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Yoighaman:
I was just 'strolling pass' Nairaland and read your post, had to stop by for few minutes to advice you.

I feel you bro., I have somewhat been in your shoes, but maybe not as bad.

If you believe in God, the first step is to pray; kneel down and pray to him for help. When you go through experiences in life that outweighs you, you definitely need help, help from a higher being.

Second, Talk to someone you truly respect and who will always have your back, preferably a relative who you trust to a large extent, tell the person what you have resolved to do, tell him (or her) to frequently ask you for update, discuss your progress with him (or her); take it a day at a time.

Third, Change your mindset about making money from betting, IMO (In My Opinion) less than 5% ever hit it big, erase the belief from your mind that you could someday be among that meagre 5%. Betting should be fun, but when you cross the red line, it becomes a burden, worst than cocaine.

Fourth, Concentrate your effort and time on making money legit and get deeply involved in other non-harmful habits that give you joy, pleasure and satisfaction. Whenever the thought of betting comes to your mind, consciously wade it off, ignore it, remember, what you nurture grows, what you let suffer, dies. Never nurture the thought of gambling whenever it comes, as time goes on and to your amazement, it will die a natural death.

Fifth, Delete every betting App on your phone and never log in via any web browser, also detest betting shops like a plague, make up your mind to never visit there again. This is also the time to change your circle of friends, stop hanging out with or around folks that indulge in the habit, whether physically or remotely; don't even discuss anything betting with anyone again.

Sixth, Don't ever make the mistake of saying, "Let me just play today, after all, I have not played in the past 3 weeks or it's a sure game, let me play today only". If you try it, that will be the start of another fall and disaster.

Seventh and lastly, Celebrate the small wins- celebrate three days of quitting, celebrate a week, celebrate two weeks, celebrate a month, celebrate two, three, four, five, six months and before you know it, you would be celebrating a year and then, two, three, five, seven and ten years and one day you will be on Nairaland reading a similar story that resonates with you and from the depth of your heart, you will pen down a response to the person, just like I have done with you.

May you be set free.

God be with you always.

Best wishes.

You have really done justice to the discussion. God bless you

I was once like you. My dad sold his car just to pay up my loan due to my addiction to gambling. You are the one that needs to make a resolve in your heart that you want to stop and pray about it. Tell your mum the addiction and pray about it. I thought mine wouldn't stop but today I will rather use my 100 naira to buy biscuit than stake it on a game. You need to decide completely to stop. The decision is in your hands, I know by now you would have lost weight so much due to over thinking and calculation. You can stop it and suicide is not the way out.