₦airaland Forum

Graxie:
Those of you supporting him, continue until he is arrested by police in the name of raiding. This days they raid, take your phone and send you to a different dungeon. Sometimes they even place gun on your chest and tag you thief. A man is not working, can't he look for something to engage himself? Are there no menial jobs? All I see is a lazy man who doesn't want the kids to know that he is lazy. Madam, press ignore button, stop talking to him about late night. Make it a habit to ignore. With time he will come to his senses. Why wouldn't he be lazy? You are providing for the family, he feels he has nothing to worry about. Assuming he knows you are jobless and there is no hope, I bet you he will be very busy searching for how to feed you guys.

God bless whoever wrote this. You will live long, Amen

galadima77:
See a lady here being as reasonable as guys ought to be and some dude is calling the man very very irresponsible.

Besides, the woman never said he cheats as many are inferring but on the contrary he's "nice and caring". And who says the ones that stay home don't cheat?


I have a friend whose wife complains about same and like the OP's hobby, no job for now. She didn't tell me; he did and when I asked him why he does so and where he hangs around..he said a few of them night crawlers just sit around the neighborhood and gist till it's late and go home, no biggie. She also contributes to some extent.

I begged him to reduce the hours outside because we were childhood friends and lived together till we all got married and know we didn't keep late nights.

Another irresponsible kid spotted

Ilufoye00:
My dear, with time he will change. Please don't stop praying.
Engage him with more conversation and activities, my dad do come home 1am, 2am when we were still young, but today before 8pm he will b at home. Most men who go to bear palour are found of these habit, because u can't b in another man's house till 12am.
Time, environment and friends will play a major role in changing him for better.... God bless ur family

This is a very brilliant comment. I thank God we still have some intelligent and reasonable men on this forum.

When I said that he could either be in a brothel having fun some "king Solomons" we have on Nairaland wanted to behead me. There's no way he could be in friends house till 12 - 1am. He could probably be in a beer parlor or brothel. Any family man who keeps late night for no good and obvious reason is very very Irresponsible... Argue with your foolishness

magkhan:
OP,

You don't know the internal battles he is facing as an unemployed person/father/husband. Allow him unwind as he see fit. He is an adult. You said he is caring, so let him be please.

Probably when he get's the job it might reduce.

Use the alone time to relax for the next day hustle.

Be at peace.

So you support the kind of lifestyle the man is leading? Something is really really wrong with the black race. No wonder Nigeria and its leaders are doomed and irredeemable.

I don't know when next I will visit Africa

generationz:
It just takes one terrible betrayal from those friends to reset his brain and make him put his family first.

I've seen this time and again.

With this type of lifestyle, when he has a job it's very likely he will cheat.

Your wisdom is highly appreciated and commendable. Keep it up

Heistman:
common! This is pure nonsense, were u dia tracking his movement for u to have concluded he's irresponsible and fucking around? ,you're a big fool sir.. that's how one useless pastor in my area back then when I was still in school told my mum to be prayerful cos He saw vision I'm a cultist because I'm an introvert and hardly relate with people

Big fool kill you there. Ogun and Amadioha blow your generation into pieces. Animal. Buhari is more civil and sensible than you

Tallesty1:
The way some of you jump to conclusions is just annoying. The first thing you're supposed to do is ask questions.

When does he leave home?

Does he stay at home all day and then leave in the evening?

Is it everyday habit.

But no, you Mr know it all already know everything so you quickly concluded and called someone's husband a very very irresponsible man even when the woman clearly stated the man is is nice and caring

Do you know what it means when a Nigeria woman says that a man is nice and caring?

Have you ever seen a woman admit that she's at fault when a relationship is having issues? It is always the man.

@OP If your husband stays at home when you're away and leaves the moment you come back, then something is wrong.

Secondly, not having a job means he's always at home so if he stays at home all day and only leaves at night then it could also mean he takes care of the house in your absence and only stretches his legs at night. People do it.

You also failed to tell us if this is an every day activity so we can only suggest.

Birds of the same feather flocks together. OP, the above person lives same life of your husband.

If the wife who lives with him can see that something is not right with her husband's habit then who are you to defend him whom you haven't seen before and start throwing childish questions to the OP as if she was drunk when she wrote all these? Nairaland with too many professors and keypad warriors

Randy100:
You are the only person that can keep your husband at home. So change.

Senseless comment

Bugatie:
Just what if this man only hangs out with friends and doesnt engage in all you wrote there, imagine the seed you have planted in this young ladies head.

Thats why I dont support all this online request for hope because you'll end up leaving with bigger problems.

@op, I'll advise you engage him in a heart to heart talk, not as he comes back from his night crawl but in the morning, remind him of the dangers of keeping late night, safety issues and how much the kids stay awake to see him, etc. If he's the reasonable type, I'm sure he will change.

Be careful of the advise you take from here especially the ones suggesting hotels and prostitutes.

#Peace.

Fool spotted

EVILFOREST:
U are not FAR from the TRUTH.
A MAN rarely runs away from an INTELLIGENT DISCUSSION.
Don't be shocked to hear that she competes with the same HUSBAND for T. V. REMOTE

I don't know how kids and fools dominated Nairaland

EVILFOREST:
IF YOU GIVE every lady an OPPORTUNITY, they would want to put their HUSBANDS inside a BOTTLE, lock them up, and monitor them from the outside.

Even a 90 year old LADY fears her husband would dump her someday.

This comment is baseless and senseless

PatrioticNaija:
You don't nag, but you're putting up your husband on Nairaland for public discussions... you may as well crawl out with him

Senseless comment. Too many dumb fools on Nairaland

rex444:
he can be coming back early na ...like 1am or 2am sef.... madam keep quiet ,no use children as your excuse . what do you want him to be doing at home with a boring lady that cannot come up with a healthy conversation but nags.... let him be

Your foolishness and stupidity is inborn. You are a big disgrace. Spit on you

Kpilo101:
Thanks for the advice. I dey drink bobo so as i dey type.

Bobo is not milk brother, it's kids yoghurt. He meant you should be taken real milk like Peak milk and co, or better off cow milk. You can likewise follow herdsmen and be sipping their raw cow milk, atleast this can make your brain develop better... You must get sense by force

IduNaOba:
Sure say no be aftermath of the kidnap attack?
The one he was running like new born mouse according to aisha yesufu

It is not a must to comment. If you don't have anything reasonable to type you just skip the thread.

I don't see Nigeria becoming better till the world ends. The country is cursed. Everything is messed. It can never get better, it's impossible

Oooooooommmm!!!! Somebody should tell this COW to shut up and stop talking for ones.

Fafesot:
You guys should help me...
Apart from the physical factors which are to be considered before taking partners...
How do I find the good women
Igbo women are not options ,abeg
Yoruba and Hausa only..

Since Igbo women are no options for you then your confusion will never seize, you will keep seeking for advice on how to live happily with the two choices you have already made. We go advice you tire, you never start

cRobo:
Things we do for love

She wants the best for you

If the main purpose of having sex is to get u a job, never take her for granted

Lots of girl cheat for no good cause

She loves you trust me

I wanted to make a comment but after reading the above comment I gave up commenting. The above comment is GOLDEN. this is just the best comment and advice you can get here. May God bless whoever wrote this above comment and may you keep increasing in wisdom... OP please follow the above comment and live happily with your girl, her type is hard to find. How I wish it's my girl that did this for me. Some girls cheat for nothing without bringing anything good to the table and yours cheated to get you a good paying job. May God bless your girlfriend. AMEN

Ouchbabe:
Pls my fellow Nairalanders, I have been married for 8years now. My husband is nice and caring but I don't like the fact that he likes moving at night. He comes home as late as 12am.
He is currently looking for a job now and most times his reason for coming home late is because he is hanging out with friends. I have discussed this issue with him severally and expressed that I don't like his night movement. On such occasions he will promise not to come home late but the promise is never kept. I have told him the dangers of moving late in a city like Lagos.
The annoying part is that he is not coming home late from work rather because he i s with friends. Most times our young children will stay up late hoping to see him before going to bed but they will wait in vain as he will not be home before they will sleep off.
Note: Even though I'm working, I make sure the house is clean and food ready before he comes home. I don't nag and I'm good looking.
Pls I need suggestions on how to make him stop this night waka.
Please move to front page for wider view

You are working, but he doesn't have any job yet. He comes home late everyday at 12am. You clean the house and provide food for the family, upon that you don't nag, and you are good looking.

Madam you married a very very irresponsible man, and people like him always engage in careless sexual activities with random girls/prostitutes. Most times he could probably be in one brothel having fun. I just pray he shouldn't someday infect you with HIV. same thing happened to my aunty, her husband was living this kind of life and infected her with HIV and both of them died of AIDS living their 4 young kids miserable. It will only take a Divine intervention by the Almighty to change such a man and make him live responsibly... I pray God to come to your aid and touch your husband's heart to become responsible and respect his marriage. I will advice you to become a prayer warrior because of this for there is nothing God can not do. You don't only talk to him you also back it up with fervent prayer I bet you you will see result. May God bless your home. AMEN

opebiboy:
It is not rant. These people didn't sell records or headline mega shows like majek fashek, king sunny ade or daddy showkey. Those folks can't even claim to buy range rover every week.

This guy just came into planet earth last week, he has been living in Jupiter all the while, don't blame him for being so ignorant of the things happening on planet earth... Guy you are welcome!

Orubebe01:
Misplaced priority. The car may be rented or on credit. Yeyebrities and fake life are like bread and butter.

Bro, this same bitterness and witch hunting is the reason why you haven't made it till now and all your mates have gone far ahead of you. Stay here and be fighting with your keypad on Nairaland while your likes are hustling and making it big.

Westbestside:
Borrowed car. No be today.

This jealousy and bitterness is what has kept you this wretched. Loosen up and be happy for others success and see how your own miracle and breakthrough will locate you

IAmStrange:
Wow! What a very important news.

You won't believe I read this post aloud in my room and the transport fare I was hoping I would use to get somewhere transformed to a Range Rover

Thanks very much OP for sharing this. You should share it to the world so others can benefit too and own a car today.

Anyway, Imes is coming.

This Imes has really affected your brain badly no wonder it's now reading anti clockwise

toyobillz:
She is mad because she got pregnant for a broke dude.

Bro japa no oo.

Why are there more stupid and foolish people on Nairaland? Guy must you comment?

Ardar:
Oga you've not told us what you did to that girl, nobody will just start screaming at you without been provoked. She's probably frustrated with the burden of school plus the pregnancy hormones.

We need to hear from the girl too.

This kid should just shut up. Must you comment?

proclinician:
Oga ur imes or obatala no de cum again?

Lol. Ask am well well

Kylekent59:
I once advised people to stay away from GF. They are distraction, and they wouldn't let a man focus.

Now you cannot focus. If only you had listened to my advice, you would be huzzling now and saving your wealth, then when you see a lovely damsel with good manners, you go for her immediately.


You just have to carry your cross and be a man.

Don't hit her out of anger. I just love your idea on keeping the baby and staying calm when she acts so stupid and displays obnoxious characters.

At a time, she would change, remember she is pregnant.
Many more to come also especially at night.

Don't be surprised if she asks you to roast yam for her maybe at 2 a.m, it just shows your responsibility as a man just started.

Oga she will NEVER change and this her toxic attitude has nothing to do with pregnancy. A bad woman is a bad woman, likewise a bad man is a bad man. Character doesn't hide. The guy should just quick the relationship if he loves his life, simple!

Shibaraba:
I'm done with people who come online to ask questions they know the answer to already.

My question is, how una Preeq dey strong when una broke. When I'm broke Ogbeni my Preeq no dey get life. My Preeq has the same feeling with shibaraba. I'm suspecting it has a brain sef. Once my account balance is pink if you like open the punna to my face, make your Yansh be like buffalo own, make your breasts be like oganigwe own, e no go strong.

But make account green. E dey strong even for sleep

Finally you still couldn't make any sense!

To avoid us typing RIP to you in the future in the cause of this toxic relationship, guy if you love your life and cherish your happiness please quit the relationship. If you break this advice you will never end well and happy in this relationship. Thank you

abpela24:
The aim of boko haram is to paint moslems as terrorist which you help them to achieve by believing they are moslems....

All these blood tasty muslims should stop talking please

Kingscee:
keep calm and stop defending that evil you called religion

God bless you brother, you are a real man