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obowunmi:
How do you mean? Pls explain

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I think what the op needs is a evasive and mysterious woman who would keep you guessing. She may not be as beautiful as u r used to but she would be more intellectual than anything you have ever seen. You should contact me.

Most bachelors think its their entitlement to have women cook for them. This wouldn't be wrong in an ideal society,but ours isn't a world of ideas instead it is a world of motives. By having a lady over to your place to cook for you, you open yourself up to being misunderstood and manipulated. And besides the fun of being a bachelor is cooking for yourself and eating take outs. Here are some reasons why you must never allow a girl access to your kitchen 1. IT IS A SIGN OF COMMITMENT. By giving a lady free access to your kitchen you automatically tell her that she has become a viral part of you. And ladies love to assume the role of mother hen, so she picks up feeding as one of her womanly and wifey. So once you have shown her the pot,you might as well as show her the ring. 2. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MAKES THE MEAL When we go to canteens to eat we never know what really makes up the meal, but then a canteen cook has no business trying to get me to settle down. Lets be real, women have been known to drift to the extreme for as little as a ring. From a piece of her pubic hair to a slice of her toe nail. 3. SHE LEARNS HOW TO MANIPULATE YOU. Ever heard of the maxim "The stomach is the road to a man's heart". By receiving stomach facilities we often forget the essential part of partner selection. We ignore the vital needs we want in a partner and remember only our need for food. Just like Esau we sell our birthright for a plate of porridge. It clouds our judgement [/color. 4. COOKING TAKES HER TIME. Personally I feel it is wrong to take up someone's vital time when am not sure of my intentions. Most of this ladies would probably meet the real man for them if they were not so busy preparing a three squared meal for you. So until you are sure of your intentions I think you should give her a chill pill. 5. ONLY GIRLS THAT COOK PLACE CURSEs AFTER A BREAKUP. Most breakups are messy,but no breakup is as messy[color=] as that of a girl who cooks. She feels cheated and angry and would waste no further time in placing a curse on you and your unborn family. I don't know if those causes work. But u can never tell.

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How much does he earn?

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I have a little working experience,and I already have a ready network. That's why I would rather marry someone with capital and drive. He wants me to be a civil servant.

Hi OP

You intend doing domething of your own but he thinks you should get a job and chill

What do you want to do? Do you have a plan, source of capital, ready or developing market or is it a typical pipedream of 'I want to start something'?

Have you asked him what he means by get a job and chill... Is he saying work first to understand the corporate world and learn stuffs to apply to your business or is he saying do not start business at all?

Working for someone doesnot mean underacheiving; Afteral, Late Dora did not own NAFDAC, Ngozi doesn't own world bank, Omotola doesn't own nollywood etc.


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Thank you all for your contributions,but I feel I didn't properly Express myself. What I mean by am fast and articulating is that I have big realizable dreams. While he really doesn't like to dream out of his box. His income is fine for a bachelor but I know once we get married it wouldn't do. And he wants to get married next year. And i have younger siblings to take care of.

Good evening,am relatively new on nairaland but I need advice on a pressing life issue. I have been dating a guy for about 8 months now,I know he feels strongly for me and wants to take the relationship further,yesterday he asked me if I wanted the Bella naija sort of wedding. He is thirty three and works in the bank as a marketer,living a comfortable life as a bachelor. I really like him too but I know we don't match in terms of drive. He is the slow and steady person and I am the quick and articulating spec. I intend starting something of my own after school but he thinks I should just get a job and chill. He is an amazing person but I know if I later stick with him I will be in for a life of under achievement. He is living well,a car,a good house,lots of amazing gadgets and all. But am thinking long term success. Am really confused,I don't want temporary emotion to control a permanent decision. And I don't want to lose a good guy.