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bbmpin:
[color=#000050] The most important thing right now is the "supposed future" for the child

What "should really" matter to you is the child's future once he/she is born. Are its chances of a safe, secure future high enough?

Personally i would advice you to do the abortion, Don't bring an innocent soul into this world to suffer

If you are "sure" that the father will not be responsible don't keep it.

Its a publicly known fact that Dysfunctional homes and the improper Upbringings that it creates have an adverse effect on the children (mentally and socially)

Having said that ....... The choice is yours but think about the future of that "innocent child"

I wish you much strength and much wisdom. [/color]

Thanks. This helped.

thorpido:
Why is he an ex if you still meet up with him?
I know it's a hard decision to make but keep the baby.You could decide to tell your ex or keep it away from him but somewhere,someday he will find out.
I hope you have a regular source of income so the kid doesn't suffer.

Recent ex.
I must have conceived before the actual breakup. It's not really a question of him wanting the child, I know if I insist and throw lil tantrums,he will support me. But we broke up because he couldn't see a future for us.. then bringing this up to him would make it appear like am trying to trap him with pregnancy knowing fully well his stance about kids out of wedlock.. I don't want to force him to be with me because of this and in the end having an unhappy home, hence my decision to abort. And no, I can't take care of another child on my own.

I know a lot of you will condemn me to the fullest.. I deserve it I know.
They say the first is always accepted to be a mistake, but afterwards it's a choice.
I am a regular and well known nairalander, had to create this account to hide my identity.
I'm a single mother of one.
Just discovered right now that I'm pregnant for a recent ex(I already conceived unknowingly before the breakup )...and telling him about it is not even an option.
I feel so bad because I know I can't keep it...
I never expected this because all through the relationship I was careful.. condoms and contraceptives..up to the last time we met and that's why am so sad..while abortion is the best option for me right now, my heart wishes differently..I wish there was another way.. I can't even tell anyone I know about it, hence my typing this here..
My story is actually too long to type.. but am far from a bad person. I have a good heart and I love with all I've got, I'm not moved by material things and I often assist my partner wen I can, yet I always end up loving the wrong ones.
I don't want to be pitied, I can take the hard truth.