₦airaland Forum

Thunderfayamods:
Get the Bleep out of here I no be your mate. You just came from nowhere like a dog with a leash without following the thread. Very disrespectful person! Are they christians?

Same to your father,if he's still there

Thunderfayamods:
You are very stupid! Go back and check the correction.. May be your father is mumu!

Which correction?
Na so you go dey carry last for school dey blame village people.
I don't blame you.
When you see your father,call him mumu

Thunderfayamods:
Unfortunately you are black but you are brain dead! Illiterate like you is not even aware that the present day Isreal is not the one in the Bible, majority of them are even Muslims. What is Trump's business with SA? You white slave!

Which majority is Muslim?
Mumu dey smell.
A quick search before commenting will save you this mumulity

Morbeta11:
https://saharareporters.com/2025/03/14/lagos-woman-uses-police-detain-husband-allegedly-taking-second-wife

Na so e be.
What's that thing they said about a woman scorned again?

Anyways,in other news

🎙🤷🏾‍♂️🎙

https://franktalknow.com/is-your-son-married-to-a-citizen-by-funke-egbemode/

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*Is Your Son Married To A ‘Citizen’? By Funke Egbemode

-By Sodiq Opeyemi Adelakun
February 22, 2025


AFTER 15 years in the US, Bolaji returned to Nigeria, alone with only what can fit into his suitcases. He returned without a wife, his two children. He was not deported. His marriage failed. His wife got custody of the children and their home. Bolaji decided to return to Nigeria to start all over.

‘I counted my teeth with my tongue and told myself coming back to Nigeria at age 45 would turn out better than continuing to stay in a land that took my youth and sweat just to keep up appearances, pretending that all was well. All was not well. My life was no longer what it used to be. All I had left was my job. When my marriage broke down, my life also broke down. I had to move from my four-bedroom house to a small rented studio apartment. I became a visitor in a home I had shared with my wife and children for 13 years. I had to book an appointment to see my children, pay child support, pay mortgage on a home I was no longer living in, in addition to the rent on my little flat.

‘When I met my wife 14 years ago, she was like a dream come true. She is beautiful, cheerful, had a great job and she was all over me. We hit it off from the get-go. Her sunny disposition was infectious and the sex was out of this world. The icing on the cake was that she is an American citizen. We got married in less than a year and had our two children in quick succession. Maybe the whirlwind romance, great sex and her being an American citizen clouded my judgment or it was because our parents raised us differently, but by the time we celebrated our fifth anniversary, I knew our marriage was in trouble. We quarreled over everything, from which church we would attend, naming ceremony to who took out the thrash. She was totally American: whilst I was totally Nigerian. She was bossy, a character flaw worsened by her better paying job. She did not want in-laws in her space. She did not want our children speaking Yoruba or visiting Nigeria. She wanted to club and party instead of going to church. Every time she heard me speaking on the phone in Ekiti dialect (she understood regular Yoruba a little), she assumed the worst. It was either a grand conspiracy was being hatched against her or I was speaking with a girlfriend. Long story short, she filed for divorce, got the home and custody of the children and I had to move out. Even now, the pain is indescribable.

‘After months of trying to restart my life, I told myself: B.J., go back home. What would have been the point? If I’d remarried in America, there was no guarantee that I would not have lost out again. I had a few investments in Nigeria far from the claws of America’s community property marriage and those came in handy when I returned.’

Bolaji has since set up a big pharmacy at the heart of Lagos and remarried.


Uncle Labi, as he is fondly called, was not so lucky. His ‘Nigerianness’ and his wife’s ‘Americanness’ collided and when the sh*t hit the fan, Uncle Labi was left holding the short end of the stick. His wife got the house, child support while her husband is a lonely old bachelor today.

When Nigerian marriages fail abroad, most of the time, if not all the time, it is the men that are left with the nightmare. Of course, both parties are heartbroken whenever divorce shows up in a home a couple thought would last forever. The children are left bewildered and sometimes forced to choose sides. But I am especially concerned about Nigerian men who become ‘homeless and childless’ when their marriages end up in divorce. I have seen men who never recovered from their broken marriages in Europe and America. They become shadows of themselves. They could not return to Naija because of shame even when their lives abroad had ceased being what it used to be. Some, like Bolaji, return home to pick up the pieces of their lives. Many continue to live abroad even when they cannot find the broken pieces of their once glittering lives.

So, dear modern parents, have you had that talk with your son who is living abroad? Yes, that young man you sold your gold and a bungalow to send abroad? Have you told him that abroad is different from Nigeria? Have you told him the downside of marrying an ‘oyinbo’, ‘akata’ or even a Nigerian-American woman? I know all you can see is that promo: "Marry A Canadian And Move To Canada." I feel you. I can even imagine what you are imagining but the numbers behind six are many, not just seven. What lies ahead of your son’s choice of ‘omo onilu’ wife goes far beyond a green card or ‘stay’. Before you push or encourage him to marry a citizen, you need to think hard and deep.

Yes, that Canadian or American citizen girl’s name is Yetunde or Nnenna but that most likely is where her Nigerianness ends. Your Yetunde has probably visited Nigeria twice in 20 years. Maybe she was even born and raised in America. Your fine boy was finely raised a Yoruba and Nigerian gentleman. You taught him how to be the head of his family, the lead pastor of his home, who must ensure and enforce discipline the Yoruba way. You prepared him to work and fend for his family so he does not lose his authority. But Yetunde was thoroughly tutored about equal rights in marriage. She was taught hard work too, just in a different way. She was brought up to have a career, work hard, contribute to the family purse and stand her ground. She is not a wife you get angry with and she’ll cry herself to sleep. She does not understand the in-law concept and its intricacies. Yes, in spite of all these differences, their marriage can still last forever, after all, the marriages contracted and situated in Nigeria do fall and fail too. It is just that marriage is a black market thing and therefore it is absolutely unwise to go into it with blinders on or intentionally ignore the obvious black spots.

If your precious son must marry a citizen, he has to wear two caps; both the Nigerian son and his ‘citizen’ husband caps must be constantly, firmly in place. He must learn everything he can about community property marriage if that is the law where he is living. He must know that he is not the head in his marriage. He is an equal partner. And if ‘kasala’ bursts, he is the one who will move out of the family home. There, there is no such thing as;

I will send you back to your father’s house.

Take your things and get out of my house.

This house cannot ‘contain’ both of us.

A landlord at 9pm can be homeless by 10pm. A thriving career can nosedive in no time at all. A sane happy young father and husband can become depressed and suicidal if he loses custody of his children, or end up in police custody if his wife reports him to the authorities. So, aunty, your grandchildren being born as Canadian or American citizens is not all you should consider. Think of all the angles and scenarios. Tell your son to have investments back home in Nigeria in case, God forbid, he has to return and restart his life to save his sanity!🤷🏾‍♂️

Originalsly:
If you know history you'll know Jews been living in Gaza ...in Palestine with the Palestinians for hundreds of years until the UN sent the Zionists there in 1948 to take their lands and establish present day Israel. With this you should understand why Jewish synagogues are never attacked by Palestinians...... nor Jews targeted . It is almost always Israelis/Zionists ... their restaurants..their concerts ... their clubs. The Israelis have no link to that part of the world..... ask the leaders where their great grandparents are from it would be Europe....no history in the Mideast before 1948...the reason they are called occupiers . Educate yourself.... gather information and process it ...not just repeat it..

Fast forward to October 7th attack ...
See I'm not one for conspiracy theories.
Who were the people Hamas kidnapped?
Who are they attacking as we speak, with every chance they get?
Stop deceiving yourself with funny narratives, it's going no where

Sheuns:
What he doesn’t understand or pretends not to know is empires rise and fall.

A life lesson emperors learn once in a lifetime

Sheuns:
This man fears whenever anyone tries to go above him.

So much for a godfather.

Same person that picked interest in who became the senate president and speaker in his government is against a governor trying to do the same.

Same man that wanted Gbaja to be speaker and Ahmed Lawan as senate president but Saraki and Dogara outsmarted him.

48 laws of power at play

Originalsly:
FYI .... the protest was organized by the Jewish Voice for Peace. .... Jews not Palestinians. As I've been saying before ....most of these large protests are organized by Jews ...and Jews and. Whites show up in massive numbers. American public is not at all in support of the government policy towards the Palestinians and their support of Israel.

The said "Jews" should go and live in Gaza let's see how long they'd survive.
What are they doing in the US?

JuanDeDios:
September last year is past, not now. After Tinubu said subsidy is gone, FG stopped paying subsidies and prices went up. When it got a to certain amount, I think N600, if memory serves me right, FG was forced to reintroduce subsidies and prices stopped rising. Every sensible person knew this even though some government people were denying it. NLC also made it clear that it would not accept further rise in fuel prices. But later, they started to reduce the subsidies again, and around the time Dangote came on stream, they stopped subsidizing completely. If you have evidence that subsidies are being paid today, I'd love to see it.

So this is your lame pathetic defense?
Smh

anonimi:
They are subsidy up to September last year, which was 16 months after Tinubu announced that subsidy was gone.

Don't mind that guy.
He's living in illusion

AImiron:
Source: CNN

The boss

Okortor:
Let her report to heaven.. nothing changes except she apologizes and change her rotten character with her cheap blackmail!

All I see here is CHARACTER ASSASSINATION against the SENATE PRESIDENT!!!!!!!!

This is the bigoted impunity that has bedeviled this country

dangermouse:
This man is just out to destroy every relationship America has with its neighbors and the world at large.

He should tread very carefully. No man is an island and no country can stand alone.

Which stupid parasitic relationships?
He's just trying to bring a balance

Maxymilliano:
https://guardian.ng/news/govt-of-the-day-behind-pdp-lp-nnpp-crisis-el-rufai/?fbclid=IwY2xjawI9U1tleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHb0lBkwPDsQYwhCVkKTiP4n-fvPJ4J2HoC09rYGv_jfxh1ig48RmWPt-3w_aem_tG2pIdBug9f5vgPD-jGxnQ

Some of these revelations are just confirming what has been waved off as conspiracy theory.
At this rate,2027 election will be very brutal

Built2last:
Some people are blood thirsty. They want to see 3rd world war happen.

vampires

How Ukraine and blood thirsty Europe thinks they can win Russia with China and North Korea Backing beats my imagination.

When they start the war now, they'll start hunting for alliances as if their lives depends on it.

Peacecore:
Whpspome on behalf of Apc?

1BillionThumbs:
He doesn't need to rule, all he needs do is to, out of spite for Tinubu, throw his support behind a more decent option who has wider reach and acceptance.

Kinda like what OBJ did to GEJ

WriterNig:
https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/03/09/21/96007561-14479519-Dramatic_footage_showed_the_aircraft_erupt_in_flames_in_a_parkin-a-3_1741554415289.jpg
https://i.dailymail.co.uk/1s/2025/03/09/22/96009183-14479519-image-a-7_1741557827977.jpg



credit: ABC News || Dailymail UK

Trump is such a bad pilot

Peacecore:
Who's agitated? Did you hear from Apc when he defected? I know you're foreseeing hurricane of defection that will for Wike's defection? That's what we call big fish not a 2 ex commissioners man

We heard from them, else we wouldn't know it was 'inconsequential' in the first place

Peacecore:
buh it was just 2 ex commissioners nah

Na so
So why are they so agitated?

SoftSport:
Fake news!

It looks like some people are still upset about the judicial system and the outcome of the election that brought Bola Ahmed Tinubu to power. Now, they’re spreading fake news, claiming that the Supreme Court upheld a death sentence for someone named Sunday Jackson for killing an armed herdsman.

There’s absolutely no truth to this story, it’s just another attempt to stir up emotions and push a false narrative. Always double-check your sources before believing or sharing such claims.

Please confirm and get back to us.
Because you think everything is about politics.
And yes, Nigerian judicial system is skewed!
BAT's victory, case in point

joseph1832:
Hmmm Sentencing him to death is way too harsh. Though I must say without sentiment, that Jackson should have left him alone,immediately after subduing him, rather than killing him, such act reek of premeditated murder.

He died of wounds from the fight, not instantly.

gidgiddy:
https://newsdiaryonline.com/sunday-jackson-a-passionate-appeal-to-governor-fintiri-for-clemency-by-godwin-onyeacholem/

This is preposterous

Bosman17:
If you read the report, only 2 names were mentioned… press likes to drive the narrative the suit their audience…

Really?
How many names do you want to hear?
If the massive press audience is something to go by,hope you see where it's all headed

chokekachy:
https://dailypost.ng/2025/03/11/mass-exodus-hits-kaduna-apc-following-el-rufais-resignation/

Honestly I don't know why Tinubu turned his back on this guy and Amaechi and the likes. They were quite resourceful.
Amaechi own even worse
He lost relevance overnight,if he does pim,wike go fry am for Rivers State

chokekachy:
https://dailypost.ng/2025/03/11/mass-exodus-hits-kaduna-apc-following-el-rufais-resignation/

I thought they said his exit was inconsequential.
I laugh in Kamala Harris

The man is acting like a castrated buffoon,is he even the father of ' their child '.

fergie001:
Daniel Bwala
Special Adviser to the President on Policy Communication

Even if it fails,it would get him shaken up

[quote author=Estello post=134479473][/quote]That's if Fulani attacks don't count

Him mate dey write jamb so