try to discourage because u don't know...rather if u see a different view express ur self without trying to create drama, or unnecessary bias. In fact u should feel blessed to ve an opportunity to heal a fellow human.

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@dinachi u deserve no words in return.

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