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Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Seek medical attention for your wife fast. She may be falling into depression. For the fact she pregnant may be sign of Antepartum depression. Nobody likes to sit around doing nothing.

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Hey dear. Your mom did nothing wrong. She is not hungry, neither does that show sign of poverty. Ignore all these high school kids behind phone keypads batching you left, right and center. Many of them are ill trained wannabes. A Responsible young man coming to meet your parents should have at least brought a bottle of non alcoholic wine with him. Over here, you won’t dare visit the family of the girl you intend to date without at least a bottle of wine. You will be disgraced. Whites know to respectfully disgrace you. Does that mean the family is poor or can not afford the wine? NO. It is called. Courtesy. Can you attend a business dinner at your boss’s house without at least a bottle of wine? NO.
Would you visit your village traditional ruler without a bottle of liquor? NO
So why would any sensible young man visit his future inlaws empty handed? It is a sign of gross irresponsibility.
You tend to wonder why moral is fast going into extinction in Nigeria. Reason is not far fetched. Ill raised kids everywhere from poorly raised parents Watching too many movies. Disrespectful wannabes. You can not give what you do not have. Poorly trained parents can not pass morals down to their wards.

My 2 cents for you
1. Keep your private life off social media. Not everything you bring to the public
2. Stay away from that young man. He is a bad omen. If he thinks your family is hungry and poor, did he train you till this time? Did he pay your school fees to now? Did he feed you till now?

GAZZUZZ:
First let me correct the notion about my vehicle being the bluetech series, It is NOT.

Also fuel filters are replaced at every oil change, and I am a mechanic so it's easy to maintain.

Thanks for pointing that out boss. Knowledge they say is power. I had always thought they are the same. Just looked it up, and all i could find is a difference in the exhaust system which has to do with reduced pollution. Being the expert here. Do you care to shed more lights on the differences in layman language

Mr Gazzuzz, how do you intend to take care of your New baby with bluetec Engine considering there are Adulterated diesel everywhere in Nigeria? I have got a couple of experiences buying fake diesel for Generators back then. Over here we have diesel for V powered engines and regular engines. But you can be sure you will buy top grade products.

GAZZUZZ:
In the 10years I lived in the north, I did Bauchi Lagos over 50times by road and mostly all thru the night. Very pleasurable trips back then.

You seem to know your NE roads very well.

Yes boss. I was all over the North east, west and North Central for over 10 years before i left.

While back Home, Bauchi used to have some of the most tempting roads in the North. So smooth you will not realize you are over-speeding. We used to race Bauchi -Jos back then early Saturday mornings. Another madly tempting road was Jos - Manchok- Kafancha. Where the road passed in between rocks/ mountain. Then once you do kafancha - kwoi- kagarko and come out at Jere junction, you can kill your self until you get to Lokoja on your way to Lagos.

skj1377:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7Q2n6mgvR8

Just uploaded the video I recorded on 2nd February 2016 on my phone but was transferred to some hard disk at the end of the useful life of the phone. As I said the road was not good and the car had airflow meter issues affecting the acceleration and top speed of the car. Please drive carefully life has no duplicate just for entertainment purposes. My first youtube video happy viewing

Is this the Back road or shortcut from Alkaleri in Bauchi to Futuk, kashere in Gombe? If it is, the road is half graded, very bad and prone to attacks. Long stretch, lonely with many fulani settlements along the road. We once came under Boko Haram attack on that road in 2015 just a few kilometres from that Kilishi joint in Alkaleri on my way to Yola from Jos. Doing 200 km/hr on that road has every shades of danger.strayed Animals ,farmers and Traders. enter the road at will. Well i guess you have mastered it. Please be calming and slowing down. Hankali fa baba na

GAZZUZZ:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LmXcU3V4QA0

Bros i have always followed your threads and posts. But that speed too much sir. Nigeria needs to install speed limit signs and enforce them. And there was a bike right in-front of you.

Abeg make we take am easy o.