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CFCfan: Germany will win

joywendy: lol...it's happens at times. It depends on the kind you are playing either blitz or the classical chess. Blitz is fast, just play and make sure your time doesn't run out. Fast thinking. Different from the classical chess where you have to seat and think for a while before playing.
So maybe we could play sometime?

ideology: The writer s view was not about saying no, rather its a case where the lady is yet to respond or not reciprocating or not being appreciated.

ideology: Babe, be like you wanna use it aa weapons.
Hmmm it can back fire, men are smarter than most people think, just that men just love you women, so the accept to pay the price.

If all men wanna be bad guys, this world will not be good for ladies to inhabit.

Dygeasy: She calls you, you don't call her (cos you're supposedly willing to let her go), then you yet apologise later for not calling her.

You, Sir are confused.

Oahray: thanks. I mixed that up. So bad at multitasking.

You get the point. Most times, time is longer when there's no end in sight. When a guy is motivated, he can chase a girl for months, even years. When he loses hope however...

How long is too long? Even for me, I still don't know.

ideology: lol
Pls don't use it as a weapon, its part of the reason, normally nice guys have become different, they now wanna flow with the general norms.
He now transfers the hurt to other ladies he will meet.

Oahray: oh... An underscore. See my whack memory. *hides face*

I'm not sure I can answer that question as patience levels differ for many reasons. Still... Consider this scenario.

Let's say time is a queue in a banking hall, and there are two queues.

At the time miss Uj and Miss Sizzle walked in together some 10 mins ago, queue A had 63 persons, and qeueue B had 32 persons. Uj joined the shorter queue B, while Sizzle joined queue A.

Back to the present... 10 mins later, Sizzle is the 49th person on queue A. Uj is still the 33rd person on queue B.

The reason? Cashier B has been diligently working. Cashier A has been absent, though he returns briefly to sweet-talk the customers into hanging on before grabbing something and disappearing again.

1) Technically, which queue is longer?
2) If neither is in a hurry to go anywhere, who is more likely to abandon her queue, miss Uj or miss Sizzle?

ideology: Lol, he may not be outrightly ill, but He's not gonna be himself during the period. He can be spending most time indoors alone, which is not healthy

ideology: Not generally, because some men can withstand longer period. Not its not fair if the period gets more than a month. The man is usually unstable during this period, he may loss appetite, fall ill, sleep late wake up late too, which can affect his job or business.

Immediately he recovers and moves on, its gonna be difficult to change his mind.

joywendy: hello! are you a member there?

ideology: If the man waits for a month, he has tried

ideology: If the man waits for a month, he has tried

Oahray: our view of time and it's passage, is subjective, even if we all look at the same wall clock.

Someone's handle just lost some weight... I mean, a dash (-)

Oahray: men do not always think maga/mugu. Ok, I lied, most men do. Alot. It's not always because of personal experience either. Gender-biased info, especially on the internet, is the culprit, methinks. Pretty much the same way many girls (even those who have never been in a relationship) believe guys only want their bodies and would always cheat.

We (male and female) usually do not try to understand the other sex personally, but tend to flow with the tide of gender stereotype. Herd mentality.

That said, many girls take too long to wonder where guys fit in their lives. The reason, I think, is rather selfish. She's weighing him against other guys to see which would be better for her (guys can be selfish too).

The guy is on the bench outside wondering if he'd ever come in. Hours in the cold turn to days and then to many months. The roses in his hands wilt, and finally he leaves, convinced he's wasting time. She realises she cannot hear anyone shivering outside the window anymore, and she peeps. She sees he's gone and feels disappointed and hurt because she has the right to.

Guys don't wear nice shoes, so girls don't bother trying to walk in them.

Caracta: Still trying to locate a site but then, I never had anybody interested in playing with me. So I had to stick with my phone. As soon as I get home, I'll look for a site or an online app we can play on.

ideology: The guy that was interested Cannot Just all of a sudden stop being interested. It's either the Lady has Done something wrong, for example the Lady, starts feeling the guy is Just being Obessed, or is a weak Fellow who's not Mature and needs to grow up, Some ladies May see the guys outPouring of Love as being a MAGA or "MUGU"

In any case, seek redress, nurture the man's emotions or find out if you offended the guy and sincerely apologize. then See his reactions.

ideology: Wow this is beautiful, you brought it home, but i Think i writer area of Interest is when the relationship starts, the guy Normally pours out all his Heart, does things like
1. Calling her 3 Times a day.
2. always Wanna see her or Hear From her
3. Buys her gifts. Etc

Which Many see as being weak or being too emotional.
While the Lady, May not show all this feeling, even Though she Loves him.
Now the guy feels the girl is not reciprocating, he withdraws to control his excesses (Emotions)

during this Period, the Lady May think the guy is not interested in her again.
But the writer, has Advised that ladies should Understand men Under this light, Move in and nurture the man's Emotions. hence he said that man is Emotionally Immature.

Oahray: nice angle. You are right.

However, I think it's more than just a reaction to women's 'emotional selfishness.' Truth is, women generally show more emotional intelligence than men. They are better able to send and process received body language signals. It comes quite 'naturally' to them.

(At this point, the article attributes this to nurture, as against nature, maintaining that men grow up suppressing emotions cos of upbringing and society, while women are free to explore theirs. Whether it's nature or nurture, is a topic for another day)

It starts even from before a relationship starts. A girl sees a guy she likes, sends a torrent of 'come-get-me' signals, but he does nothing. The girl thinks he doesn't fancy her. Truth is, he probably just couldn't decode her greenlight.

Same with relationships. A girl wants to show how she feels, she uses non-verbal signs expecting him to get it. Her partner misses it, and she feels neglected or even unloved.

As a reaction, the guy feels she's making a mountain out of a mole hill, and withdraws to try to figure out within himself what's really wrong. She interprets his withdrawal as lack of interest in her, and at times mirrors him out of frustration.

They slowly drift apart. With time, another relationship licks the dust.

herald9: U got baptized too?

u are now a new creature in christ!

welcome UJ (without _) sizzle

dagr8: ujsizzle, salc, mynd44 .....enjoy your modified monikers

Nonso23: Beans + Okra soup