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Back in my higher institution days, I was dating two ladies at the same time. One was a Christian while the other was a Muslim. As time went on, I realized I needed to become serious with my life and make a clear choice between the two.

Deep inside me, I knew the Muslim lady truly loved me so much. Her love was genuine and sincere. But because I was a Christian, I felt it would be better for me to continue with the Christian lady and let the Muslim lady go. It was not easy for her at all, and honestly, it was not easy for me either, but I believed I was making the right decision then.

So I stayed with the Christian lady. After some time, I suddenly noticed she stopped calling me and no longer picked my calls. I was confused and kept wondering what went wrong. During the holiday, I decided to visit her at her house so we could talk face to face. When I got there, she simply told me she was no longer interested in the relationship. That was how everything ended between us.

A few weeks later, I heard from a reliable source that she was already engaged to another man.

Life moved on, but something unexpected happened that same year in December. One evening, I heard a knock on the gate downstairs. I went to open it, and to my greatest surprise, it was the Muslim lady standing there. She had come back into my life.

From there, the rest became history. Today, we have been happily married for about 16 years, and we are doing very well together.

The biggest shock came years later, around 2020, when the Christian lady suddenly contacted me again. She said she was having serious issues in her marriage and needed someone to talk to. I allowed her to visit me in Lekki. She opened up about many things happening in her home. I advised her to try her best to manage and save her marriage, and I also supported her with some money before she left. That was the end of it.

Life has a funny way of working itself out. Sometimes, time and nature choose the right life partner for a person better than we can ever imagine ourselves.

I am struggling to understand the reasons that whatever this man says irritates me.

remiopash:
GOD IS MY EMERGENCY FUND HOLDER. HE KNOWS HOW MUCH I WOULD NEED AND HE WOULD PROVIDE IT ACCORDINLY.MEANWHILE ,I DON'T SPEND RECKLESSLY, I AM A CAUTIOUS SPENDER.

You were right, just yesterday a friend sent the photos of his wife to me on the hospital bed that needs N4M for surgery, what would his N420k emergency fund do in that capacity.

I was advised to buy a manual car as my first car then, that I should drive it for one year and then buy Automatic thereafter, I bought the manual car, I taught myself how to drive from YouTube and other channels, but do you know that I fell deeply in love with this manual car, whenever I changed the gear I found my self dancing on the wheel but still don't know if am dancing to the media playing in the car or the gear switching.

Whenever I drove on my wife Automatic it would be like I was missing something in driving.

Way back, I used to loosed it and fix the twisted tapes inside it.

Eleribu have spoilt everything but thanks to Jehovah for his blessings.

N100k Kwa

My honest daily/ Monthly bill only, other expenses not Included

Electricity bill 15k
Dstv N11k
School Dailly stipends to kid N1k daily that's N5k a week and N20k a month
Data N1k daily that's N7k a week and N28k a month

Total N74,000

N1OO,000 - 74,000 =N26,000

Who eased the inflation as stated. Government of propaganda whilst a well furnished Lies.

In all honesty, I never imagined that Nigeria can be in all the messy situations that we found it today, never in my widest imagination that Bola Tinubu era will be this messy.

I am very disappointed.

There isn’t a single perfect indicator, but political scientists and historians generally agree that the most determinant factor of a bad government is how it treats the rights, welfare, and accountability to its citizens. In practice, several key signs reveal whether a government is bad or not.
Here are the most important factors 👇
1. Lack of Accountability
If leaders cannot be held responsible for their actions, governments tend to become abusive.
Examples include:
Rigged elections
No independent courts
Media censorship
Leaders staying in power indefinitely
Countries scoring poorly on measures like the Democracy Index or Freedom in the World Index often show this pattern.
Why it matters:
Without accountability, corruption and abuse grow unchecked.
2. Violation of Human Rights
A government becomes clearly harmful when it systematically violates the basic rights of its people.
Examples:
Torture or arbitrary detention
Suppressing protests
Discrimination against minorities
International groups such as Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch monitor these abuses.
3. Widespread Corruption
When public officials use power for personal gain rather than public service.
This includes:
Bribery
Embezzlement
Nepotism
Corruption levels are measured by the Corruption Perceptions Index produced by Transparency International.
4. Failure to Provide Basic Public Goods
A government is failing if it cannot provide essential services such as:
Security
Infrastructure
Healthcare
Education
Organizations like the World Bank and United Nations track these development indicators.
5. Suppression of Opposition
A government becomes dangerous when it does not allow peaceful disagreement.
Signs include:
Arresting opposition politicians
Controlling elections
Banning political parties
Healthy governments allow criticism without punishment.
✅ In summary:
The most decisive factor is whether citizens can hold their leaders accountable and keep their basic rights. When those disappear, corruption, repression, and poor governance usually follow.
💡 A simple rule many scholars use:
If citizens cannot peacefully change their leaders or criticize them without fear, the government is likely bad.

There isn’t a single perfect indicator, but political scientists and historians generally agree that the most determinant factor of a bad government is how it treats the rights, welfare, and accountability to its citizens. In practice, several key signs reveal whether a government is bad or not.
Here are the most important factors 👇
1. Lack of Accountability
If leaders cannot be held responsible for their actions, governments tend to become abusive.
Examples include:
Rigged elections
No independent courts
Media censorship
Leaders staying in power indefinitely
Countries scoring poorly on measures like the Democracy Index or Freedom in the World Index often show this pattern.
Why it matters:
Without accountability, corruption and abuse grow unchecked.
2. Violation of Human Rights
A government becomes clearly harmful when it systematically violates the basic rights of its people.
Examples:
Torture or arbitrary detention
Suppressing protests
Discrimination against minorities
International groups such as Amnesty International and Human Rights Watch monitor these abuses.
3. Widespread Corruption
When public officials use power for personal gain rather than public service.
This includes:
Bribery
Embezzlement
Nepotism
Corruption levels are measured by the Corruption Perceptions Index produced by Transparency International.
4. Failure to Provide Basic Public Goods
A government is failing if it cannot provide essential services such as:
Security
Infrastructure
Healthcare
Education
Organizations like the World Bank and United Nations track these development indicators.
5. Suppression of Opposition
A government becomes dangerous when it does not allow peaceful disagreement.
Signs include:
Arresting opposition politicians
Controlling elections
Banning political parties
Healthy governments allow criticism without punishment.
✅ In summary:
The most decisive factor is whether citizens can hold their leaders accountable and keep their basic rights. When those disappear, corruption, repression, and poor governance usually follow.
💡 A simple rule many scholars use:
If citizens cannot peacefully change their leaders or criticize them without fear, the government is likely bad.

To be honest, Wizkid has lost relevance in music , was watching his video songs the other day and it was bulsh**t

To be honest, I am not interested to watch those guys.

I BELIEVED. GOD FOR UNDENIABLE BREAKTHROUGH.

Happy New Year to all Nairalanders and Nigerians, Welcome to the Year of Taxation.

Nigerians are in a very deep pains for voting for Tinubu.

His few years has been miserable.

Hope Lost Already In This nation, Things have gone really bad and there's nothing the government can do about it.

Just yesterday, I gave my Wife N25k to cook soup for the weekend and guess what, when she came back from the market she said darling things were damm expensive in the market and I borrowed you N7k, imagine borrowed fme or the food both us us would eat o.

And the man in the corridor of governance was chasing shadow with Apc caps.

Rest in peace sir, May heaven received your spirit.

Nothing has benefited Nogerians from this Administration, it has been a regime of policy Summersalt.


Good move. The Federal government should not be maintaining fleets of private jets. Proceeds from such sale can be channeled into other sectors that will benefit Nigerians.

It’s a good one coming of His Excellency, President Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu (GCFR)[/quote]

Happy birthday Olusola Sanwoolu, More years ahead.

I just wasted my time to read through the damn rubbish you put up there, I was thinking that your dad did something wrong/ terrible that made you called your father a wicked man.

Please what have you contributed to your father ever since you became a man to knows when to termed someone a wicked person? what have you done to support him in your little way or you just fold your arms, crossed your legs and expect your father to do everything for you.

My advice for you is to get busy with something good to support your parents.

Happy birthday sir, more years ahead.

You were wrong bro, mummy Esther has been a wealthy woman from the age 37 years back then, she doesn't need money before she'll repect and honour her hubby.

The Oukoya that I know has been a man of strict principles, he doesn't have time for those rubbish you mentioned in your captioned.

When there is life, hope is reflecting around

This is a difficult task

The Op should stop misleading people, I built my house @40 years and bought a car at 44 years.