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helinues:
President Tinubu is sound . He can even write something more better without anyone assisting. Have you not seen him speaking before?

Make una stop this hatred wey can never achieve you people anything

Na lie.
Someone that scattered our economy. Someone who built the worst government Nigeria has ever had. Someone who spent 3 years in office with zero achievements, apart from propaganda.


Someone who employed over 40,000 youths (which you are one of them) to propagate LIES and defend his incompetent Government online.

breadtoaster:
Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

My husband, on the other hand, is very quiet. Living with him feels like living in a graveyard — no TV, no outings, nothing lively. It’s not that he isn’t intelligent (trust me, he is), but he’s too lazy to put his mind to work sometimes. By 9 p.m., he’s already asleep. He eats, goes to work, and that’s all. He has no drive for more. Whenever I talk about progress or goals, he says, “It’s a process; it’ll take years to come to fruition,” but he never thinks of ways to get things done efficiently or on time.

So in terms of ambition or drive for achievement, I’m suffering living with him. I feel alone. I’m scared that his lack of motivation and his slow, passive lifestyle will kill my own drive. I’m not even extremely driven myself, but I know I want to achieve greatness. That desire pushes me, but I’m afraid that living with him will make me too relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

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Chukwuisgreat:
Do you believe them, Are they trustworthy?

Yes. We Nigerians believe their reports. I visit their sites more often than the rate visit nairaland.

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Toruibestate:
Haha..
Continue deceiving yourself.
Show me their Miss World award?

You mean, this lady is the prettiest lady in Nigeria?


Besides, Northerners don't join any beauty contest.

Toruibestate:
How many Miss World title have they won?

Is miss world tittle about beauty?

Putindbutt:
This fake news blog, the way he confidently sits in the corner of his room fabricating stuffs in his head to sell to the gullible is out of this world.

We Nigerians believe all Sahara reporters news.

Tinubu's incompetent Government. Since their propaganda and lies have been refuted by World bank.they are running Helter skelter to propagate more lies

Tinubu's propaganda government. A government fill of lies. A government that employ over 10,000 youths to defend their propaganda online.

Nomercie:
The same North wey Tilumbu don use 3 pack of indomies colonies.tell me another joke

Which Tinubu?
Tinubu that has been spending Trillions of naira to buy some Northerners, so we will allow him win the next election. Unfortunately for him, we go collect his money, chop and clean mouth. Yet, we won't vote him. We will ensure that Tinubu comes a distant 3rd or 4th in the next election.


As of Iya oloja, Yoruba people know their mates.

Abdul05:
If yoruba can embrace others' culture why can't others respect yoruba influence?


The iyalode--General title has helped Organize markets across Nigeria..progress shouldn't scare anyone and sharing it with others shouldn't cause panic..

Is a symbol of unity for market women not tribal invasion

Come and try it in the North na. Make we use una do suya

MaziObinnaokija:
Nig is moving forward. E shall be well with out Economy

This Tinubu's paid agent is working for his 30k salary. He is all over nairaland propagating and defending Tinubu's incompetent Government

jay1409:
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Mynd44:
This report isn't complete until I see the corresponding amount for Muslims.

Because when that comes out, we get to see if the killings were a religious cleanse or terrorists going about mindlessly killing people

Who are those killing the Muslims, is it Christians or their Muslim Brothers?

Very dark man and Buratai are both more important than Tinibu

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Audio project. This Tinubu's incompetent Government is all about propaganda. Everything they do is on paper only.

FarahAideed:
This has been the plan of the. Malta cartel all along

Yes na. They don't want Dangote to work so they will continue to import fuel into the Country

yarimo:
It's not by force to join any union, PENGASSAN and NUPENG are underground criminals against Nigeria and Nigerians parading themselves as union

God bless you for this post

donleo92:
Dangote should abide to the laws of the land..


He is been greed and a monopolists.

He can't have his way, just like he had in cement and flour. And killed other smaller producers.


Dangote is a Monopolist. Some one that wants to start selling fuel in dollars

You and your family should go and build your own Refinery. Leave our Dangote alone. You mentioned monopoly in Cement industry, the last time I checked, there are over 7 indigenous Cement companies in this Country and each of them is selling their Cement to Nigerians. . How is Dangote doing monopoly in Cement?

DatNiggaDaz:


Burob, you know who you want to throw tantrums with ?
Be careful and stay on the thread. I guess your father gave Dangote the loan for the refinery

You no answer my question. Where was your Father then?

FarahAideed:
Naira wasn't doing well under Buhari it was very unstable

Lies

Naira was about 400 to a dollar during Buhari. Tinubu's incompetence made naira worthless

Tinubu's incompetence cost this. Naira was doing well during Buhari. Tinubu came with his incompetent Government and destroyed our economy. Everything has changed for the worst.

DatNiggaDaz:
Dangote must obey the laws of the Land. Workers in the Petroleum industry must be allowed to be unionized.

Dangote is not above Nigerian Law. He must run his refinery within the jurisdiction of the employment laws in Nigeria.

He should never be allowed to have the say alone and monopolize the sectorr like he did in cement sector

Make you and your family go build una own Refinery. Make una leave our Dangote alone

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yarimo:
Sowore is a criminal parading himself to Obidients as patriotic citizen

Tinubu's paid agent.

buckeyemedia:
In your celestial imagination, wishful fallacy @ best.

Tinubu won't do anything to Wike. They both have alot in common. That's why Sowore called both of them corrupt thief's.

Besides, Wike is actually Tinubu's godfather. Tinubu receive instructions from Wike on how this Country is managed

Accept my deepest condolences

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