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purples25:
Moved in two years ago or so. My first time of living in a neighborhood like that. Me and hubby trying to sit tight until things got better.

I came in right after having my baby and looked like shit with my natural hair. I relaxed the hair next month and it was very long. I also lost weight and started dressing nice. They weren't laughing anymore. I spoke good English. They looked depressed and intimidated. All the girlfriends of drunks in the area, all the market women wearing wrappers around and some even refused to greet me, that is they refused to respond to my greetings. My first few days there I was passing with my baby and attempted to greet a guy, he muttered that I should dey my dey while he dey on his own, with so much malice and contempt.

I made hair after hair. I used a baby carrier, I never really backed my baby. First day I did that, a drunk passed us and set his red eyes on my baby with such a glare that I was wondering what the little child did to him, is it his fault that his mom got something different to carry him with? My child was fair and cute at that point. People said I was fine and my baby was fine, some kids said when they grow up they want to have my style, some people came up to me and praised me. I didn't know the fire I was lighting up under my own ass ...

I saw a lot of things from those people. I was mocked, they sent their kids to ridicule me in the market, their kids on their own started insulting me and my child. Once I couldn't make that hair again it was a great victory for them, the boys from the betting shop close by will actually call their friends to where i am, point at me and laugh. They observed me very closely and mocked me anytime I wasn't able to keep to the former standard of nice dressing and hair, and dressing up my kid. They started loudly complaining that I never allow my child to walk even if he was just a year plus and walked well at home. Some people will even come up to me and tell me to allow the boy to walk. Someone directly told me it's because I use a baby carrier and not what Is common to the neighborhood, which is backing babies with wrapper.

When that mockery with intensity set up on making me an object of ridicule started, even aboki join in o. When the kids were following me with songs and the women and drunks in the area that I never greet were sated, aboki sef start to dey feel important, they will pass and look me up and down slowly, they would laugh. I had ignited so much hatred by suddenly moving in looking nice and being different with my baby.

A woman dropped a fetish substance of boiled eggs and God knows what at my door to scare me or anything else. A line of women sat in the narrow path we cross every day observing me and my son. They didn't stop observing until when after things got bad, my son turned dark in complexion then they stopped their close up mockery and left in smiles.

I cut my long hair to get them off, if that was the thing that made them angry. They didn't stop, they mocked me more. They started saying I looked like a man, some people will loudly comment to my face when their friends point me out. The stupid drunks in the area felt important, the cowards now felt confident that they now swerve when I pass, idiots. Who should be swerving for who. The same drinks that start playing abusive music about cheating wives and saying all sorts of things to make themselves feel ok because I don't greet them, they said I'm old, they said I've given birth, they said I used to sleep with senators and later they said na me go dey look for senators.

I started speaking pidgin because of the hostility and angry claims that I'm just a poor person who was forming, but that changed nothing.

I can't say all but it really affected me, I went down to feeling like nothing. Leaving for a while never stopped them , when I came back they resumed mockery and monitoring. I left again and now it seems they are sated because they have ridiculed me to a point when they can now take their eyes off me and afford not to care.

I now don't dare to do any hair style that the old women in the neighborhood don't do again, nothing flashy. I don't have that self esteem again, I became hard towards my son, I frown whenever I'm out because I wake up every day remembering my 'downfall' in the neighborhood. I don't know if I will regain my former softness or self esteem, right now I'm like whatever. Sometimes I hit my kid In public, I found myself acting just like those women tying wrapper, those old unfashionable women with hairstyles that make them look even older. I decided today that I'll try and mend my relationship with my son because he no longer looks sad when I hit him, he just got home today and started smashing his most loved toy on the wall. That's anger issues starting because of me, so I'll try to heal and fix things with him.

There are many animalistic people and most, not all, people in the hood are of that type. They can't see you shine and not make you miserable.

I'm glad we may be moving out soon.

If u have money just leave the area....

josh123:
Same thing with me, I work indoors and they gossip around that I behave like a woman because I don't go out and I don't entertain many friends like a normal guy would do.... The other day I heard one of the women gossiping about me that I carry women alot the other day I heard the same woman gossiping that I am gay. I just laugh 🤣 pass. Just ignore them and don't lend any of your properties or money to them.

Sometimes Na illiteracy de worry dem.

SportsHD:
Calm down. It'll pass.
If you smoke, smoke weed and chill. It'll take the edge off.
And if you're seeking for a rebound, hmu.

U sure,I'm going thru same tin,I tried alcohol it made me more emotional.... maybe I'll go back to my mj

She's a skit maker o

Silentgroper:
AZ na 2h??

Where you dey buy am?? ..


I'd go for alcohol though .. marijuana can either intensify your anxiety or help with it. It's a two way street .. but with alcohol . You won't even notice you've got anxiety ..


From experience...


Besides, I don't like black lips..

Weed is not that good, could lead to heart attack ....but alcohol taken moderately is good.

Hmmm..u need anti depressants

Check any psychiatric hospital near u..

Smoking started messing with my heart,I had to stop.

Dzzzz:
Happy ending dey?

Very important.

One reason u shouldn't date someone close to u.

Gambling is aNO NO, forget people that share winning,they also loose but they don't talk about it.

Luizkid:
Na greed dey worry you.. Increase your stake while reducing your picks and you'll bounce back to more wins than loses. Don't do more than 2odds total for a start.

Agent of darkness

2019 we lost a friend,he drank sniper and died because of gambling.

Shes not attracted to u.

Elsielamidi:
No it doesn't.

For how long AV u used it?

Franzinni:
Weed smoking is bad, it takes more than it gives ...

I am speaking from a familiar perspective. Use to use that shit to numb my pain until I realized the pain never stops until I face it head on ... any smoke is bad smoke it takes too much to be good. Lungs, heart, skin, looks,breath, mind, and sometimes life.

Causes heart issues br

Pls can I message u privately on WhatsApp?

They're sweet,but most of em de gba

MrPresidon:
Baba I tire oh. The comment I've been looking for

Person dey drink Hennessy from morning till night, how e no go get kidney problem. I dey pity dem Wizkid and davido, especially wizkid. You can never see a picture of that guy without a glass of wine or a blunt. Later when they start having one form of organ failure or another, you see netizens praying for them like the ones you see praying for 2face right now.

I'm not wishing bad on anyone, but with the lifestyle these so called celebrities live, these health issues are inevitable

But 2baba didn't make it open nw...

Mervingreat:
Which kind wahala be dis again? So na so 2face and Annie empire wan take crumble of what?

2baba remember few years ago I personally message you about the way you and Anne smokes weeds like locomotive enginne even to the point the social care of Lagos govt threatened to take away your kids from the house I told you then 2baba wetinn dey shele this is not good for you but you ignored me now kidney wahala don start i just pray it's not true sha.

Lol,u know him personally?

mysticwarrior:
He get kidney problem and he still dey light kpoli for festac.

Lol,ion think he smokes Again.

Na u go drop 20k Na...u find trouble..Na 5k u for drop.....as u drop the 20, they'll think u have money.

Richie001:
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Realme is better than the tecno he mentioned,even realme processor beats the helio g37 processor.

Elsielamidi:
The realmeC61 is a powerhouse of a device! The massive 5000mAh battery and 15W fast charging are total game-changers for heavy users like me.

Does it lag?

Kim4Christ:
Please does it support NFC?

No

Jesutooni:
2 hours more or less.

Not up to.....let's say an hour.

Adeyemisunday:
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Does it lag?
And how long have u been using it?.

You're not married yet,karma should not be happening nw....what about single girls dating a married man,and they end up getting married to a rich dude.

Lexymore95:
It's temptation don't do it oo it causes bad luck

Are you serious?

Nnamdipapa:
Loud is bad but weed is natural. Not all those yeye weeds sold in Nigeria.

They add chemicals to loud ....I think our normal weed here is organic.....

Nnamdipapa:
Cigaratte is bad for his health and a sin against God. I suggest he moves to pure weed.

No one is good...,I developed chest infection and anxiety cos of loud.

Sirchiboy:
Even though it was a poor choice, my confidence has increased from zero to one hundred since I started smoking.
I speak boldly now, and my introverted life has subsided.
No more being intimidated.
Now as vicious and ferocious as a lion.

Very soon na u go run from smoking....dem no de tell person....