Viruses:


I don't have a direct answer to your question, but in your shoes, I will open a pounds mutual fund account in Nigeria with Stanbic IBTC asset management and dump the pounds there. The pounds will retain it's value as pounds and will grow with the mutual fund interest rate which is higher than normal bank rate. Revolut will not even give you interest.

They are not giving me interest at all.

Lexusgs430:


If this was my money and I had no short term plans to spend it....... What I would do is :-

1 - Either open a Monzo account and lock it a savings account, you would receive about £10 per month.......
2 - Put money with a fund manager like Blackrock, moneyfarm or nutmeg..... And receive about 20% appreciation per year (cash invested can go up or down)....... 😁🤣

I have a Monzo account. thanks for the tip

Deeegbee:


It depends on if you are returning to the UK soon.

I am not.
Is it advisable to remove my money before the visa expires?

I need help guys. Is it absolutely safe to keep money in my revolut bank? I have over 4k pounds in it, my BRP is expiring by end of next week and I have moved out of UK. I fear an update or whatever will require me to verify my identity with a UK card which I won't be having very soon.

Just to digress from the topic pls. Is it the place of my mum to serve my husband his food if I am not around and my mum is on a visit? Considering I have made the meal and put it in a cooler or smth.
Should my husband expect my mum to serve him?

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I am back again
My baby was born light skinned from birth with dark ears. His ears have since brightened up to his face whilst his body is dark.
I have bought baby black soap and body butter online to get his whole body to have one color but it's not working.
He is already 3 months, is this normal? His father is light skinned and I'm on the dark side.

A friend of mine is currently overstaying her visa after she was unfortunate to get a COS. It's been 6 months of trying to stay low key as possible as she can. No Facebook presence as such, linkedl is deleted, avoid police wahala etc. Is there a way she can legalize her stay? Coming to Nigeria isn't an option for her, breadwinner of the family

Timitoyo:


To the 2nd question, I burn them in the refuse pit. If you don't have one , then dig a small hole and burn ( that's if it's your own compound ) if not look for a metal bucket to do it .

Thank you. I'll do that in the coming week.

Hello mamas. It's my first time on this thread, I have nowhere else to post this.
My baby was born light skinned from birth with dark ears. His ears have since brightened up to his face whilst his body is dark.
I have bought baby black soap and body butter online to get his whole body to have one color but it's not working.
He is already 3 months, is this normal? His father is light skinned and I'm on the dark side.

My second question, how do mummys here dispose their babies diapers? I have truckload of use ones in the house, my mum doesn't want me to dispose it off to the waste management people cos of fear of using baby diapers for juju

DereI:
Coming to Calgary mid October and seeking accommodation? Dm me.

I have sent a DM, I'll be awaiting your response

AirBay:


Join Calgary Newcomers group

I wish to join the group pls, how do I do that?

flokii:
It's like I will port to this section now and leave politics one side.. I've been reading a lot of captivating stories here lately.

@OP Why the night shifts?. Una no dey sleep for night??
It's not a must you accept every invitation for friendship or romance.. If you can't be free around someone or feel unnecessary pressure, simply quit the relationship and go back to your normal life. Love will find you where you least expect.

Many recruitment agencies here in UK pays more for night shifts, might be 1 or 2 pound more than day shift depending on the employer.

Exodus15v11:
I no follow. How does your comment relate with mine? I know I called her a "dummy" but I did so for not cutting off the guy, such as the moment he asked her to visit his house to cook for him, then him taking her out to Burger King of all places, then him following her to her house, smdh. She deserves to be called a dummy but I wasn't and I'm not bashing her for being single and unmarried. Besides, the female in the post didn't give her age at all in the post, so how did you jump from A to Z? Lol.

The guy in question is the person who is not worth the stress. From reading the first two paragraphs alone, dude has a lot of audacity but it's naive ladies like her who give them audacity.

I'm really confused with this quote, I was actually buttressing your first comment.

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Exodus15v11:
I only read up to the second paragraph. I no get the patience to read nonsense. It doesn't take rocket science to know this guy is no good. Dump him!

Thats why I find it funny when some NL men bashes older single ladies for being unmarried. In many cases sef it's not like these women aren't seeing men at all, but are they worth the stress?

talented321:
With my weed...
RED FLAGS
1. Sentimental and over religious.
2. Entitle mentality.
3. Desperation..
I'd this feeling that guy just want to bleep u..
That ur guy can cheat on u and blame devil, i once dating one church and over religious girl that always play the victim game and blame devil for everything..
On a second thought maybe he is serious to marry u..
All i have for u is becareful with that manchi...

Lol, how did you know this? The original post is so long I had to cut some out. The lady said the guy asked for permission to be with a former housemate that likes him for sex, since she as a future wife isn't ready for that. This was during their 2 weeks break sha, but he didn't do it after he realized he had to start a marathon church fasting and prayer around that period. Still blamed the lady for what he suggested too

Kobojunkie:
Relationship 419! All the bells going off up and down yet she is still considering him? Ok naw!

Later they will say Nigerian women are divorcing abroad. I live here and see how some married women work multiple exhausting night and day shifts just to make up bills with their husbands, still find time to do house cooking, cleaning and taking primary care of the kids.
This kind of man will do wrong in his marriage and ask his wife to pray about it, use Bible verses to justify his actions as well.

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"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too.
I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.

We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.

We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.

I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil.
He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them.
The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.

Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.

I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?

I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"

Venom104:


Where in Alberta?

Anywhere in Alberta, this will be my first time in Canada. I am only particular about the province cos I read it is cheaper there. I am open to other provinces as well.

Enculer2:


Your response is typical. You have very little and probably are inconsequential in the scheme of things but are putting up a show like someone who has what it takes to help.

If you cannot help the pregnant lady, steer clear. I am repulsed to think that dark-hearted people like you are in Canada. You clearly do not have the Canadian spirit and are a toxic addition to Canada. People like you dilute the good spirit of Canada. Imagine Canada having someone like you as a New Citizen.

Irrespective of what the person has posted in the past, your post shows that you are a low quality person filled with hate.

It is attitudes like these that will keep the asians firmly ahead of Africans in Canada. No spirit of fraternity.

Thank you o. He simply said I do not deserve to be helped not because of anything but because I am an introvert. I don't even know how that sounds to him or her.
Is it now a criminal offence to be an introvert? I love my space like he saw in the previous post, but does that mean I have lived in isolation away from people all my life?
And at this critical point of pregnancy, I don't know why my introversion should be a problem in getting an accommodation around people.
I'd have been totally fine with airbnb if I am not pregnant, but I cannot risk living alone in such setting when I know how unpredictable pregnancy can go. May God help us.

yeldey:



I went through your past posts on NL to know your kind of personality because I know a female friend willing to sublet her room, you claimed you are an introvert, and you enjoy your private space and don't like sharing your space while you loose energy having people around you.

Now that you are pregnant and you need help with accommodation and help from people, you still came here to claim you want people around you.

You want people around you now as maid shey?

Personally, people like you don't deserved to be helped.

A pregnant introvert doesn't need help? Did I ask to share same room with the person accommodating me?
I don't know if you're a man or a woman, but either ways pregnancy isn't something easy and this is my first. It only make sense that I want accommodation around people in case of medical emergency. I am not looking for someone to cook for me or wash my clothes while I'm 9 months pregnant inside Canada winter, I'm simply doing this because any emergency beyond my control could come up and having absolutely no one around doesn't make sense. I've always looked up to stay alone in airbnb, but I had a change of mind.
I am a good person, I shouldn't be denied help based on my introversion. If your friend has an accommodation up for rent, she will never regret letting me in.

Enculer2:


Send me a PM. I do not stay in Alberta but Insha Allah, there will be leads to a solution.

Thank you. I will do that now

Hello everyone.
My husband and I are expecting our baby soon and I want to have the baby in Canada, I recently got my Canadian PR visa and want to take advantage of that.
I currently live in Europe and I plan to come into Canada before mid November. My plan is to do a soft landing, have my baby and go back to take care of myself and child before permanently relocating as a PR to Canada.

I have no one in Canada and will be landing for this purpose during winter, I need an accommodation in Alberta for a period of two months. Anyone in Alberta with an extra room in their house available for short term rent will be an ideal plan for me.
I want to be around people as much as I can. I am also open to joining Alberta group for this purpose pls.
I want to settle the accommodation as soon as I can.
I am open to other provinces as well.

DamnnNiggarr:
Men being lazy in this present time, is what King Solomon saw over 3000 years ago when he wrote the book of Proverbs 22 vs 6

It is a warning to parents that if they allow their children to have their own way, they will not depart from that foolishness when they are older.

You'll see a New generation mother getting mad at someone because the person corrected her son.

The lingering menace of laziness among Men is as a result of how parents raised their sons. this issue of laziness tends to be more prevalent among men that were raised by single mothers. They made the children believe that they're not into this world to suffer, forgetting that life is not always bed of roses, that shit may happen. They also forget that the young and innocent boy child will one day become a man to fend for his family.

The menace of laziness among Men will linger if we don't desist from copying the white people's style of training their children.

I can't make sense of this. There are lots of irresponsible men from way back. My dad was raised in the 1930s, yet even in marriage then his mum was responsible for him mostly.
My dad was basically raised alone by his mum yet he was a responsible husband and dad until his death. It takes a lot of intentionality to be responsible wives and husbands, mothers and fathers too.
The Bible says "as it was in the beginning, it is now and forever shall be, world without end..."
This has nothing to do with modernity or influence of the whites. Men blame everyone but themselves

This is what happens when we live in a society that rewards irresponsible men. There's a married lady here I know that her husband has left virtually all the financial responsibility on top of her head. She works a lot of shift to make up for the bills.
The day her eyes will open now, the man will lament how he brought her abroad.
It is on this same nairaland that a man came to talk about marrying a woman raised by her single mum and her step dad, and a lot of men encouraged him to look for the irresponsible dad that left this woman alone to raise her child by herself.
I wonder if these men live in so much delusion that reality is now a joke to them. We're they implying that there aren't men that actually 100% leave a child for the mum to cater for alone? The saving grace of many of them is marriages, where the wife can make up for a lot of their irresponsibilities.
No man that didn't raise his child should wait till 20+ years later for that child to look for him for a blessing that doesn't make sense. Sperm doesn't come with the ability to be a dad. Being responsible for your child does.
If you show a man you can go 10 miles financially in marriage, he will leave you to walk much more till you're worn out.

Solofresh2:
By moving on from the pain
You can also do your revenge abeg Nigerians are toxic people

Thank you. I have tried that but it didn't work out. I always thought that revenge will make me feel better about the situation. And that "be the bigger person" annoys me a lot because the person that has been cheated is now asked to take it all in and let it go. It's not easy

yrhuhfy113:


How on earth are you able to bear the pains and hurts on your own. I must say, you are really STRONG.

Now let's solve this.

See, you just need to ASK YOURSELF WHYYYYYYYYYY.............. WHY DID IT HAPPEN IN THE FIRST PLACE.... and the simple answer was..... YOU ALLOWED IT BY IGNORING ALL THE SIGNS.


You can revenge by GETTING BETTER, RICHER, STRONGER, WEALTHIER AND MOST IMPORTANTLY HAPPIER.

So that is how you walk out on the sticky mess that this whole thing did to you.

You need to cut off from HER, HER MOM and everything that reminds you of her. Relocate if need be.... CHANGE NUMBER, CHANGE SOCIAL MEDIA PROFILES.... go dark for a while and become a totally different beast.... MOVE ON.


She will realize her mistake when you flourish and become better. THE PAIN WAS NEEDED TO GIVE YOU CLARITY THAT NO ONE IS TO BE OVER TRUSTED.....

Looking back, you must have seen the SIGNS but you ignored it because of LOVE or FAMILIARITY... and it became your undoing.

So you will heal when you rearrange your life and become a stranger to what or how they used to know you.

being NICE is a weakness and luxury you can't afford anymore..... YOU MUST BECOME WISER.... STREET WISE... so no one hurts you again.

jah bless

Thank you so much. It hurts a lot that I saw the signs but they weren't signs to me. I trusted her so much. And in my mum's words she said "you have taken after your father" my dad trusted people until his death and will always give a chance to anyone until proven otherwise.

This niceness doesn't pay me at all. I'm super glad my mum and siblings didn't use the situation against me. May God grant me the grace to become street wise like you said.

I don't want to go into much details of what happened, a long term friend of mine did something really hurtful to me over a year ago. I haven't been hurt so much in my life the way she hurt me, I felt betrayed because our friendship meant a lot to me.

I have tried to seek revenge by reporting the case to authority around the time because she didn't feel remorseful about what she did. Her mum has been like a mum to me right since we were teenagers and she has tried to make me reason with her.

I have told myself that I have forgiven her, but sometimes I randomly get triggered by forces beyond my control. It could be a story on Twitter, on NL, or just seeing two friends in real life and I remember the hurt and get so pissed all over again.

I am tired, I want to move on with my life, the trigger has happened again recently and I've been nursing headache because of a lady that is probably somewhere clubbing and enjoying her life.

For people that have been hurt and betrayed by a loved one, pls how did you totally move on? How do you deal with triggers? When did you tell yourself revenge isn't worth it and leaving everything to God. A lot of time I don't think about it at all, but once I get triggered it's really so bad. I don't want that for myself.

This situation has caused me depression, increased my anxiety, it has generally had a bad impact on my life. I've told God I've forgiven her, I need practical ways to deal with the triggers when it comes.

abuhusna1:

Your friend has upper hand here he just need to report it to the home office asap. The wife uk don cast be that cos she can't marry another man in the uk or switch visa her only hope is if citizen knack her belle and she born here only then she change her status on her child citizenship

Thank you. He told me he has reported their separation and the domestic violence he encountered to the home office(the marriage breakdown unit) around late last year. Those ones said he won't be informed of their final decision as it is a private matter. He doesn't really know if they've taken any actions or not.

koonbey:


There's no way to prove that she was deceiving him for over two years. She'd just say she loved him and then fell out of love and there's no way your friend can establish otherwise. The home office will not get into relationship he said she said unless there's manifest proof of fraud or other illegality. I don't think an MP will get involved in a domestic dispute like this either.

The only way forward is to initiate a divorce. If she's still on that dependant visa, it'll affect her. If she has shifted to another one, it won't.

Your friend needs to focus on untying himself from her, and be less preoccupied with revenge.

E don happen, e don happen. Way forward lo ku.

So painful.

Zahra29:


That's insane. If this "long term fiance" is on Tier 2, why did he not apply to bring her into the UK as his spouse/partner?

Her plans may very well backfire as her long term fiance might not be able to sponsor her on his visa. Plus she would have to get divorced officially first, marry her fiance and then reapply from Nigeria...not sure how she plans on staying legally if she is no longer her husband's dependent.

The fiance is in Nigeria, not UK. Their plan is to use my friend to enter here, settle herself individually and then go marry and bring that one in later.