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Here is a woman whose life has been all about Christ and advancing Christ's Kingdom, Heaven will never stop smiling over her. Just like her parents her crown of glory in heaven is heavily adorned with heavenly jewels and precious stones. People of God there is nothing else we are called forth to do as Christians but to advance the agenda of God and push His kingdom beyond shores and borders, May we not lose our golden crowns over the worldly virtues and things that don't count.

Dude because of you i had to reactivate my over 6 years dormant nairaland account, now let's analyse your post (focusing on the claims & points referenced by you). I AM PUTTING MY RESPONSES IN BOLD AND AFTER //

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago. --------------//DID YOU HONESTLY TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHY SHE WAS ASKING FOR A SHIFT OF DATE TO EASTER, I GUESS YOU JUST FORCED YOUR WAY INTO IT.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years --------- //A LOT OF MEN DO THAT, IT SHOULDN'T BE A TOPIC OR REFERENCE SINCE U DID IT VOLUNTARILY. GOD WOULD WANT US TO DO EVEN MORE AND TO THOSE THAT CANT REWARD US, IT MAY BE A GROUND YOU ARE STANDING ON AND DEMANDING SHE BECOMES SUBJECT TO YOU. .I THINK ITS WRONG

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.// MARRIAGE IS PARTNERSHIP< YOU HAVE FAILED TO UNDERSTAND SHE IS A HUMAN BEING WITH A VOICE AND MIND OF HER OWN. PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES, WOULDNT YOU WANT TO CONTRIBUTE TO IMPORATANT DECISIONS IN YOUR HUSBANDS HOME. CALM DOWN BRO AND BE MORE IN PARTNERSHIP, YOU WILL BE SUPRISED HOW HER OPINIONS WILL BE SAVING U A LOT OF $$$$$ & ERRORS.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.// A CHANGE OF NAME IS THE NORM AND SHOULDNT BE FORCED, AM SURE SHE WONT EVEN WAIT FOR YOU TO TELL HER IF ALL INDICES ARE IN TOUCH. MAYBE YOU ARE USING THE NAZI APPROACH TO ASK HER TO DO THIS, REMEMBER THE AIR AROUND U GUYS ARE ALREADY HEATED UP, SHE MAY BE HOLDING ON TO HER NAME AS THE LAST ASSET SHE HAS THAT MAKES HER FEEL LIKE A HUMAN WITH HER OWN MIND. CALM DOWN Bro.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me. // GOOD AND BAD IS STILL AN EFFECT OF THE SITUATIONS AROUND UR NEW HOME, MAKE A WOMAN TO FEEL LIGHT THEN U SEE THE BEST IN HER FOREVER. AM SURE SHE WAS SUPER GOOD WHICH MADE U WAIT FOR HER ALL THROUGH 5 YEARS WITHOUT GETTIG DISTRACTED BY ALL THE BABES RUNNING AROUND YOU, STILL LOOK TO THAT GOOD IN HER U SAW BEFORE AND BRING IT OUT MORE THROUGH KINDNESS, EASYNESS AND MORE PARTNERSHIP.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.// YOU SHOULD HAVE GIVEN HER REASONS TO KEEP TO THE N1m BUDGET, AM SURE U ALSO LIKEd THE FEELING FROM THE N3m BUDGET. PLEASE DROP THIS PRIDE NOW, MY BROTHER SPENT N5m ON HIS WEDDING, SOME DEY EVEN SPEND MORE TO SHOW HOW U FEEL ABOUT WHAT IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN TO YOUR LIFE. MARRIAGE IS A LIFETIME SOMETHING, WEDDING IS JUST THE STEP TO IT. FORGET THE PAST AND DWELL ON THE FUTURE bro. DONT LET PRIDE KILL YOU

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage. //MAYBE YOU MISSED IT HERE, JUST TAKE THE GENTLE PATH AND LAUGH OVER SOME OF HER NAGGINGS. WOMEN ARE MADE TO NAG OCCASSIONALLY AND A STRONG LOVING MAN WILL ALWAYS LAUGH OVER IT

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already// DO THE RIGHT THING AND WIN BACK UR MARRIAGE BRO.


In conclusion, i think you need to take a mirror and see if you can see yourself in it and see yourself as the part problem of this problem. GOD BLESS !!!