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Mindlog:
Your younger brother should open a £ domiciliary account in Nigeria and you transfer the funds to it.

justwise:
I doubt your dad will be allowed to open an account with visitors visa.

cbn4main:
If you click on the link that's sent to you by the case worker, seems the application fee has been increased, on the site. It's £1084 for 5 years, and £553 for 3yrs.
Lol..it is most likely that the cash worker is on drugs actually.
I saw the mail with my eyes. The assertions made by the case worker was false: That, I selected visa duration of 3 years or below while my COS is for 3 years and above.
My COS is for 6145 and it's eligible for HCW. I just don't know why the case worker totally neglected it and took it for an ordinary SW visa. I wonder when SOC 6145 became an ordinary SW visa.

And again, if they neglected HCW I applied, how come they didn't tell me to pay for IHS?

jessyeve:
Please can anyone help me with universities that run 2yrs masters with January start date outside London ?

Abiscoco:
Hello everyone. Please, I just got admission into Teesside University but I had a conversation with someone who is studying there and the person mentioned there is a scarcity of part-time jobs for international students in the area. Please does anyone know how true this is? Thank you.

Gloriousheart:
Tobaseye ...

You have to help him to help himself. He can't keep overdepending on you. If not, like others say... Your wife and even yourself will become his enemy later if he asks and you can't provide for him.
Help but help with wisdom. Reduce your siblings entitlement mentality. So that problems won't arise later. You have done plenty for them.

Also, get yourself a car and build yourself a house plus investments while you can. If God forbid your fortunes decline, your brother and family will ask what you did with your money when you had money. You think anybody will buy the excuse that you were only busy taking care of your siblings? Even the siblings will look at you like a foolish big brother who wasted his resources. Continue helping in the way you can, but help yourself too. Set your wife up. Put things in place. Set things in place for your coming kids. Help ooo but remember to help yourself too because nobody or very few will help you if things turn.

MedicH:
Best input here man. Local man salutes you.


To the op you need to go by what this person said. There's a reason fate placed you before them and it's never by chance but by Providence. Do all you can for him but let your attention be on setting him up to stand on his feet and be able to help others too. I've been there really and I know how it was. Two young guys in the university studying law and me myself just came out of school but saw light before I graduated. I do two jobs in the day time and one at night to make sure they don't lack. Before you give him any money for marriage pls know the kind of woman she's marrying and how she can help in the finance of the home. That money for accommodation and marriage should preferably be put into his business so he can grow from there. Look for people that connect Nigerians to go work in Dubai and send your bro out immediately as they pay better there. Who knows, young man may want to travel. A lot of people have discouraged the good thing you are doing and that's why this forum is not a good place to seek advice because of very toxic people. I read one input by ishilove I couldn't believe somebody could think like that.

In all you do for your bro don't forget, he ain't heavy. He is your brother.

More strength big bro.

NL1960:
You are a very funny man. I do not have strength for round and round arguments. You like round and round arguments sha. Not surprising as you are mostly active in the Romance section. Na that place and politics section dem dey do round and round arguments.

He built on the same land after 8 years and not immediately he bought it. Note the key points in the post and in mine. He also used funds built up over an 8 year period to build. Simple and straight forward.

My advise to any young person is that he/she should build up his/her funds and use the proceeds to build that personal house. It is an advise and is not compulsory that the advise is taken. If you come into 2m-3m suddenly as a young person and decided to go and use it to build a personal house especially when you are still single, na your decision be that. Wetin concern vulture with plaiting of hair?.

calgaryFriend:
@Op I commend you, I see you yourself are a much improved and matured man, I bet life has thought you many lessons.

I know you can see deeper than most of the people on this platform trying to ridicule your brother, life is not easy and fingers are not equal, there are lots of 45 year old men unable to make 20,000ngn in a month in our Naija.
It has nothing to do with them being lazy or stupid Naija is simply a difficult place to live.

Can I ask you one question, are you married yourself ?
If you are, what is the position of your wife on this ?
Secondly, why do people like your brother believe if they dont stay in Lagos they will not make it ?
It is obvious that most people are just in Lagos for the rat race, why did you yourself leave Lagos, why not encourage your brother to look at other options apart from Lagos.
Lastly, you do have to help your brother, dont mind people trying to discourage you, it is what it is just try and let him realise that at that age he cannot depend on you for long.

If the business is not working out for him, with uber he can even make more money or he can just go back to the village and start farming.

Anyway, I wish you and your brother all the best.
Life especially in Nigeria is not a tea party so I pray t hings become better.

When I read your kind of story, it hurts me deeply, the government has stolen Nigerians future, that is why people prefer to be slaves in countries like Ghana and co than stay in Nigeria.

The quality of life of majority of Nigerians is comparable to that of people that their country is at war....

Zoharariel:
You are full of wisdom!

calgaryFriend:
Don't mind that clown . @ishilove, try to see life from another perspective.
Nigeria as it is currently is an aberration, so the people that made it are not geniuses, they are just lucky.
The fact someone is able to graduate and have their parents slot them into NNPC despite graduating with a 2:2 does not mean the 1st class roaming about is lazy.

I have seen so much in my life that I know better than to judge others, circumstances are different and most people feeling fly today would probably commit suicide if they dealt with half of what some people have had to deal with.

RoyalBlu:
Please tell him to 'cut his cloth' according to his 'material'.

The marriage ministry is no child's play.

The main thing now is getting a good woman who truly understands the beauty of humble beginnings.

It's well with him.

Brooke60:
Kudos to you. Its not easy I beg. I am right there and as a woman, its killing me gradually.


1. Tell him that's the only time you will ever support him with House rent.
2. He should get married to a hard-working girl who will multiply their income as a couple. If na Slay Girl, Odigbere.

3. The wedding should be as simple as possible. Na only rich people get Big weddings nowadays. The economy is not smiling.

4. He is 36, To be honest, no time again. Two 'good heads' are better than one


5. Check my signature, you might need my services

OlawaleBammie:
ok

Mr tobaseye ... do u knw why ur brother is nt tinkin d way u think is cus u ve always got his back, am sure if u discharge him and cut ties for a period of two years he wil tink normal,..

@36?? habaaa!!!

abeg wait, wat is wrong in him getting a low but manageable apartment for now wich can contain him and his wife provided he doesnt want to marry into d existing one?

no b yab but person wey never balance financially no dey too get Choosey and dem dey always try to downsize.
U no get a fixed account of 500k and u re planning to rent an apartment of 400k?? dat is insanity!!!



Better tell him to downsize, get a room self contain with low price, find a virtuous lady out der who beliv in d days of little beginning, get to knw her parent and d the proper on her, doesnt necessarily mean a high class ceremonious wedding (after all na dowry my Bible comand me say i must pay, av nt read d place where wedding gown and suit, reception, gigantic makeup and expensive ring is a must for wedding)

No go dey do pass urself oo

Born2Breed:
Someone is renting an apartment which cost 400k and want you to support him with 300k.

That your brother hold your mumu switch oh.

Your brother is a miser and he has a secret account somewhere but want to fleece you until your eye open. He is taking advantage of your generosity.

If you give him the 300k, which is 75% of the total rent,then be ready to pay 75% of his wedding expenses and also the next rent after the two year expiration. Better start complaining to him how broke you are too and focus more on yourself.

Don't give people money for food or house rent, rather give for business or school fees.

kestolove95:
So what happen next in d movie eyan blogger blogger?

Maiyakz:
Hello House,

I need an urgent advice.

I have been studying in the Uk for almost a year now and was working to support myself (part time) through this period and in the process I exceeded my work term limit.

Recently, I got a permanent job in the UK that are willing to sponsor my work visa (Tier 2).

Would my exceeding Tier 4 visa affect my chances of getting Tier 2 visa and how do I remedy it?

Thanks for your honest response.

Maiyakz:
Hello House,

I need an urgent advice.

I have been studying in the Uk for almost a year now and was working to support myself (part time) through this period and in the process I exceeded my work term limit.

Recently, I got a permanent job in the UK that are willing to sponsor my work visa (Tier 2).

Would my exceeding Tier 4 visa affect my chances of getting Tier 2 visa and how do I remedy it?

Thanks for your honest response.

AntiBrutus:
So, the engagement guy has backed off.
And she remembers you, her "sim 2" ?

Okay...well done.
Green means "GO", you may progress.

Kingwizzy16:
Go ahead bro, but this time if she said NO, tell her you don't accept no as an answer.




But how about the news about her being engaged?

Pierohandsome:
hahahaha

Should u rather obey man or God? As for needs, God doesnt look at ur needs before instructing u infact, ur seed becomes a sacrifice whn u do it under hardship and not whn u have enough.

KushyKush:
I feel bad right now. A family friend had about 18 shops that was demolished. He has been having high BP since last month

KushyKush:
I just feel bad for them. Properties worth billions gone!




Probably original receipts and survey plans? Lagos is always adamant to compensate victims of demolition. This is no news to anyone