The Question Mark boss announced on facebook that his mum, who was at his wedding a fortnight ago, has passed on. She died yesterday at Ilorin teaching hospital after a brief illness. May her gentle soul rest in peace.

P Sqaure's Peter Okoye made a mistake while congratulating Limpopo crooner, Kcee, for joining the oil business by tweeting "Welcome on bored" instead of "Welcome on Board". A fan had already called him "empty head" just before he corrected this error. He subsequently blocked the "fan" - much better than insulting/bickering with him/her like wizkid. #Maturitycounts

http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/peter-okoye-replies-fan-who-called-him.html

Mohammed Afar, the resident of Aleppo area in Syria is 11 years old. The modified Kalashnikov assault rifle he carries stretches to more than half of his height. Over the top of his faded yellow jacket a Free Syrian Army (FSA) vest holds three extra clips, each full with live ammunition, and a walkie-talkie. An FSA badge sits on one side and a rendering of the Islamic Shahada, in Arabic calligraphy, on the other.
He says he does not miss school or want to stay at home with his mother and two sisters. “I want to stay as a fighter until Bashar is killed,” he says, referring to Syrian President Bashar al-Assad. The fighters surrounding him, all claiming to be from Liwa al-Tawhid, pass him a sniper rifle and offer to take him to a frontline, so he can demonstrate his shooting.The father of the boy, Mohammed Saleh Afar refers to his son as “ great shot” and “a little lion.” According to Mohammed “When my father goes to the frontline, he takes me with him,” says Mohammed. “He says to be careful and we find a safe place to shoot from.”Over the course of its grinding 21-month insurgency, Syria’s children have endured numerous abuses.

Why are they using children for combat and other military purposes. Isn't this child abuse?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/photo-meet-11-year-old-boy-whose-dream.html

I don't know what to believe. What do you think? Real or Photoshop?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/real-or-photoshop.html

Exactly two months after her death from complications following childbirth on the 3rd of July , friends of the late Adenike Ogungbe, founder and CEO of Ewar Makeovers. who have been investigating her death, have written an open letter to her in laws. Read the letter below

It’s no news to every born Nigeria; home & abroad the standard processes involved in a marriage. Where there are cultural standards, there are also religious standards. In most parts of the world, either culturally or by virtue of religion when a woman marries a man she automatically adopts her husband’s family name. In exceptional cases, the couple may decide otherwise. The Ogungbe family, without doubt are Yorubas and they have proclaimed long enough to be Christians. Unfortunately, the recent events following their actions and contributions to Adenike Ogungbe’s death has proven this bunch otherwise.


In the course of our investigation, some people actually questioned and wondered if Adenike ordinarily moved in with Abidemi without formal/religious ceremony. Adenike got married to Abidemi legally and traditionally. Some of us were there to grace the occasion. Adenike was a legal, faithful, dedicated and committed wife to the Ogungbe family. In Yoruba culture, during the traditional wedding ceremony, the bride is made to sit on the laps of her newly acquired parents. This is only to confer their acceptance of the child as their own and welcome her into the family. Unfortunately, the Ogungbe family failed Adenike in this regard.

She was denied of adequate medical needs by being taken to a quack doctor in an occultic hospital in Sagamu, Ogun State.

Today, 3rd of September 2013 marks the 2nd month anniversary of Adenike’s depart and sadly up until this very moment NOT ONE single member of the entire Ogungbe family have gone to pay respect to the Kareems’ family (Adenike's biological parents) neither have they been allowed to see the child Adenike left behind. Worst still not even Adenike’s estranged husband Bidemi has gone to see his in-laws! What a shame!

They have lost a child, a successful, young, vibrant woman for that matter. How evil could the Ogungbe’s be? We believe there is no adult or elderly person or anyone with wisdom or human conscience left in the ogungbe family, that is why we decided to write an open letter to the OGUNGBE FAMILY OF AGO – IWOYE and let them know that they’re a big shame and disgrace to the entire Yoruba culture, Christian world and human race. Shame on them!

It’s only human to pay honour to whom honour it is due. Adenike might have died as Mrs Ogungbe, it does not change the fact that she has parents and siblings who deserve to be honoured having given their daughter away in trust to this evil family that not only controlled, manipulated and purposely led her to her death.

Friends of Ewar

Source:http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/ewar-ogungbe-friends-send-open-letter.html

Who agrees with me?



Source: Bella Naija, http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/karen-igho-has-got-body-to-die-for.html

Would he be better as a female? Hot or not?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/identify-nigerian-male-celeb-with-makeup.html

Two fans were spotted having sex on the field under the full glare of the pitch's floodlights. The adventurous pair, who clearly thought they were alone, were caught making out by security guards in the middle of Brondby's Copenhagen ground. What won't we see these days! Sexual recklessness of the highest order - what do you think?

To see the picture, click here: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/09/shocking-photo-two-football-supporters.html

I know this is easy but I need to put a smile on someone's face:-). But you have to tell me the name of his wife and kids. Lets see how well you know your celebrities

See more here: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/identify-nigerian-celebrityand-win.html

http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/ese-walters-saga-pastor-j-writes-pastor.html

This issue is still on oh! Pastor J writes Pastor Biodun. Shouldn't they just come up with the truth and kill this matter already? What do you think?
Read the letter below:
"For the leaders of this people cause them to err; and they that are led of them are destroyed.”Isaiah 9:16 “Let them alone: they be leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.”- Matt 15:14
I was going to be silent on this sad, pathetic but true (in many shades) allegation against Pastor B and his popular and trendy ministry. My silence was borne out of respect for the kingdom of God and things that pertain to God. But all this changed when I heard the horrific tales of people who had been through the mess of this blind man, and the fact that he had no moral motivation to deny or accept the allegation; all he showed on Sunday was a demented swagger and perverse talk. Continue to read the rest ...
My sole purpose in writing this piece is to open the eyes of the world and believers to the hypocrisy and nonsense behind the pulpit, and to plea that these wolves and blind men stop deflating the faith of people who Christ died for. I am a Pastor, a full time minister at that, and I shall not sit back whilethe name of my God, the ministry, and the works of other shepherds is brought to disrepute by the activities, action and inaction of a few blind men behind the pulpit.

I am tired of the nonsense of religion crying out, “touch not my anointed”; does this mean we cannot rebuke ourselves when we err, this much Paul did to Peter when he erred in Galatians 2:11 “But when Peter was come to Antioch, I withstood him to the face, because he was to be blamed”. It is therefore pertinent that I rebuke the wolves in shepherd’s clothing’s. It is time to set the record straight, and please don’t sell me the bullocks of judge not, I haven’t said anyone is going to hell, but of course if they don’t change, they have only one path.
It is high time we told the truth, which is plain, simple and without coloration. The stories of Franca and Ese is not only true but they are just a few tales of the tantalizing sex escapades of this clergy. This has been a recurring decimal in the ministry of the clergyman. This wasn’t the first time these stories will come forth, for those old COZA members, for those who were there when he was in Ilorin, when the church moved to Pipeline Road, Ilorin, having left Kwara Hotel, they will remember there was a time when the Pastor was suspended from ministering by his Father in the Lord, Rev Oset of Canaan Ministries. Rev. Oset sent guest ministers to the church every Sunday after that, but still Pastor B in his deceit will still minister in the pretence of introducing the guest minister, while he exhorts for minutes.
I therefore laugh in mockery when He says his wife loves him, the woman has no choice. His core circle of Pastor Wole (Ilorin Chapter, the only man who maybe clean), and Pastor Flo (COZA, Lagos) knows of this fact, little wonder Ese said Pastor Flo said he knows about their adventures in that hotel room in London.
This is not the story of a hater; I don’t want or envy anything he has. He cannot ever have what I have and carry; neither do I crave for what he has. I am sure no one in the city of Ilorin, where this man started is bemused by these stories, no one who finished from the University of Ilorin during the period of 2003-2008, and was not a blinded COZA member can be mightily shocked at these revelations. I have heard tales of many more victims

I even heard from a woman who knows five friends who were victims, I saw it online the other day of a guy who said he formally works for him and he knows up to 130 people, outrageous as it may sound that too is true. Rev Oset in true conscience cannot deny the knowledge of these negatives. But we are a nation of hypocrites and religious folks; we ask no questions of leaders, so they can hide under the canopy of religion, even when they are filthy. Anyone who asks is rebuked by those who say, the bible says pray. It is sad that those who say pray themselves have not prayed. But Pastor B is just a decimal in an ever mounting number of wolves in the Church of Christ.

Someone told me yesterday that this can’t be the end of him and his tyranny, because even in Ilorin in those days, the allegation was rolled under the rug. On Sunday, August 25, 2013, the man leading certain blind men under the veil of religion and ‘spiritism’ said God told him not to say anything, he then said they are preparing a robust response. Who is fooling who? We must not keep quiet and watch the bride of Christ, the church, rubbed and undignified in mud and slime by a filthily rich pastor who thinks he can do anything and get away with it.

It is a pity that we run sensational press and media outfit in this country, and that our press is blinded by religion. If this were to be ‘saner’ climes the press would by now be researching, there would by now be investigative journalism. The truth would be dogged up and resurrected to life. For this is not about a mistake that a Pastor made, it is about a filthy man’s way of life.

And then about, “teaching a new level of grace’; please be reminded that Grace is not a license to sin, rather it empowers us to live above sin. Romans 6:1-2 says, “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?” In my years of being a Christian, studying God’s word, preaching the gospel, listening to sound teachers, I have not heard of a grace that gives permission to sin.

Stop being deceived, grace is the new dispensation, according to Hebrew 8:6-12, and under grace we do not follow any written code, law or traditions. That is done away with. The tablet of Moses is over with. But we are not reckless sinners; we are under a new covenant based on better promises. God’s law is written in our minds and hearts. We live according to His dictates. The Holy Spirit and our conscience convicts and judges us respectively. This is the only way we live a holy life. God’s strength and empowerment is the grace to do according to that written by God in our hearts and minds.

I write this with a heavy heart, though I wish I never had to write this, but I pray this madness stops. I know many who have stopped going to church, many whose faith has been derailed by the act of madness of this man, and many blind men like him. If they are not going to heaven, let them stop taking men out of the straight and narrow. No one understands the pain in meeting a man, whose faith has been derailed by a man who was supposed to help establish him. For such a man, words can’t bring him back, the best we can do is to pray and hope. I indulge the clergy to be of a higher moral standard.

My candid advice to the church at this end time is that the church must grow in knowledge; it’s high time we stopped bamboozling you. You must stop making idols of men. You must stop making men such as I, substitute for the Holy Ghost. Honour us; revere us… but that is where it ends. Without the Call, the Oil, and the Holy Spirit; we are mere mortal. But know for sure that this too shall pass; only the truth of the Gospel of the Kingdom abides forever.

For Pastor B and his sense making COZA people, remember the word of Christ in Matthew 15:14. How many of you even live life bearing the fruit of righteousness. Stop being blind, the ditch is close by. Look into this case, ask your pastor questions, seek genuine answers and not emotional rhetorics, hold him responsible, and do not forget the word of God, “then shall they know if they follow to know…” I am sure evidence abound. Seek to know from some key PCU members (who may need to be deposited in Gods ICU). Its time you hear not only about grace, but HOLINESS without which no one will see the Lord.

Finally don’t bother praying against me, I can say like Paul, “For me to die is gain, to live is Christ”, but I cannot even go now, because I am yet to fully finish the task set before me. Don’t waste your time using misguided scriptural interpretation. This I write is true, and I am sorry if you don’t like it. Your Pastor, and every other wolf whose conscience is not seared knows it is the complete true.

God bless you.
God bless His Church.
God bless Nigeria

From
Pastor J
God’s House

Rita Ora stepped out in NYC on Thursday wearing what looked to be a men's button-up shirt from the front, but it lacked fabric in a major way in the back. Ladies, can you rock this shirt/blouse?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/ladies-can-you-rock-this-shirt.html

Ania Lisewska, a Polish woman, has reportedly vowed to travel to every city across the world in a bizarre quest to sleep with 100,000 men. She embarked on the unusual mission in her home city last month and has so far added 284 notches to her bedpost. But while the 21-year-old's long term boyfriend is more forgiving than most - he hasn't dumped her after all - he's understandably 'not thrilled' by the idea. Miss Lisewska said that he has 'had to come to terms with it'. She told the Austrian Times: 'I want men from Poland, Europe and all around the world. I love sex, fun and men. She will only look to complete the task at the weekends and has set up a Facebook page and a website to chart her exploits. She adds that she hopes to spend at least 20 minutes with each partner. According to reports, having sex with that many people for 20 minutes at a time would take Miss Lisewska 3.8 years to complete if she didn't stop for food or sleep. Seeing as she only plans to partake on Saturdays and Sundays, the task would take 20 years non-stop. Assuming she lives to the age of 81, to hit 100,000 Miss Lisewska would have to up her quota to around 16 men on both days of the weekend. What an ambition! Do you think she's mentally stable? Is her boyfriend also normal?

Sources: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/polish-woman-dedicates-life-to-sleeping.html, Daily Mail

They are twins,17, the latest singing sensations to make it to the final stage of the Nigerian X-factor. Clinton and Blair Roberts are called the DNA twins; they originally come from Imo State in Nigeria. Professionally the boys have only been on the music radar for two years.
"We started from the choir in church, and then we had a group in secondary school. We were the head of the music team and drama team in secondary school, so we decided to take up music two years back," the twins stated, further adding that they decided to try out the X-factor competition and went for the auditions scaling through five stages of the show before reaching the final stage.
"We got to the top nine of the X-factor, though we did not go as far as we wanted to, but God helped us. Everything has been God, right from day one it has been God's favour," they stated.
"We went for the auditions, we did not really have much expectations, we were just like, let's go and try. There were thousands of people for the auditions, all over. Our talent helped, but it was favor of God that took us to the top nine," the twins stated.


People have fondly called them P-Square (popular Nigerian twin pop stars) in the making, but DNA twins are happy to be just that, the DNA twins. They are determined to make a name for themselves in the world of music, and are doing their best to achieve that goal.
The DNA twins told Leadership their inspiration has been their mother and family. Some of their role models are Michael Jackson, Usher, Chris Brown, P-Square, 2 Face, who have also been an inspiration were the twins are concerned.

Quizzed on their style of music the DNA twins state that they are adaptable. "It's all about business so whatever the people want we give it to them. Sometimes you also have to do what you like as well to express yourself and all that, but this is Nigeria and you have to balance the equation," they said. The twins will also be releasing three singles before the month ends and net month would see them performing on air, to the public and doing videos as well.

Their mother Becky Roberts is appreciative of their talents while insisting that education for the twins, who are in their teens, is a must. "Basically my husband and I just encourage them and say 'look you guys still have to focus on your studies while doing music.' They have finished their WAEC and we are hoping that sometime next year they would move into university God willing. So I appreciate God," she told Leadership.

On their advice to youths who want to become musicians the twins had this to say, "Be sure that your mind is telling you to do that and be passionate about it. Go for it, never give up and always be humble. Always keep God in mind, always be prayerful and the sky is your limit," they advised.

Do you think they will take over from P-square?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/meet-new-nigerian-twin-pop-stars.htmlb

These are the official wedding photos of my colleague and friend, Igos of Wazobia FM, who married Linda on July 20th. Wishing the couple a happy married life! For more pics click: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/traditional-and-white-wedding-photos-of.html

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/traditional-and-white-wedding-photos-of.html

Nollywood actress, Stephanie Okereke, last Sunday, August 25, 2013 threw a splendid surprise birthday for hubby, Linus on a boat. Her husband grew a year older and Stephanie called her Nollywood colleagues like Uche Jumbo-Rodriguez, Kate Henshaw, Emem Isong, and others to celebrate with them aboard a boat cruise. Congrats Mr. & Mrs. Linus !!!

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/photos-nollywood-actress-stephanie_27.html

These are the official wedding photos of my colleague and friend, Igos of Wazobia FM, who married Linda on July 20th. Wishing the couple a happy married life! For more pics follow this link: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/traditional-and-white-wedding-photos-of.html

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/traditional-and-white-wedding-photos-of.html

This is what the celebs wore to the event. Hot or not?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/barbz-and-eku-edewors-outfit-at-grey.html

Getting written about in the media is one thing most public figures cherish a lot but being in the news for negative and controversial reasons is what most of them don't like. For Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde, she has had her own fair share of negative and dirty stories written about her person. From a controversial picture taken at the Grammy Awards few years ago to her alleged sex scandal with Sifax boss, Taiwo Afolabi.

Even recently, some rumour mongers alleged that the prominent movie star got N10 million from Afolabi to do her birthday celebration. This, the Ondo State-born screen diva has vehemently denied. The first daughter of one of the world’s most 100 influential person named Princess said she doesn’t feel bad about negative stories written about her superstar mother in the media.

According to Princess, “It feels great, amazing and nice to be part of something very big and successful. I really thank God for making me part of her family and her person. I am really happy.”
Speaking further on if she feels bad about negative stories written about her mother, Omotola’s daughter simply said, “no, every moment has been meaningful and I am very grateful for every moment I have had with my mum.”On whether she would take after her mum’s trade, “yes, I would,” was her answer.

Princess looks like mummy!

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/i-dont-feel-bad-about-negative-stories.html

The gorgeous Ghanaian actress Juliet Ibrahim is presently in London to honour some engagements and to get some work done before heading to the US. The Ghanaian actress dazzles as she strikes a pose in fierce make-up and chic hairstyle she did for Zen Magazine. Beauty and talent combined. You like?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/ghanaian-actress-juliet-ibrahim-all.html

It's just a few hours to go. After 91 days in the Big Brother House, this Sunday 25th August 2013 during the 2-hour live finale, one of the 5 finalists – Nigeria’s Beverly, Ghana’s Elikem, Namibia’s Dillish, Nigeria’s Melvin and Zambia’s Cleo, who will win the whooping $ 300,000.

Beverly, Ghana’s Elikem, Namibia’s Dillish, Nigeria’s Melvin and Zambia’s Cleo. Who Will Win #BBAThe Chase?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/who-will-win-bbathe-chase.html

The photo was taken back in 2009. Money is good o! See how boys have changed. Oya.....lets go..

Source; http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/identify-celebrities-in-this-picture.html

Ladies in the house, can you rock this purse?

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/ladies-can-you-rock-this-purse.html?showComment=1377268649483#c7588950587372022109

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A lady named Ese Walter is accusing a pastor with the Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly of manipulating her sexually/spiritually. Read Ese's story, which she shared on her blog, Read it below...

This article contains stories that most ‘church people’ don’t want to address. So, if you are one of those living in denial and covering up crap going on in the church, this is where you should stop reading. Thanks for stopping by.

Now, for the rest of us, please sit down and switch on your open mind. I want to talk about something I have kept bottled up inside for longer than necessary. I have also decided to use real names, as my defense for any accusation of slander is justification. I tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but. However, feel free to throw your doubt around but know that I am past the shaming game (where victims of abuse are shot down by blame) I am no longer a victim but a survivor who is sharing her experience to help others caught in same web of abuse, guilt and shame. We only get to live once right? So here, it goes…


I recently came to know this event too was abuse (recently here means about 6 months ago). It has literally been eating me up having to drive by another billboard advertising preachers, or hearing his name, or even trying to ask about the validity of the entire salvation story and whether or not there is a God that truly watches over his people. That being said, I’m just going to say it as it is. This is a recap of my affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA (Common Wealth Of Zion Assembly) Abuja chapter. This affair I have come to know as a form of abuse as you would see the different elements of abuse very present.

I met Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo many years ago. I was getting bored of the church I was attending and someone suggested COZA. At the time, I had never heard about it. My friend said, go there, I’m sure you would enjoy the word. But he also gave me a strong warning. He said he would advice that I remain a member only and not join the workforce. I agreed. The first time I attended COZA, I felt it was my church and decided I was going to plant my ass there. About eleven months had gone by and I was still attending the services quietly and faithfully. I really did like the church. One day a worker in the church approached me that the senior pastor wanted to see me.

Me? I thought. Why would the senior pastor want to see me? Not the second man but the head nigga in charge? Ok na! I started to think my sin was oozing so bad the pastor could tell I needed Jesus. (Poor old me.) I saw him at the end of the second service (they had two services at the time) and he said to me that he would like me to work with him. I knew I had no intentions of becoming a pastor so I had to ask in what capacity. He said he’d like for me to join a department, preferably the Pastoral Care Unit (PCU).

A few weeks later, against my friend’s advice not to join the workforce, I was a PCU member. All of a sudden, I had some status in church. I was ‘somebody.’ Dress had to be on point, hair, shoes and what not… As workers, we were literally trying to outshine each other or so it seemed. Anyways, I felt like I was a privileged member of an elite circle. Hehehe. (It did feel good though, for the most part.)

About a year after joining the workforce, I was on my way to London for a Masters degree program that would last two years. As was the rule for workers travelling, I wrote to say I would be away for 2 years and Pastor Biodun Fotoyinbo asked that I keep in touch by sending him my number and email when I had settled in London so he “makes sure I continue in the faith” because according to him, people loose their faith when they leave home and he wanted to make sure I didn’t. So, on that note, as soon as I got a phone line in London, I was sure to call ‘my pastor’ to say I arrived safe, had settled in and also gave my phone number.

We had spoken a few times especially when COZA started to stream online. I always watched and would give feedback on quality of production and share a little bit on the challenges I faced settling in a new land. One evening, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo called me that he was coming to London and needed me to help him make some hotel bookings as the person who was meant to do it couldn’t get it done (this was rather strange as I had never been involved in his travel itinerary) Later that day, he said it had been sorted and my help would not be required but that he would like me to arrange a cab to pick him up from Heathrow. I was happy to help my pastor from Nigeria and even saw it as a privilege. (I would later come to learn that all of this was a calculated attempt to hatch a plan that I suspect was set in motion when I was asked to join the workforce.)
The cab guy was there to get him the next day and when he arrived, he called to ask why I didn’t accompany the cab to pick him up (again, this was strange but I stopped my mind from overanalyzing the situation as I knew I had no business with his visit to London) About two hours later, he called me and said he would like to see me. When I arrived his hotel, I called from the reception but he asked that I come upstairs. I got to the room and tried to stop my mind from thinking why I was going to his room. As he opened the door and invited me in, I had to speak to my heart to stop its palpitations. My better judgment asked me not to go into the room but the kind of reverence I had for Pasotr Biodun Fatoyinbo bordered on fear and I steeped into that room.
“Care for a drink?” Asked Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo.
“No sir,” I said.
“You don’t have to be shy Ese, even if it’s alcohol, feel free and order what you want.” I wasn’t sure I heard my pastor asking me to order alcohol. I imagined it was a test and ignored the voice inside that was saying, “I’d have henny and coke please.” He proceeded to ask how I had been coping in London and if I was a committed member of any church. He also said he thought there was something special about me and wanted to know that I had not strayed from my faith. I really thought he had heard I was doing something I shouldn’t while in London but tried my best to focus on the conversation instead of my straying thoughts. He kept telling me to relax and feel comfortable with talking to him. After a few minutes, he asked that we go to the roof of the hotel as his room was a pent suite and had a connecting door to the roof.

While there, he sat on a reclining chair and asked me to come sit on his laps. This was a bit awkward for me and I froze for a moment as I asked why. He said he had told me to feel free with him and loosen up. I found myself strolling to sit on his laps. At that moment, I felt like a little girl who was experiencing something her mind couldn’t fathom. He asked me to kiss him and all I could think about was seeing him preach on the pulpit back in COZA Abuja, Nigeria, which was my home church. He again said ‘feel free Ese.’ And asked again, that I kiss him.

A few hours later, let’s just say, we were rolling under the sheets. It felt as though my mind had paused. I am not saying I was jazzed, (although it’s possible I was in some trancelike state and didn’t know it but I just was so afraid that I couldn’t say or think otherwise.) That was the beginning of this affair. A sexual affair that went on for a little over a week, DAILY!
I can hear somebody’s mind thinking, ‘well, you weren’t raped.” And I remember a pastor I opened up to when I couldn’t take all the mind games asking if I seduced him. No, I didn’t seduce him and no, I wasn’t raped but I felt trapped in this affair. Come to think of it, how could I have seduced him when I wanted nothing from him? I mean, I was too busy minding my business in London trying to get through with my masters program and I was overly comfortable. And even if I wanted to seduce anyone, it wouldn’t be a married man, not to mention a married pastor.
What I couldn’t reconcile the whole time, was how the same person who preached against the very things we were doing (i.e drinking in pubs, fornicating, committing adultery) was the same person endorsing and encouraging it.

At some point, I got really confused about what Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I were doing that I had to ask how he handles it. I will never forget what he said to me. He said and I quote, “I will teach you a level of grace that you don’t understand.” My mind couldn’t fathom that somehow grace was enough covering for not just fornication on my path, adultery on his path and the many lies that was bound to follow what we were doing that was clearly abominable. I somehow dealt with the thoughts and fears that followed on my path. He had said to me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would take me around the world and spoil me with money and things. Somehow, money had never been one of the things that motivated me (I am from a home where all my needs have been adequately met) In all my ‘badness’ through finding myself, I never did things I did for money but more of rebellion against rules and authority.

Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo also said to me that he had a dream where I exposed what was happening to the media. Said it was all over the place and that people were calling me the girl that caused chaos in COZA. He also said I should remember the bible said to “touch not God’s anointed.” I immediately started to rebuke the devil and said I could never do anything like that. I was almost swearing with my entire family as I thought really I had touched God’s anointed by submitting my body to be used. Little did I know at the time that all of these were ways to mess with my mind and even manipulate my thoughts.
Fast-forward a few months later, I was back in Nigeria and my church had become uncomfortable. Anytime I sat in church and listened to Pastor Biodun preach, I felt shame. I finally sent him a message saying I wasn’t comfortable anymore. I was confused and needed to talk about what had happened. He said I should meet him to talk and I did. It was a really weird meeting for me especially when he tried to kiss me at our meeting. I finally realized at this point that he couldn’t help me. I thought God was angry with me and I couldn’t pray so I decided to withdraw completely from COZA. This was the beginning of my mental torture. I couldn’t talk to my family because already, I was the only one attending a different church and somehow my mom never liked the idea. As the days went by I tried to use drinking and smoking to cover up the deep shame and guilt I was battling with. But as soon as the high was over, the thoughts came back and I felt stuck like I couldn’t move forward.
I felt I had to talk to someone and I decided to speak to my then good friend, Ernest Akale but unfortunately for me, Mr. Ernest did not have the capacity to hold what I said to him. He broke down completely the days that followed and I found myself having to pause how I was feeling and what I was struggling with to help my friend be strong. After a while, he withdrew from not just me but his then fiancé and friends. I had to then tell the fiancé what had caused it (she suspected we were having an affair so I had to clear the air) To my surprise she was a lot stronger than her man and told me to suck it up (I’m paraphrasing). She said if she were me, she wouldn’t leave the church but stay to torment Pastor Biodun and collect money from him. Ok! That sounded extreme for me, as my intention was not to blackmail but to heal my broken self. Anyways, I finally found the courage to speak to my then unit head who said he was going to talk to Pastor Biodun but didn’t have the liver to do so. Before long, the story was spreading and naturally getting twisted.
I went to a new church and it seemed like the COZA bug had chased me there. The pastor would always refer to COZA as some example and each time that was done, it seemed like a spear was thrust through my chest. One day, I broke down in the service and started crying uncontrollably, as I couldn’t take another mention of COZA and the pictures it painted in my head.

Very long, boring story cut short, for the last 5 months I gave the whole church thing a big space and break. I wasn’t sure I believed in God. I wasn’t sure I understood what it meant when people said ‘Jesus saves” and I definitely wasn’t sure how to deal with the mental torture that was affecting not just me but my relationships with family and friends. I was very unstable, fearful and worst of all guilty. I got a chance to talk to Pastor Folarin of COZA Lagos Chapter, popularly called Pastor flo about everything. I made an effort to reach out to him because I realized the right thing to do was talk to an elder in the church and seek some sort of remedy to a wrong I believed had been done me.
Instead, Pastor Flo said, Pastor Biodun had confessed to him and they had ‘talked’ about it and somehow that was supposed to be Ok. He asked what it was I wanted coming to talk to him about it when I did, I told him I realized what happened between Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and I was wrong and not just that I felt abused and manipulated. I also said I thought it was wrong for Pastor Biodun to go on preaching without taking time to deal with his personal character flaws. I said I thought he was danger to all the young women that attended the church. Come to think of it, maybe he meant if I wanted something monetary or material (as someone had suggested when I opened up to her) but the truth is, I never wanted his money (or is it the church member’s money.) All I wanted was to meet with him and have him accept that he misled me, betrayed his wife and the church he pastors. I wasn’t the only lady in COZA who had been a victim of his sexcapades and manipulative patterns but I was the one who could come back after months of struggle with not just my faith but also my affair with him. And I wanted to set things right. I wanted to talk to Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo maybe for closure and I felt like I needed an apology because he played the“touch not my anointed” card to keep me locked in guilt, shame and fear when all along it was a calculated plan and I dare say, it started when he asked me to join the workforce.

Not to mention the audacity to talk about teaching me a level of grace I didn’t understand. I had no intention of understanding a grace that would permit me to go on doing things that were wrong and what’s worse having to carry the burden for almost a year.

Different surprising advises came up in the weeks that followed the rumour making rounds. I was told to hush because Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo had been a cultist in the past and could send people to shut me up. All my so-called friends in COZA withdrew from me and treated me like I had the plague. What was worse was Pastor Flo finally saw my then pastor to ‘talk’ about what had happened with Pastor Biodun and lied that it happened once and was a mistake. My question then became, ‘do these people even care how broken I had become?’ ’do they care about the emotional and spiritual welfare of the people they were pastoring?’ The sad answer was NO. Most of us old members of COZA kept leaving but they couldn’t care less. What was important was to keep growing the church and having more and more cars with stickers that read “More than enough.” Back then, I always felt horrible when I saw another car drive past me with the sticker. I was breaking, I was struggling but no one could help. All they could do was ask me to hide so Pastor Biodun’s goons don’t hurt me. And then the interesting one was if I had evidence to prove my claim. Let me just say here that, it isn’t a claim, it’s a confession to free me from all of the guilt and shame I have had to live with for no reason at all. (That being said, I have evidence to prove all I have said here, the latest being a 58 minutes recording of my meeting with Pastor Flo a few months back)

This is my confession and I cannot begin to describe how much weight has been lifted off of my shoulders just pouring the truth out about what went down. So, to all my ex COZA friends gossiping about me, get your facts right. To those who said they’d help me deal with the pain but didn’t, I forgive you, I have learnt how to deal with it and I am doing just fine. To those who fear for my safety saying Pastor Biodun would send people to shut me up, I really have gone past fearing for my life. To live is gain and to die is Christ (or how does Paul say it again?) And to the only person who ever supported me through it all, thank you, I am learning to be brave. Please don’t think I am perfect in all of this but in line with living my authentic life and putting all forms of abuse behind me, this is where I press the stop button and stop the bleeding. This is where I break the silence and call the church to stand up for what it has been commissioned to do. If you will not enter the Kingdom, please don’t stop others who are trying to enter.

I still remember when I used to nurse the idea of digging up emails, text messages, hotel billings (as once I used my card to pay for his room when his master card failed to work) to prove there was an affair. It was pathetic. Why for the love of heaven was I trying to dig up evidence? I am satisfied setting the record straight. I am ready for any shaming or bashing that would follow because the truth is, because of what I have suffered and come through, I am really not moved by what people say or think about me anymore. I am a stronger woman and a damn abuse survivor seeking to connect with other victims of abuse to show them how to deal with the shame, hurt and guilt and how to come out stronger. Turning their mess into their message.

I am Ese Walter and I have gone through all forms of abuse from family, boyfriends, my ex pastor and some strangers not to break me, but so I stand and so I qualify to help victims. My scars have qualified me and when all is said and done, I will still be standing. I AM WOMAN, I BEND, I DON’T BREAK!
Cheers to the freaking weekend!!!

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/08/my-affair-with-pastor-biodun-fatoyimbo.html

I can see some ladies salivating. Cute huh?

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Loool. These ladies know how to have fun. So happy Funke Akindele has moved on with her life.

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Madonna gave fans and photographers a closer look at her distinctive grills.While the unusual fashion accessory is a common feature in the mouths of younger stars like Justin Bieber and Rihanna, Madonna who celebrated her 55th birthday last week – clearly puts no limit on what she can get away with.

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I love her hair and eyes. You like?

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Report: Former Disney Star Lee Thompson Committed Suicide because “He Began Practicing Yorùbá ”

Lee, known for his role on Disney Channel‘s The Famous Jett Jackson show was 29. Last Tuesday American TV star Lee Thompson Young was reported to have tragically taken his own life. Sources close to the late actor revealed to E! Entertainment that he had suffered from depression for some time leading up to his apparent suicide. They said he “Did not drink or party. He was opposite, Lee loved to travel and was always the first to tell everyone to take a breath and enjoy the beauty of life.” Lee “really changed” a few years ago, when he began practicing Yorùbá, an African based religion all which has the saying “iku ago I esin” meaning death is preferable to ignominy.”

Chief Priest of Osogbo, Araba Ifayemi Osundagbonu Elebuibon was even mentioned in the report. He told the National Mirror that the Yorùbá religion does not “support suicide. The person who commits suicide will be punished in the hereafter”. Lee took “his practice to the next level and started wearing white all the time”. “The religion was everything to him” He took a break from practicing Yorùbá, but recently returned to the religion.

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Check out Agbani Darego, Elohor Essien. #Shape #Beauty #Character. Not forgetting to mention the likes of Genevieve Nnaji, Omotola Ekeinde, Rita Dominic,Ebube Nwagbo, Mercy Johnson. Just to mention a few. You know the rest. We have the most beautiful ladies in the world. You agree?

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The Beautiful couple were spotted at Etisalat Cloud 9 event over the weekend. Fine guy!

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Wow! The bag has been rocked by famous Kim Kardashian, Rita Ora, Kris Jenner & Rihanna. Is the bag worth it or is it for the love of name?

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