₦airaland Forum

dinachi:
You are the most irresponsible man I have ever seen, idiat! You think everyone is like your irresponsible cursed aunty and her innocent husband?
How did you know it wasn't her that infected her innocent husband? Old cow!

Because Nigeria has fools like you this is why it has remained underdeveloped which made your useless smelling disgusting mother resorted to prostitution and in the process she got impregnated by one of her clients in the brothel and gave birth to a useless bastard as you. You don't even know your biological father because it was one of your mother's customers in the brothel where she worked as a chip prostitute that got her pregnant which she was unable to identify the actual man that impregnated her till today. You are a worthless useless bastard gotten from the brothel so don't talk when people like us are talking. Foolish bastard

cooltola:
There is nothing wrong if a man goes out looking for work late or is busy with a form of hustle late till 12AM or work graveyard shift or late.g uber driver ,bus drivers, factory workers, hospital worker and so forth. But if a married man is going out to hang out with his friends very late like 12am, then it is cause for concern. If he was single , I could care less.

God bless you. You are wise

Biggers82:
I hope you are not planning to Stab the man to death for coming back late free that man before he starts coming home Early and start beating you since he is looking for job allow him to cool off his BP unless you want to add to his problems.

Guy, please walk down the edge of the street you will see one old mad man sitting by the refuse dump site ask him to borrow you some sense, he doesn't charge money he gives it free

shogsman:
You're the problem not your husband,Next please, don't waste my time Witt irrelevancies

Who let this lunatic out of the psychiatric? Please take your drugs, don't bother to make any further comment

SweetCunt97:
Will it be too much if a husband actually helps out in the house while the woman is actively at work? Marriage is supposed to be for matured minds willing to support each other. Where is the support when a man who has no job goes out everyday and comes back late without nothing to show? The woman works, cleans, feeds the kids, pays d bills... Let's check it.

Your comment is GOLDEN

May God bless you more abundantly and increas you in wisdom

PatrioticNaija:
Maybe when you become employed, useful to your mother, and get married with up to 10years experience. Then I can answer you. BabyAdult like you

Sir your mates are under my payroll I pay them very well here in Dubai

If you don't mind I could still get you employed and be working for me as a staff

SweetCunt97:
So one has to involve themselves in forced intelligent convo everyday as per MI agents or Mossad agent or KGB ba? Stop giving excuses to bad habits.

God bless you, you are among the few reasonable people in this forum

Ghostmode2two:
I love night crawlers. Was he night crawling when you guys were in courtship before marriage? Did he just changed? Was he working previously and lost his job? do you make the house comfortable for him or you expecting him to stay home so he can cook and do the dishes why you are at work? Come out clean please

Senseless comment

SweetCunt97:
Get d heck outta here! The woman is alway to b blamed. No excuse for his silly behavior, he should b helpful now his jobless instead of hanging out with friends spending d Lil he has on useless flexing.

When he gets his knee shot out or hand cut off by bandits, him hot Waka Waka leg go rest by force.

I can't even imagine what d comments would have been if it were a married woman keeping such late night.

May God bless you and bless your family. You will live long

beejay85:
Madam,ur husband is OK once you can attest he isn't womanizing....
I just came bk from watching champions league...my wife also complains bt I normally counter her...cos bf we got married,we both used to watch football til midnight ....
So...she taught I could be changed but she failed woefully...our marriage is 9 yrs old..
So madam ,quit it...my wife eventually gave up after several attempts to catch me cheat but failed.... Pls let ur husband be... support him with prayers to help him get his dream job..all s best

Another irresponsible husband spotted

Rozaytee:
People like me can hang out and get home by 11:30pm ....but its wrong for a married folk tho

Thanks for being reasonable. You will make a wonderful home and husband. May God continue to bless you

Starhearts:
Me dey waka well for night ooo

My wife don accept her destiny

So l no get any advice to give out

Even my wife always load condom in my wallet
Pls accept ur faith madam
Think of how to make more money

How do you expect Nigeria to become a better nation when you have men that reason foolishly like this? Nigeria's failed leadership/government is a product of the kind of citizens it breed. Nigeria is in big trouble

[quote author=Dara30 post=86768324][/quote]Correct guy. Thanks for telling the idiot

MondayOsunbor:
i hate to break it for you ma. you have one idiotic lady eating your banana. i am sure she is now plotting to take over your man

she is promising him big paying job through her connections and you know what that can do to a jobless mind

I salute your wisdom

pcguru1:
Exactly especially the island life,business is business and sometimes people like to drink, relax and discuss business. That is the new Lagos close niche circle these days. All man must find him way

Another irresponsible man spotted. With this your mentality you can't make a good husband.

smellingpussy442:
women can complain, what ur problem gan abi u are the problem in dia man life? Let him be abeg.

Fool spotted

cooltola:
A married man that come home late at 12am is a cause of concernt

God bless you sir. You are one of the wise and responsible men we have here

cooltola:
Sometime it is time to play chess with your husband , Madam. If he come home late, then stop making his food . If he continues to come late, step it up with another action, then he will not know you are playing around. Just do not kill him or do anything against the law

These are the few wise and reasonable men of Nairaland. May you continue to increase in wisdom

shadeyinka:
Send 13 hard street boys to waylay him and beat him up telling him he stole their ogas girlfriend. When this happens 3 times after 11pm, he'll learn to stay home

Lol. You are just too funny I swear

LyfeJennings:
Ode ni e
Ode Okunrin ni e
Over reasoning wan kill U
So cos he is jobless, he shouldn't go out
Do U even realize this isn't something he started when he lost his job
What should he be doing at home knowing fully well he can clinch something on the street. A job, contract or something.
See as U dey reason like mosquito
Not every guy that keeps late night is out there with some girl, U know
I got my current job as a result of my late night Waka waka. And this job pays me 4 times my former job with full benefits.
Reason like a man and not an e-diot

See this smelling dirty Afonja talking. Before you talk to people like me please go and tell your Ode dirty disgusting mother to stop defecating inside plastic rubber and stop living, cooking and eating inside Lagos gutter. Who doesn't know yoruba people are the most useless, dirtiest, confused jobless fools in Africa. Please go and stand on the road and collect 50 naira from keke and okada operators so you can eat today because that is all yoruba people only know how to do best. When Buhari mentioned Lazy youths he was referring to yoruba people. Quote me and die by thunder now now. Smelling yoruba animal. Dirty pig. Spits

igbojay:
Madam, you just said you married a good man,but the only issue you have is the fact that he is not always there and the reason is not even good enough.

You are too young to become a widow and you should explain this to him in this manner. Hold a mature discussion with him, calmly, without sounding authoritative or like his mother.

Your husband is in a very difficult position right now. A man's joy is in his ability to provide atleast the basics for his family. The triple Fs this brings him is what feeds his emotions and keeps him sane. Hence those smile you see on his face. When last did your man smile genuinely without soundly grumpy , looking lost and glumy?

Your hubby is passing through a psychological phase due to his inability to provide for his family.

Perhaps his plans are not working, he is tired of seeing you return from work while he stays at home all day. He still has his ego and that what keeps him going.

So he leaves when you are about to return from work,and stays out till its late, so he can atleast avoid the possibility of friction.

Help him. Just make him happy on any given day. If he likes to sex, give him the best of sex. If he likes food, prepare him something nice and massage what is left of his ego.

See if you can help him get a job. I beleive that's what he would do if he were in your shoe. He needs a sense of direction. He is at his cross roads. You can also discuss his options with him. Perhaps the next phase is to start a business.

Just give him the triple Fs and discuss his options with him as the caring and loving wife that you are.

Moreover, him bringing in some cash and been useful to his family will lessen your stress and alos put some smile on your face.

Help his ability to feed and cater for his family which includes his queen and not feed the family.

Walk him back to himself and not judge him. He is lost and needs you now more than ever. Go bring your man home.

Show me a depressed man, and I might show you a man who is angry with himself cos he can't provide for his family.

Guy stop this nursery school poem you just recited here and keep shut if you have nothing meaningful to say in a sensitive family issue as this.

phlegmatic007:
Be careful of your statements, some people actually take random advice too seriously, you don't know maybe he is irresponsible or just embarrassed of depending on his wife, since he has no job to provide for his family and finds solace in staying out late than sitting at home feeling useless.

Oga try get sense small na. No responsible man will sound this way

kushme:
An 8 years marriage looking for advice from folks with less than 8 months relationship, shameless bastard.

Let him be and stop listening or watching too much Africa magic.

You are the real bastard here you fool. Why insulting the OP? What right do you have to insult her? Even her husband who paid her dowry never called her a bastard and here you are with the heavy hunger and poverty that is wiping your family calling someone's else's precious wife bastard. Thunder damage you fool

Lugianostar:
Go on your knees in place of fervent prayers before the Lord to calm him down by disengaging him from those negative friends that make him stay late and ask God to give him a job. Our God is ever faithful to answer you.

May God bless whoever wrote this comment.

chijioke17:
What you just did is plain wicked and insensitive. Words are seeds, you shouldn't throw them around just because you can. I don't support her husband coming home late, but that doesn't mean you jump into conclusions of infidelity. From the conversation she painted, he doesn't come home drunk, and she hasn't had cause to suspect any foul play. She is just worried about him coming home late. If you can't proffer a solution, you could have just read comments and not said anything. Don't destroy a marriage based on assumptions. Not all men cheat

Another fool spotted

olisaEze:
He probably leaves home in the evenings right? And he’s probably hanging out with other guys that don’t usually work a 9 to 5. Let him be, as hard as it may be. He’s trying to figure out a way forward for himself. Coupled with the probability that right now, he doesn’t want to seat in one place alone feeling sorry for himself for not being able to provide as he would like for his family. Just let him be, he’ll change as soon as things pick up for him in the job department. U might not be nagging him, but ur body language speaks volumes because u think u know how he should be behaving right now. Believe me, u have no idea what that man is going thru @ the moment.

OP, if you listened to this insane advice you will keep crying in your marriage.

phlegmatic007:
Be careful of the statements, you don't know maybe he is irresponsible or just embarrassed of depending on his wife, since he has no job to provide for his family and finds solace in staying out late than face her.

Another irresponsible man spotted. Something is terribly wrong with Nigerian men, no wonder their leadership/government is a total mess

Xisnin:
Intelligent discussion such as bet9ja odds and football scores?
Only on Nairaland are all the men intelligent yet intellectually empty when pushed.
Just check the average thread some create and the illogical reasoning behind it and you will be shocked.

The husband is so intelligent that he is jobless and still keep late nights.

God bless you a million fold. I wish we have more reasonable people like you on Nairaland

Caustic001:
12pm late? I remember back in naija, on groove nights na till dawn, l had a job back then though. That issue is a lifestyle and it will take drastic change to make him stop. Me I moved out.

Another irresponsible man spotted

bonnyhope:
You sound like cool headed woman

Do you give him the attention he deserves?
And again he might not be comfortable being seen around the house maybe because the neighbours may look at him as a house husband.

Continue talking to him and also pray along side with him

There's nothing God cannot do

When responsible men make a comment you will see it very clearly. God bless you sir, wisdom will never depart from your generation.

chukwuibuipob:
a eife like d Op are difficult/ hardly to meet/find.God bless the womb dat gave birth to u.Sorrow is not ir portion. A jobless man that roam hang out till 1.00Am is a unserious fellow.Even if dey employ him touseless morrow, he'll catwalk the street. Only God can touch his heart sha.Tell him Amotekun,Nig Police,kudnapper dey

I thank God we still have reasonable people in Nairaland. God bless you for this your wonderful contribution. More grace to you

ahiboilandgas:
men are like that we love to hang out, that where the business is struck and new jobs found via contacts not sitting at home ....last year i made around Bleep millions via contacts i meet socialising at a top lounge ...he will stop ober time .....i hope he not a womansier sga

Not all men are like that bro, speak for yourself.