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So when it comes to arousíng a woman and making her love the things you do in bed, you need to make her feel good about the things you do to her in her head.

When you’re in a new relationship, getting naked in front of each other is all it takes to get the bodies warm and ready for action. But if you want to have wild, passionate séx with a girl and make her love the things you do to her in bed, you need to do more than just drop your shorts.

Here are 10 things you can do to make her love it.

1. Take your time. This is something most men don’t give a thought about. More pre-intimacy. Guys know the rules, but they just can’t help it. All you want to do is stick the shaft and drive. But think about it, by delaying the penetration and enjoying the pre-intimacy, she’d feel more wet and will enjoy séx a lot more. Isn’t that worth the effort? And here’s another thing to remember. By extending pre-intimacy, you’re giving your mind and your little guy more time to prepare for séx. And by spending more time on pre-intimacy, you’ll reduce your chances of losing an erection midway.

2. Emotional connection. To enjoy séx better, girls need to feel connected to the guy emotionally. Well, this doesn’t make one night stands less séxy. But in a relationship where you’ve had séx a few times, you always need to focus on making her feel loved and emotionally connected to you. It’ll make her enjoy the night a lot more. Speak to her lovingly, kiss her all over her face and ears, and whisper sweet nothings into her ear as you prepare to make love. Get this right, and she’ll definitely feel more connected to you and even fall more in love with you.

3. Physical connection. When you have séx, the two bodies unite and become one. When you’re on top of the girl, make sure both of you are positioned well and feel comfortable. Neither of you can enjoy séx if your bodies don’t feel comfortable against each other. Breathe together and take in your breath just as she takes in hers. When your bodies unite and synchronize with each other perfectly, breathing and all, she’ll feel more connected to you and may even think she’s found the perfect match for her body.

4. Variety and games. Lovemaking is passionate. But too much of a good thing can bore anyone. So try to mix in the passionate séx with games and fun. Girls love having a nice time in bed, and it doesn’t always have to be about séx. Cuddle her, tease her, play with her clothes and just have fun with each other for a while before deciding to jump each other’s bones.

5. Set the mood right. If you want to have awesome séx, you need to set the mood right. You can use perfumed body oils and give her a massage for half an hour while focusing on her love spots, so you can make her feel Hot and relaxed, and extend pre-intimacy at the same time. You can even use porn if you’re not in the mood for something elaborate. Or both of you can go clubbing on a Saturday night and grind against each other in the club until you make her wet and want to take you right there. While you can’t create perfect séxual moods all the time, put in an effort to build the séxual tension up, and she’ll definitely orgasm a lot better.

6. Self esteem. For a woman, self esteem is one of the most important things to feel séxy about herself when she’s in bed with a man. When you’re making love with your girl, make her feel loved and comfortable, and compliment her body or any other specific regions that you find séxy. Women love a man who boosts their ego in bed. Overlook her awkward spots and don’t stop complimenting her body. And she’ll bring out the séxy minx inside of her who’ll feel confident and give you a better time in bed.

7. Make her mind go wild. Girls have an active imagination too. And if you can stimulate her mind into thinking dirty and naughty, she’ll definitely get wilder in bed. Recreate fantasies that she’ll enjoy, talk to her about the first time both of you saw each other naked, or remind her about the time both of you did something wild outside the house. And when you learn which fantasies turn her on more than the others, use those fantasies while having séx with her.

8. Give all of her your attention. For guys, there are just two parts of a girl’s body that occupies their attention in bed. But if you really want your woman to have a wild time in bed, don’t isolate yourself to just a place or two on her body. Focus on all of her, kiss her hands, lick her navel, kiss her toes, the back of her neck and everywhere else. If she moans or gasps, you know you’re doing the right thing.

9. Satisfy her. Can you really enjoy séx if you don’t finish yourself off? Of course, you can’t. And for girls, it works the same way too. Don’t get carried away while having séx and focus only on your own needs. Take it slow and warm her up, and don’t ejaculate until your woman has orgasmed first. Or if you’d like, try to orgasm together. But don’t end it before she’s had an orgasm. Even as you have séx, focus on her pleasure and work your way to make her orgasm. By doing that, you’ll feel more proud of accomplishing a good finish and keeping her satisfied.

10. Séx has to end with love. Just like pre-intimacy, afterplay too is rather important for a girl. For a guy, séx is just séx. But for a girl, séx includes pre-intimacy and afterplay to have a better impact. Cuddle up after séx and talk to each other for a few minutes. Add in a few kisses and compliments and she’ll love you for the great guy you are. Just don’t finish up, turn away and fall asleep. Pillow talk after séx can bring both of you closer and make her feel appreciated and loved.

And now that you know what women want in bed, try to make sure your girl has a great time when she’s in bed with you. Remember to focus more on her pleasure, and you’ll end up feeling on top of the world too!

baralatie: what is wrong wit giving her a wedding ring & marriage straigt.

Some believe in enjoying their courtship a little because immediately after the wedding d story might change.

Thorerah: Yes it can but it depends on the agreement by both partners to wait

Wat if u agree wit ur partner and the other person is doing it elsewhere?

(Just saying)

Thorerah: Yes it can but it depends on the agreement by both partners to wait

Wat if u agree wit ur partner and the other person is doing it elsewhere?

There was a time when sex was viewed as a big deal but not in this age and time. Sex is now seen as a normal thing and you would be seen as abnormal if you were dating and not having sex. No one even seems to agree or believe that anyone is a virgin too these days.

It then brings about the question; can a relationship survive without sex?

Surprisingly, when this question was asked on a Facebook page only one man out of 7 who commented thought there wasn’t hope for such a relationship. The remaining 6 men and 3 women believed a relationship can be sustained without sex. One lady especially said that it can survive if the guy can take it. Why the guy? Aren’t there women who pressurize their men for sex?

Men are generally viewed as the gender that demand sex more in relationships so it was surprising that most men who dropped comments thought a relationship could make it without the infusion of sex.

Guys, can you date a woman without having sex with her? Ladies, do you think sex is a must-do in relationships?

Let’s discuss people!

First impressions may be made in moments, but they predict the course your relationships follow. So if you know what exactly about you draws in the votes, you can perfect it -- and do better with the opposite sex. So what do women notice immediately?

According to Dr Gordon Patzer, author of Looks: Why They Matter More Than You Ever Imagined, and one of the world’s leading authorities on physical attractiveness, a lot of what women notice in the first few minutes is appearance-based. “A substantial portion of the six features of a man are apparent, in terms of height, weight and overall physical attractiveness,” he says. And when appearances don’t make the cut, the door slams shut on further interactions. Here’s a list of things to keep that door open.

1. Physical stature
Yep, you knew this already: size matters. Height and weight are right on top of the list of things women notice. “Too much or too little of either immediately classifies the man as unattractive to women, and closes the door before less physically obviously features (such as confidence) can be determined,” says Dr Patzer. Take heart though, the acceptable range is influenced by the woman's own height and weight.

2. Appearances and attractiveness
Yes, beauty is skin deep, but it’s going to get women to explore what lies beneath. Attractiveness does include what you were born with, but your genes alone can't scuttle your chances. What really counts is what you do with your hair, clothes, grooming and basic hygiene. If you can't make the effort, women certainly are not going to work hard to learn more about you!

3. Smile
Once women are done assessing your overall build, women will look at your smile. “The ability to smile, particularly within the first few minutes of meeting, sends a welcoming, non-hostile signal to women,” says Dr Patzer. There is one proviso though -- the smile must show off reasonably good-looking teeth. It's never too late to fix an appointment with the dentist!

4. Humour
Another reason to show off those pearly whites! Women like men who have the ability to laugh. Even better, make the woman laugh. That instantly nets you bonus points!

5. Confidence
Women find confident men attractive. According to Dr Sameer Malhotra, head of psychiatry and psychotherapy department at Fortis Hospital in New Delhi, within the first few minutes of meeting, women will not only suss out your level of confidence, they will also interpret the vibes you give out and how you think. “Women notice how clear or decisive you are and whether you approach things positively.” Just remember, cockiness and arrogance are not the same as confidence!

6. Conversation
Men have successfully given womankind the impression of being strong and silent. So women aren't expecting you to have mad talking skills. All you've got to do hold her attention. “We know (scientifically) that the more or longer that a woman gets to know a man, the more physically attractive he becomes in her mind,” says Dr Patzer. Women are looking for someone to keep up the conversation -- so forget the one-liners, just be yourself!

You may envy the wild life of young, single men. You might imagine their escapades, that they sleep with a different woman every night. Maybe you remember sowing your own wild oats — or regret that you didn’t sow more while you had the chance.

But I have news for you: Research has shown that married men have significantly more s*x than their single counterparts. Why? Well, my guess is that it’s simply a lot of work for a single man to repeatedly find a new s*x partner. As a married man, on the other hand, you have (theoretically) a s*xual partner by your side every day.

So, you may wonder, why you aren’t having more s*x? If you’re a married man who has a home, a job, a kid or two, and a wife who also works, it is likely because stress is wearing you both out and pulling you apart. You, your wife, or both of you may feel that you’re so overwhelmed and exhausted that the last thing you want at the end of the day is s*x.

Yet se*uality is a natural and essential part of intimate human partnerships. And men who have regular s*xual release are healthier than those who don’t. So what can you do to create an atmosphere of greater intimacy and more s*x?

Creating a climate for intimacy is easier than you might think. Small changes make a big difference. So here are five simple strategies to help you have more s*x with your wife, starting today.

1. Do relaxing breathing twice a day – When men are stressed, their testosterone levels drop. And when their levels drop, they have a lower libido. Relaxing breaths reduce stress. Dr. Weil suggests doing a 4:7:8 breath four times, twice a day. Inhale through the nose to the count of 4. Hold your breath for the count of 7. And then exhale through your mouth to the count of 8.

2. Go to bed at the same time as your wife – This may seem like a no-brainer, but the truth is that many couples develop chronic patterns of separate bed times. Doing so creates a climate of separateness and emotional distance. While going to bed together at night doesn’t ensure that you will actually have s*x, it does begin to create an environment of closeness. Pick at least one or two nights a week when you always go to bed together. Start your bed time with spooning or snuggling and see where it leads.

3. Compliment and thank your wife every day – Nothing leads more to “come hither” than gratitude and compliments. Women — and men for that matter — want to be appreciated. They want to be noticed, admired, and complimented. When you saturate your relationship with gratitude and the good energy of appreciation, your wife can’t help but want to be close to you… in every way. Conversely, nothing leads more to “not tonight dear” or “I have a headache” than complaints. Don’t kill the mood with chronic criticisms. Keep the compliments flowing.

4. Make a date for s*x and have it be a special evening – Many couples think it’s unromantic to plan a s*x date. However, when life gets busy, spontaneity may never happen! Plan, anticipate and enjoy the wait. Hint at what you are looking forward to and build the anticipation. When the time comes, try showering together, lighting candles or massaging with lotion. Have a leisurely evening of sensuality. Women, in particular, enjoy the ritual and soft touch of romance.

5. Talk to your wife and listen! You might want to have s*x in order to feel connected but guess what? Women want to feel connected in order to have s*x. They want to know that they’re in a relationship that involves real emotional intimacy and sharing. s*x should be one part of a pattern of talking together, sharing ideas, hearing each other, spending time together, and having each other’s backs. And, for women, chatting reduces stress. You don’t need to solve her problems. In fact, you don’t really need to say much at all. Just spend a little time each day listening to the woman you love. Then watch her stress levels drop and her sense of connection to you skyrocket.

Use these five strategies to create more intimacy, more connection, more sizzle, and less stress in your marriage. Your wife will thank you and you’ll realize that those single men are the ones that ought to be dreaming about being a married guy just like you!

SELENAqueensy: u said my mind

In support of it. Gbam!!!

shizzle11: Why would any sane person not think of being married someday?

Some prefer to wonder about believing they are enjoying life

Thanks bro

Have been wondering the actual time that is right to give a lady an engagement ring but still can't figure it out. Some persons said its before introduction some said after introduction. Please I need ur advice.