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Brothers, What Will You Advise a Brother?

I'm currently confused about my relationship journey.

I haven't really been the type to consider a serious relationship for a while now. It's just been a couple of sex partners here and there. We do it safely and keep things on a superficial level.

Now, recently, there have been demands and questions here and there about starting a family, especially considering that my immediate junior brother is done having children. His lastborn will be three next month, while the lastborn of my family is also done having kids. Her firstborn is already 10 years old.

I seem to be the only odd one out in this regard, even though I'm arguably more financially settled than all of them. Not to brag, please; I'm just trying to paint a clearer picture of the situation.

I clocked 35 in May, and it was as if everyone in the universe agreed to centre their birthday wishes around God providing me with a wife and family. Ever since then, the reminders from my folks have been pretty loud, persistent, and disturbing.

For the first time in years, I decided to seek a proper relationship, unlike my usual superficial flings and sexcapades.

Come to think of it, I can barely go three days without proper sex. This detail should be useful later.

I met this very beautiful babe from my state. She's 27, a first-class graduate (I am too, actually), and I'm naturally attracted to every facet of intelligence, especially communicative and academic intelligence. She has both, and I'm superbly into her.

She can hold a very reasonable conversation without leaving you mentally exhausted. She's become an integral part of my life, and at this point, I think it's safe to say I'm deeply attracted to her and genuinely like her.

Worthy of note is the fact that I've enjoyed a very unusual level of peace with her over the past three months, which is absolutely unlike me.

I get correct anger ish, although I've learnt to manage it well. I'm not a violent person, but I pick offences easily, and most times, I walk away when provocations get too loud. More often than not, my walking away is goodbye. I'm so good at it.

But since meeting this babe, we've not had any ugly disagreements over these past few months. She's very calm, calculated, and receptive. These qualities have made me like her even more.

She has a reasonably good-paying job, but that's not even an issue. I earn well enough to cater for everything, but she's also financially independent. Gifting seems to be her thing, too, as she's spent quite a sum on gifts for me without expecting anything in return. I haven't even matched up to a quarter of what she's spent on gifting though.

For the first time in my life, I agreed to a no-sex-before-marriage relationship because she's a virgin.

I still dey run my games on a low, so this didn't really look like an ish.

Here lies the rub.

Just last week, she said she had a confession to make, and she opened up about being SS. Mind you, I'm AA, so, by the usual norms, this shouldn't be an issue.

But during one of our previous conversations, she had claimed to be AS and asked if I would be comfortable settling down with someone who was SS. I almost freaked out.

I'm sorry, but I've always wanted to have AA kids. With apologies to those affected, I've always believed that if I ever have children, I owe them the best possible chances at life, including heightened intelligence, beauty, and a sound genotype. I believe I have a reasonable degree of control over who complements my genes to bring these qualities to fruition.

I'm honestly very good-looking and intelligent, so why not get someone who possesses these qualities, too?

Call it insipid or vapid, but I could swear that life has already dealt some people heavy blows by limiting their options in their quest for a future partner. Unlike those of us with AA genotypes, who can consider partners across all the common genotypes without the same risk of having children with sickle cell disease, they don't always have that freedom. I wanted my kids to have that freedom and an avalanche of options, too.

So, when she asked me that question, I sincerely freaked out and couldn't hide my disdain.

This, in turn, stopped her from opening up until last week, when she could no longer hide it.

Funnily enough, I already like her to the point where I don't mind if she's SS, BB, or iPhone.

But the fact that she lied is what actually turned out to be my ish. She's been a very straightforward person so far, and this particular issue has upset our fashioned norms.

I proposed that the no-sex-before-marriage agreement should be off if we were going to be together, and she agreed. But now, I'm beginning to think it might look as though I'm trying to take advantage of her at this point.

Brothers, what will you advise a brother?
Am I being unreasonable?
Considering the emotional supports people with SS need, how challenging can it be? What is the possibility that she lives long enough?

All insults, curses, and whatever are welcome.
T for grateful.

I won't not discourage you neither would I encourage you to go ahead and marry her. But if you must marry her, you must be financially buoyancy at all times not just bragging on the internet.

Taking care of SS lady especially during pregnancy is somehow, get a family doctor for her at that period. You must always be ready for health challenges that may occur at all times

These are members of the APC women wing, trying to raise their own contribution of the campaign funds to support Bola Ahmed Tinubu re-election.

Same pope that has the called the Catholic Bishop Conference of Nigeria (CBCN) to condemn and offer condolences to the Christian elites in Nigeria on the ongoing Bola Ahmed Tinubu -terrorists jihad against christians community in Nigeria.
I can't help but to feel that the world has turned their backs on us and abandoned us in the hands of these beasts called APC

For me, I love breast


Yeah

The sisters should just her life out
Instead of accusing her brother's wife for refusing her coming to America.

There's a different between her coming to America and her brother cummins into his wife. The later has a greater power to influence decision making

No

It's a traditional bald head from your ancestral root. You are the renewed covenant of your baldhead linage.

Bloody copycats

Criminal elements

Which one is uncleared whether ransom was paid?
APC business forest business men won't release them free without ransom.
They are raising money to contribute their quota to the campaign fund.

Please I want all believe of a POSSible new Nigeria to join me and say may thunder faya soludo

Let me book for space fess

This is a proof that someone could actually die in a very expensive way

See what people are going through

While a few criminals are somewhere collecting the benefits

Criminal

More characters

This is Bola Ahmed Tinubu witchcraft effect

People get mind oooooh

This TV wey da give us local CNN should try to cut short this long talk. I no day fit watch him videos. I no get time to listen to his bad voice before I could see and hear the contents of the video

Wahala just too much for this life


Robot sef get erection and Tunibu no get

Person wey get brain cancer

Holder women are the best

Too many things don full that him head

Contry hard
Stress and depression dey


Bola Ahmed Tinubu is the only evil we that is worrying us in Nigeria. Ooooh Baba God mbok deliver us from him

If they make Nigeria a drama series

It would become a horror movie

Him own don mature

It's now time to pay

VDM say something on the recent NBA conference that was held in Port Harcourt

The say the monster you grow today will consume you tomorrow
This parable illustrate the case of Rochas Okorocha

Jesus Christ of Nazareth

I hope Jay jay my guy is among this list

That agba don already bribe magistrates even the election begins

That serves them right
Them go think say them dey their smelly Lagos

Ayodele please hold your peace

Iyobaba:
I don't know what the name of the mod of this section is but I have a clue what region he's from.
If you don't want me to comment, you might as well delete my f**king account.

Na thunder go fire all of them

There's something fishy about this FCT CP

God punish this bandit family

Before then it's aim have been achieved

The funds have been embezzled
Even if the project no longer continue no wahala

Crooks in APC