tsamson:



bro, the sad truth is that Many people can't understand how you feel,
they would only judge you,

bro, i know the pain, are you on Whatsapp,
quote me with your number, lets talk,

i would give you practical step to help you


looking forward to hearing from you

08100399737

standollars:


Hey brother, let me start by addressing you with that.... I was in your situation some years back and would say i made the biggest mistake of my life.

I remember leaving home for my A'Levels in Illorin in the year 2002 with high hope of scaling through and gaining admission into two hundred level in any school of my choice. Unfortunately, i didn't pass the required cut off point in my IJMB exam... but before then, i got a stern warning from my dad saying that would be my last trial exam to gain admission into school as i had written Jamb several times(5x) all to no avail...

After my result for the IJMB exam was released i tried everything humanly possible to see how i could get admitted into school(ABU to be precise) with my result. I tried bribing, begging, even sleeping close to the senate building with the hope that some professor or admin personnel would see and have pity on me... All effort proved abortive!

I just didn't know what i was going to say to my father or how i was going to face my people and friends at home who all thought i had gained admission and was even heading to my sophomore year. Hence, i took a decision to lie to my parents i had been granted admission to study Accounting with the hope that i'll write Jamb again and enter school the next academic session(My biggest life mistake EVER)

Year after year i was denied admission because i'm non-indigene and it got to a level i became disillussioned and dispassionate about writing Jamb again... I just kept on with the lie and hoped on travelling out with whatever resources i could lay my hands on to avoid the truth from coming to bare someday! Life was so difficult bro, there where times i cried endlessly hoping and praying my travails ended...

I couldn't travel as planned because i didn't have the financial muscle to embark on such venture... i stayed away from home for years even when i was supposed to have graduated and served according to my academic info with them. When life became unbearable, i had to let the cat out of the bag but before that, they somehow suspected! How did they suspect you ask...? It was during my sister's traditional wedding and everybody had to be there... My appearance on that day made them suspect something was wrong but i still maintained my position! i was looking like i had aids cos i wasn't eating and dressing properly... I did all i could to dissuade such notion from their heart not knowing i was hurting and killing myself the more... if only i knew that was even the best moment to reveal my situation and condition.

Where the bubble burst was when a job opportunity opened from one of the telecom giants and i was asked to send my cv and documents for my name to be included... My brother i just could not keep up with the lies anymore. At first, i wanted to tell them i wasn't interested that i'ld love to be self employed but i just couldn't because i needed help badly for me to move on with life.... i couldn't do it anymore... i was dying inside, time was going and i had achieved absolutely nothing tangible with my life!

I opened up bro and hell was let loose.... My family cried, my mum almost wept her eyes out, my dad on his own was dissapointed but still asked me to come back home... I was the brightest of my family, but what went wrong along the line i still cannot phantom!

I returned home and started working where i was able to raise some funds to get back to school.

Lo and behold, i'm now a 400level student of UNILAG after much assistance from my parents to get back to school... You see sometimes we think we know it all and can figure things out outselves... It doesn't work that way bro... i've being there, done that and i tell you it might not work in your favour.

You'll only waste your time and years. You're still youngggg at just 22. I plead you go back home and face the consequences and look for alternatives while you stay with your parents. NEVER LIE TO THEM ABOUT YOUR ACADEMIC STUFF. You'll only regret it bro. They are the only one who can help you.. forget what they might say to you just develop a thick skin and let them say whatever they like to you, not to worry you'll come out victorious at the end of it all.

this is practically what I'm going through, I'm glad you came to my aid sir

orobs93:


are you sure this is your WhatsApp number

yes I am

orobs93:


drop Ur contact for m let's chat on WhatsApp

08100399737

orobs93:


we can chat privately just quote me then we can connect

hello

henchamb:
Go home and open up to them.
If they ask you to leave, leave the house and go hustle legitimately then return like a king

thank you very much henchamb. I just need to brace myself now

Oyindidi:
Learn to be truthful to your parents, you can talk to your mum if you're scared of your dad. Go home and explain to them.

Don't feel like you're the black sheep cos you can't gain admission in school.

Stay strong

I know I shouldn't feel like a black sheep because of I didn't get admitted, there's more to life than the university. I feel like I haven't found my purpose in life

izzou:


All I see is a guy, who's living a life trying to impress his parents

My question is? What exactly do you want to become in life? Because I don't see a university as your point of calling.

Sit down and discuss with your parents. Tell them who you really are and want to be. Stop wasting their money on Jamb and when you finally enter, you graduate with a 3rd class, thereby making issues worse.

Be a man bro. Define yourself to your parents and whoever cares to know. Stop the lies. They won't take you far

thank you for this, I know the lies won't help, I've disappointed the family several times, don't how they would take this

I'm a 22 years old boy who's been constantly torn apart from within, I have always been seen as the black sheep in the family, I mean everything I do comes back to haunt me. I finished secondary school 2013, took Jamb but didn't get through, then 2015 came and got a pre-degree form for Adekunle ajasin University located in Ondo. I scaled through the exams, got admitted but I need was to pass Jamb for the same year. I didn't make the cut off.
  I was so ashamed of myself but I believed I still had time, so I came up with a lie, what I was going to do was pretend I actually got admitted to the school, then with the money given to me, I would get another Jamb, pass it and be a student...
  Unluckily for me, I got found out by my cousin in school who told my family, now they are requesting for my matric number and password, which I don't have. I'm too deep in the lie to say the truth because I know I'm most likely going to be disowned (my dad has made that clear). Now I'm thinking about cutting ties, staying in school and try to come up with some money so I can really be in school and study.. only then can I tell them what happened.. I don't know, I'm pretty confused and would be grateful to any advice, I'm lost but I'm hoping to find my way..