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Pls make me to understand ur point.

LUAN1:
you are not married, your last topic tell it all

I have been married for 6 months, and if I where to take back the hands of time, I would never use the word marriage in my mouth.

That regular quote that people say "women change after marriage" that quote is very correct.

Today I am still in marriage because if I leave, what will people say ?

Babatunjo:
So I was at dinner with a friend this week. Guy has been married for about 8 years now... married almost immediately after uni. Tall guy, always had fine girlfriends back in school. You’d think na him go dey hype marriage pass.

Out of nowhere, he just sighed and said he regrets marrying… apart from the kids.
His advice shocked me.

He said if he were single again in 2026 Nigeria, he would never marry. That I should just find a woman, have between 1 to 3 kids if I want, make her comfortable, take care of my responsibilities... but avoid marriage completely.

I laughed it off, but then it hit me:
My boss had told me something very similar some time ago.
Then I remembered a former neighbour... fine wife, two kids, lovely family pictures on social media... he also warned me not to rush into marriage.

These are not bitter, broke men o. These are men society would call “successful”.

So now I’m asking myself (and una): Wetin really dey happen?
Is marriage quietly becoming something different from what we were sold?

Dzzzz:
You go know say na career when time reach..Na only you wan cum but make she no cum Abi?..You go marry Gen Z and you no wan lick pum pum!!

Funny enough she is not Gen Z ooooo
She is 29 and will be 30 next year.

Exceed15:
You already lost your control by letting go of your strong principle. My woman knows well I don't do it from onset.

Which strong principle ?

Dzzzz:
He can do 69 then both sides win..

I no want.
Sex no be career.

gerizzim:
Son,

Stop putting your mouth there. I know some will say if you love her, then you should make her happy by doing it.

it is not only menses in their period the female vagina secrets,it also secrets discharge once in a while off their period though not red in colour.

These secretion carries bacteria dt are not good. there is no how you wil use ur tongue Nd these bacteria won't move down your oesophagus to reside there and starts multiplying. This can trigger cancer in your throat.

your health comes first before pleasure. If you go down with throat cancer dt woman may not stand with you all the way as you battle your life for medical solution.

Let me say this to give you this confirmation.

Put your wife to test by telling her you have gonorrea and see her reaction. Will she assist you to treat the forged disease?

The answer is NO. she wil wnt to start withdrawing Frm you and treat you like a leper.
I leave you to imagine how she will treat you when the real nightmare happens.

Most women will nudge to do smth for dem dt will benefit or favour them not minding if it impacts on you badly. At the end, Na only you go use ur head suffer the negative implication.

you may do it out of fear so she doesn't get it outside but still Let me ask, if it was you dt ask for bj and she insists she won't do it, wt will you do? The answer to this qtn will determine wat you wil do in dis case of she been the one wanting it.

In summary, tell her you dnt like it. hear her out. Don't assume she will go out and get it. Who knows she may see reason with you and let you be.

Thanks,
You have spoken like a father.

Foodqueen:
Was she the same lady that have offensive smell from her pussy

The one you talked about in Jan this year.

Yes,
But I dunno what she did, I told her about the offensive smell and after a while, it stopped.

judatech:

Waiting for response
Mmmmmmmmmmmjiiuuuuyyy

Make u give ur own response too na.

Please I need opinion from both male and female cos this is one thing I have never experienced in my 33 years on this earth.

My wife whom we got married this year wants me to eat her p*say during sex.

Well I tried it but I didn't like the taste of it so I just could not continue. And I was also worried about the health implications of eating a woman's p*ssy. So I just stopped.

But being an observant man, I realize that she actually wants me to eat her p*say, and I am considering doing it just to make her happy and satisfy her sexual desires but mt question now is this.

1. The first time I tried it, I did not like the taste of it, so I want to know do all pussy have same taste ?? Or does pussy actually have taste in the first place ??

2. What are the health implication of eating a woman's p*ssy ?

3. Is it ok to spit out the saliva in my mouth during the process of eating her p*ssy or should I go ahead to swallow it

4. I need general opinion of any one that actually cares to share his/her opinion.

Thanks.

MrHandsome2013:
I met this girl online based on parole and I fell in love with her.

We started dating and everything is fine.
When I asked her why she was doing OS.

She told me that she is the one sponsoring her self in school and none of her family members are supporting her.

I intend to wife but scared of her past.
I have listened to many online counseling videos that a woman’s past matters a lot.
She had told me she is now changed person.

Then I came up with lies that in our culture that if a woman cheat outside marriage that she will run mad immediately that if she can cope with that.
She told me it is fine , that she did os to support her school

Old habits never dies.

Nna2025:
Hello Nairalanders, I know we are very sensitive to cheating so I ask for forgiveness.

I had a fling with a girl I have known for sometime now, I used CD but at some point, I used my finger. I started reading about Hiv and the possiblity of contracting it through fingering. Although my readings says % is very low provided there is no fresh injury, however I opted for PEP to calm my nerves. ( Pep is a drug used, when you suspect an exposure to HIV, remember you have 36hours to take it or else it won't work)

I tore off the pack, hid it in something and kept it in my bag. My wife for whatever reason searched my bag, saw it googled it and came back shouting and screaming since last night. My only comment to her is let's go for hiv test And that the drug was for my asthma, I know she wants to take it somewhere for verification.

My only fear now is if I disclose the reason for taking PEP, then my marriage is in danger.


Anything I can do to salvage this situation, I do not have time. Please my people

What ever you do, don't ever admitted that you cheated on her.

Even till ur last breath, don't ever admit u cheated on her.

If you tell her, I promise that u will live to regret it for the rest of ur life.

Does Deeone know that wikipedia recognizes VDM
Cos this Deeone trying to sabotage VDM is mission impossible.

Wetin u wan dey do for Ghana ?

beeblack:
RIP to the man. This is what you gain if u marry beauty instead of character and u promise her heaven and earth

Where is the beauty ?

AutoChick4U:
Guy that shii worked for me. Kindly ignore if you doubt it

No need to fight or quarrel over it.

AutoChick4U:
what u have no knowledge of pass u.

Well,
I forgot to come back to update this thread.
After our last sexual experience, I travelled and we talked about it on the phone. One month after I came back to town and to my greatest surprise, the offensive smell was no more. And I enjoyed sex with her very well.

When I told her on the phone she said she had not had sex for about 6 months before she met me and she said probably that could be the cause.

AutoChick4U:
what u have no knowledge of pass u.

Well,
I forgot to come back to update this thread.
After our last sexual experience, I travelled and we talked about it on the phone. One month after I came back to town and to my greatest surprise, the offensive smell was no more. And I enjoyed sex with her very well.

When I told her on the phone she said she had not had sex for about 6 months before she met me and she said probably that could be the cause.

Princedapace:
Repeat same action. A lot of ladies have this experience and caused by many factors. Also, she is aware already, that means, bringing up the topic is not bad. Take her to hospital if U have the money, do test and other tests too. Start from there. Also, support the treatment with good herbal treatment as well. I mean, good one with proper lisence

Well,
I forgot to come back to update this thread.
After our last sexual experience, I travelled and we talked about it on the phone. One month after I came back to town and to my greatest surprise, the offensive smell was no more. And I enjoyed sex with her very well.

vikgreen01:
Dear nairalanders
I hope you all are well.
I bring to you this issue I am currently facing, a squad of meter monitoring team bursted my apartment and while a check was carried out on the meter, it was discovered that it has been internally bypassed which was totally unknown to me. After dragging back and forth, and the official who got the meter for me was involved, I was disconnected, meter removed and handed to me, wire taken away, and a sum of 451k was slammed as fine.
Recently, the official who got the meter for me reached out to me, he told me I should bring 30k to retrieve the wire and when I asked him what about fixing the meter, he'd brushed me off.

During the heated argument with the meter monitoring team, I was told some wires has been cut off inside the meter which I am sure it wasn't from me.

I would like to know if this meter can be fix by a technician so it can continue to work normally rather than taking it to their office where I don't know what else they would charge me in the cause of finding solutions to the meter.

Thank you.

Just be careful so you don't get your self in court with the government.

Some very irrelevant issues carries grievous consequences in the eyes of the law.

Teymanhenry:
Approaching personal hygiene issues with sensitivity is crucial. Instead of directly mentioning body odor during intimacy, consider a more thoughtful approach:

- Suggest showering together before intercourse.
- Gift her a nice perfume or scented body products.
- Express your sensitivity to smells in a gentle, non-judgmental way.

This subtle approach can help her understand your concerns without feeling embarrassed or self-conscious. Remember, open communication and empathy are key.
I speak from experience bro

Thanks man,
This is really helpful.

Bobbynobobby:
Smh that fishy smell isn't normal bro

It's not a fishy smell, it smells like poo.

I found a medicine used for treating yeast infection in her house, I told her why she had that medicine and she said her ex took her to the hospital for medical checkup sometime ago.
I asked why they needed a medical check up and she said the ex usually gets this offensive smell during sex.

So her ex did have a similar experience, meaning she's been having this foul smell for a while now.

So what is now ur advise ?

Cousin9999:
-She may be allergic to semen, latex condoms, spermicide, or lubricant.
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/25024-semen-allergy
https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/allergic-to-condom

-Or maybe you don't understand what a woman is supposed to smell like. Vaginas are not flowers. lol Are you sure there's actually an odor?
-It could just be a yeast infection, which frankly, could be caused or worsened by you and your hygiene.
-Also, I'm honestly not trying to be offensive, but I notice that closeted/gay men talk about female body odor a lot. It seems like they can't handle their own feelings and are trying to justify it.

As for a solution, you could tell your girlfriend that you suspect that you got an infection or rash from a public toilet, and that you're going to go get ointment or visit the doctor. Tell her that she should do the same because you may have passed it to her.

Also, you both should shower before and after sex.

I've had several gf in the past.
This smell is the first of it's kind.

Mathewrichard99:
I have actually patiently read all responses but none said anything could help you.

First, I hope it's just recently you discovered this in her.

She can go for test and ascertain what actually is causing it.

Also, if you are so sure she ain't that type that sleeps around. Take her to a good pharmacy shop and get BORIC ACID. GET ENOUGH THAT WOULD LAST AS INSTRUCTED BY THE PHARMACIST.

You will see the fresh smell henceforth after just a day or two days of using it.

It's ought to be inserted as recommended by the pharmacist.

You would be shocked and happy at the fastness it works

Also, find a good way to your girlfriend even though she might feel sad afterward, but seeing you ready to help out and showing you love her despite that would quickly stop the sadness.

So many things do cause Vagina smell and not necessarily sleeping up and down.

Doctors know the best and have the best advice.

Meanwhile, for a fast solution, take her or go and buy the Boric Acid for her and make sure you ask the pharmacist how many to be in inserted daily and how long. It's very very effective and being used by most ladies for sweet smell and eradication of any fungi, bacteria or any other diseases...

I found a medicine used for treating yeast infection in her house, I told her why she had that medicine and she said her ex took her to the hospital for medical checkup sometime ago.
I asked why they needed a medical check up and she said the ex usually gets this offensive smell during sex.

So her ex did have a similar experience, meaning she's been having this foul smell for a while now.

So what is now ur advise ?

eazye4u133:
I could recall two separate instances in school where I struggled to maintain intimacy with girlfriends due to personal hygiene issues.

For the two separate instances their Vi*gina was really Oozing making me to loose erection anytime she's ready for intimacy because of the bad smell, I had to use wisdom to convey the message after which i discontinued both of the relationship.

How was their reaction after you conveyed the message ?

jimmynauty:
Great man seeing how to help her...but don't forget
Weak men focus on women
Women focus on strong men
Strong men focus on their vision...

The financial help/assistance this girl has given to me. All the gf u have had in ur entire life put together cannot give it to you.

So when I go this length for someone, it's not because I am weak, it's because the person has proven to me that she deserves better.

lesson44:
where is the smell coming from, Is it from her private part or her body sweat? I will advise you tell her what you are experiencing , it depends on her personality, she might handle it better than you think .
If the smell is from body, buy her a very good deodorant, probably some good bathing soaps too. But if the smell is from her virginal , find a way to tell her to go for test or buy her anti fungal cream for virginal, that thing works like magic in getting rid of virginal smell, especially when the place smell like fish.

It doesn't smell like fish, it smells like poo.

I found a medicine used for treating yeast infection in her house, I told her why she had that medicine and she said her ex took her to the hospital for medical checkup sometime ago.
I asked why they needed a medical check up and she said the ex usually gets this offensive smell during sex.

So her ex did have a similar experience, meaning she's been having this foul smell for a while now.

So what is now ur advise ?

Kajaard:
She most likely has Bacterial Vaginosis (BV). A kind of std that causes a highly offensive vaginal odour and is most likely a result of her body's PH system messed up causing a chemical imbalance due to receiving semen from multiple sexual partners

I found a medicine used for treating yeast infection in her house, I told her why she had that medicine and she said her ex took her to the hospital for medical checkup sometime ago.
I asked why they needed a medical check up and she said the ex usually gets this offensive smell during sex.

So her ex did have a similar experience, meaning she's been having this foul smell for a while now.

So what is now ur advise ?

MrDoGood:
The people before this actually said the truth. But you're not ready

Most of the posts where modified.
But what did u pick out as the truth in other posts ?

frankson1:
meobizy, it can be very, very difficult telling the closest person to you that he/she has an odour of any type.

You got my point. I do not want to hurt her feelings in any way.
I'm just thinking of the perfect words to say.

frontwave:
sometimes when a woman just completed her period circle and she angage in sex hence the odour

It doesn't smell like a fish, it smells like poo.