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His turn. Let him chew her to the fullest.

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crossbreedwears:
A lot of girls will be nailed today all in the name of Valentine

. Nailed is under statement,alot of girls will be wounded today.

Nigha said he had even composed a Valentine song for her . Someone that doesn't love him one bit coz no woman will be too busy to call or return the missed calls of the man she truly loves. Bro,leave that one alone and look for who'll complement your energy.

This kwara state matter seems it won't be ending anytime soon.

I wonder why not too much attention is channelled towards there,abi na because as Dem no get oil

TheDepressed:
Don't feel I should attend as long as she didn't invite me herself
But what about assisting?

No need for that.

SadiqBabaSani:
Nasir El’Rufai just finished himself,

That confession is a serious offense and DSS will be salivating, that is a threat to national security

. He who the gods want to kill,they first of all make him mad.

It seems the Mallam has finally shot himself by himself.

TheDepressed:
extra information

I'm no saint.
I have my own financial problems.
I made some money outside of Nigeria, then I met my wife and a year later my travelling routes blocked.
I have a gambling addiction.
I'm in and out of work and my major source of income is rents from my properties.

So during dating, I had to make my wife block this dude on fb. He was her ex, according to my wife, this dude made away with her then school fees to italy or xo but outside the continent.

I dunno maybe she reconnected with him and he promised her eldorado. Maybe he was in the country hence all the absence from my home.

I dunno

But some persons say, she must have fed her mother with the proceeds from another man and hence the consequences.
Many speculations....


But none of this matters now, I just wanted to create an awareness of where we are as a couple and the question at hand consign the funeral.

Bro, don't ever make the mistake of attending the funeral . It seems like you're hellbent on receiving the greatest insults of your life . Coz I don't see any reason why you should be bothering yourself over something that doesn't concern you.

Any woman who tells you that she wouldn't have sexxx before marriage should be considered as a bandit.

Hell Rufai the Kaduna midget should stop acting as if he's a saint all of a sudden, whereas he's amongst the cabals that helped enthroned this administration.

Don't go to the funeral, unless you would want to be disgraced publicly.

It seems your supposed wife has gotten herself a new man coz no married woman would happily stay out of her marriage for over a year and wouldn't want to come back,all because of a slap? . And to think that you had been remorseful over it but she doesn't feel the same.

She's even preventing you from seeing your kids .

No be small thing una dey see for inside this institution called marriage sha . Makes me wondering whether I should start considering selling tubers of yam instead of getting married

Samueltemi337:
You don find job for yourself

you even get time to reply that Nairaland resident beggar.

yemiike:
Thats nothing, he should thank God his own is selling ice cream. If you see me carrying bricks for a living. You will pity me.
I graduated since 2019

I swear my bro. Life isn't Fair. Especially when you're a graduate, that's when you'll understand what life is really all about.

Who no go no know ..

The way people seems to look down on people without getting to know them beats my imagination.

Even the ice cream seller come appear say he even go school pass all of them combined self

Tinubu and his goons have finally handed over the affairs of our very beloved country over to the US

Chaiiii what a time to be alive

The weakling has finally let go of his balls .

Wike 1-0SIMP Fubara

Isn't it a pity that someone like Hell Rufai despite all his atrocities could still be gallivanting around and feeling like a saint?

Someone who shoulda been behind bars a long time ago.

Good day everyone.

Recently I got a call from a female neighbor of mine, telling me I should rush home. And I was like--"what's wrong?". But before I could ask,she had already ended the call. That was how the conversation between me and my two bottles of Heineken at madam-Baddo's bush bar was cut short

I hurriedly boarded an okada and got home. To my greatest surprise,I saw a huge crowd gathered at the front of my compound. That was when I was told it was another neighbor,a guy in his early 30's who wanted to commit suicide . And since most of the neighbors around were all women,so they thought it'd be nice to call all the male neighbor to come and break into his apartment because he had already locked his door before he wanted to do the act.

Well,as the gentleman I'm,I went to his window and saw the young man sitting on the floor of his kitchen, holding a knife and had already cut his hands. On the inside of me,I knew I wasn't the right therapist to talk to someone who's got suicidal thoughts on him out of it,but I just have to at least try my best to . I spoke to him,and gave him some words of encouragement and motivation,and even used myself as an example. After all,he was around and a living witness of how I managed to survived my own predicaments, ranging from failed business transactions and failed relationships sagas. But how I managed to survived all of them still remains a mystery to me,up till this moment.

Finally,I was able to convince him,and he came out. While everyone was hailing and singing my praises,I was wondering what coulda brought such thoughts upon a Young Man in the first place? Seriously I didn't care to ask what was the reason behind it,but I know for sure that no matter how and what it may be,it wasn't worth it.

Yesterday,he came to me to show appreciation . At least,for once,I felt relieved knowing I'm the reason someone's still sipping in air . The dude and his fiancee brought a tuber of yam for me and as I'm typing this, I'm equally waiting for my own fiancee to come back from work and do justice to the yam.


So,My fellow dear Nairalanders,no matter how and what life might had thrown at you, please feel free to talk to someone about it. Don't feel abandoned. Don't give in. The help you seek may just be a second away from you. And finally, suicide should never be an option.

Nlfpmod obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun.

Please let's do justice to this thread.

Boobs is life bruh. Boobs is life man

Zonefree:
Obi Cubana's brother is a HOR member under APGA.

If Obi can convince his brother to dump APGA and join him in APC to work for Tinubu, then I'll know he's serious.

Until then, nzuzu is allowed.

Rest man,his brother can as well stay in his APGA and be doing the Lord's work for APC

We all know how y'all down here,loves money more than yourselves.

It seems governor Amunike Otti has received his own port folic of city boy's ambassadorial entitlement . Coz what dah hell is this?

Daddy freezy just confirmed that las las school is a scam, especially the Nigerian higher institutions. . And I kinda agree with him on that. Coz you can't expect someone like peller who's already doing well in his field to come and join you in your universities where majority of your lecturers would be milking him

He worked for PO during the last election even when he was a special advisor to an APC governor . Meaning he can as well work for PO in the next election,even now that he's a city boy ambassador

See reverse psychology.

The white chimpanzee should get out abeg.

Even there in China,we all saw how a faulty bridge collapsed

They wanna make it look like Nigeria is the worst place to live in, even tho he's not entirely far from the truth.

BigYash:
Women in marriage always want to use their exes to pay bills. Don't be surprised o,you might not be the only one she is reaching out to. It's like romance scam. They will bring story to make you feel sorry for them.. Once once they will be billing you,even when their husbands is doing his best to make her comfortable.

I understand you bro . But trust me,her plans have already failed

Mindlog:
Then why did you get in contact with her, knowing she moved on in martiage, with another man to the point of having the boldness to direct billings to you?

If your story is true, why have you not blocked her or are you too eager for more gists about her marriage?

Over your dead body should translate in severing every contact with her, let her face her marriage without you being her crutches.

. Okay sir . Thank you for your piece of advice.

notobiafrababe:
This is my honest take on this matter.
First of all, you handled it well by telling her clearly that you shouldn’t be the one she’s complaining to. That was mature. Once someone is married, especially to another person, emotional boundaries must be respected. No matter the history, you are no longer her safe space.
Now let’s address the real issue.
Marriage is not Instagram. Marriage is not wedding pictures. Marriage is not matching outfits and anniversary captions. Marriage is two imperfect people managing expectations, responsibilities, finances, personalities, family pressure, and sometimes regret.
Some people marry for love.
Some marry for money.
Some marry for pressure.
Some marry for security.
And some marry thinking “it will get better with time.”
But marriage only amplifies what was already there.
If she married a man old enough to be her father because she thought he was “gold,” then she made a choice. Whether that choice was influenced by comfort, pressure, or glitter it was still her decision. Regret after marriage does not automatically mean marriage is bad. It simply means she may have chosen wrongly or for the wrong reasons.
Now, to your question:
Are married men not spending time with their wives?
Some are. Some aren’t.
Are all marriages enjoyable?
No.
Are some marriages peaceful and beautiful?
Absolutely yes.
The difference is not age gap alone. It is compatibility, communication, emotional maturity, shared values, and realistic expectations.
A happy home is not built on: • Money alone
• Social media validation
• Age difference
• Pressure to “secure your future”
A happy home is built on: • Friendship before romance
• Emotional safety
• Mutual respect
• Financial understanding
• Honest communication
• And choosing your partner daily, even when feelings fluctuate
The bigger red flag here is not her unhappy marriage. It is her constantly coming back to you emotionally. That is emotional cheating territory. Whether she realizes it or not, she is trying to reconnect with a past comfort zone because her present is uncomfortable.
You are wise to consider blocking her if she continues. Protect your peace. You are not her therapist. You are not her rescue mission. And you definitely are not her backup plan.
For those planning to marry in the future:
Don’t marry to escape your current life.
Don’t marry because of pressure.
Don’t marry because someone looks financially secure.
Don’t marry someone you cannot talk to freely.
Don’t ignore red flags because of “benefits.”
Marry someone you can laugh with on a bad day.
Marry someone who listens.
Marry someone who respects your growth.
Marry someone whose values align with yours.
Marriage is enjoyable when two people are intentional. It is miserable when one person is pretending.
And lastly if someone leaves you thinking another place is greener, let them stay where they planted themselves. Don’t water what walked away.
Protect your single and peaceful life until the right person comes.
That’s my two cents.

Thank you

WhiteIverson:
This person above me
AI dey cry

Anyways, the fact that you are still communicating with her and even asking if she's happy shows you're not over her yet.

I'm over her Mr. Man . I will never have anything to do with a married woman over my dead body

ThugOfWar:
Before I read the whole thread I knew this billing was going to come up. She's is also telling you all those stories to make you emotional and reap you off your earnings.

Don't cheat the Billing...once a lady is trying to tell you a story be the first person to bill her. Always be ahead of the game.

The sole purpose of that her storyline to you was to collect your money. Guard it jealously. Money is not so easy to make in Nigeria

. I rather die than loose guard for her . Because I was very much alive,even younger,agile and fertile when she left me for her ancestorous husbands . I don't have her time.