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noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

Hello dear, first I appreciate your looking for help and the efforts you have made. You are a real man. A real man takes responsibility for his actions and looks for solution. 1. The first step to solving this problem is getting God engaged in the solution. 2. Forgive yourself for your own mistakes before and after the marriage was contracted. 3. Forgive your wife for all her mistakes and failures too. I think your wife has a personality complex problem. This feeling of insecurity makes her to be on attack mode always. You are also petty in that you consider forgetting birthdays an issue. Such pettiness will also create problems because it can cause nagging and making you difficult to please. You need to major on her strengths and not her weaknesses. Praise her strengths and temporarily ignore her weaknesses. It will help her feel good about herself and she will be ready to accept your corrections since you have increased your love and affection for her. By God's grace if you are sincere and committed, God will surely give you the home of your dreams. You can chat me up on WhatsApp 08098668493. Shalom

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

My dear, I wouldn't have bothered commenting on your post if not that I am deeply concerned that you are about making the worst mistake of your life.
1. Please I want you to understand that you are God's special handwork. You are precious to God and he has a wonderful plan for your life including giving you a wonderful husband.
2. The facts you have presented is that of someone who is obsessed with you. The behaviours he has shown so far are indication of that and also signs of complex abnormality. Think seriously and move on with your life without him now you are not married. A better person who will truly love you is coming. A word is enough. Shalom

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Thanks.
Specuit S & M Team[/color]

Hello, please note that item 2 is also a power bank. Items 3 and 4 are 4 units each. Thanks

Specuit:
Good afternoon, Uzomba.
Thank you but we have not received this.
Regards. ~KU

No problem, I sent it since yesterday night to your diamond bank acc after I saw your post. It will show. Thanks

uzomba:
Thanks
#5540 transferred to diamond bank account.

Please confirm. Thanks

Specuit:
Good evening, Uzomba.
This will not delay it and you do not need to pay Freight Fee or Service Charge on this; the Sales & Marketing Team will waive these fees for you. You can transfer the item cost to us: $15.18 (N5,540).
Regards. ~KU

Thanks
#5540 transferred to diamond bank account.

uzomba:
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Hello good Evening, pls can adding an item now delay my previous order. If yes
Ignore otherwise give me a quote for this. Thanks.
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Specuit:
[color=#4C0009]Good evening, Uzomba.
Welcome to Specuit today.

INVOICE:
Item 1 (1 Unit): $279.99
Item 2 (1 Unit): $8.36
Item 3 (2 Units): $7.80

Total Items Cost: $296.15
Flat Rate (Phone | 1 Unit): $12

Sub-Total: $308.15 (N112,475)
Discount: -N2,555

TOTAL: N109,920

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Thank you.
The Specuit Sales & Marketing Team[/color]

Hello
Your diamond bank acc has been credited according to the invoice. Check and confirm. Thanks

Specuit:
[color=#4C0009]Good morning, Uzomba.
Welcome to Specuit today.
From our records, I can see that you have been a Specuit client but it has been a long time you placed an order with us. I got a $14 voucher for you from the Sales & Marketing Team and it has been applied to your invoice.

INVOICE:
Item 1 (1 Unit): $280.49
Item 2 (1 Unit): $279.99

Total Items Cost: $560.48
Flat Rate (Phone | 2 Units): $24

Sub-Total: $584.48 (N213,335)
Discount: -N5,110

TOTAL: N208,225

ACCOUNT DETAILS:
Specuit Limited
Diamond Bank: 0095718654
GTB: 0259877980
Zenith Bank: 1015396131

Thank you.
The Specuit Sales & Marketing Team.[/color]

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BluntBoy:
Read this verse:

"Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." (Gal 6: 1-2)

The reason why I am harsh on these religious leaders is because I don't regard them as believers. I see them as wolves.

I am glad you are not offended. Let's help them by praying to the father to change them if they are wolves and but let's use our energy more on building the body and win the unbelievers to Christ. Enemies of the church enjoy when we criticize ourselves openly. We can correct ourselves objectively but our harshness can't achieve what our prayers can. So let's do the needful but if God provides an opportunity to speak with them one on one, or post on their site/page thats OK. Shalom.

BluntBoy:
If it is not your business, then why do you feel it is also not my business? Was it Jesus's business when He heavily criticized the religious leaders? Was it also John the Baptist's business when he criticized the religious leaders. If your sort of Christianity is to mind your business even when wolves infiltrate the body of Christ, all fine. But I am a responsible Christian, not a bench warmer. I will continue to call out this brood of vipers who pervert the gospel for pecuniary gains for as long as God keeps me alive. I refuse to be the irresponsible Christian whose motto is "I am minding my business".

I am sorry if I did hurt you. It was not intended. But what attracted me to your post was your claim of being clergy. Time is too short for us to waste it on another man's approach of serving God. Each and every one of us will give account to God one day. "Strive to enter in at the strait gate: for many, I say unto you, will seek to enter in, and shall not be able. When once the master of the house is risen up, and hath shut to the door, and ye begin to stand without, and to knock at the door, saying, Lord, Lord, open unto us; and he shall answer and say unto you, I know you not whence ye are: Then shall ye begin to say, We have eaten and drunk in thy presence, and thou hast taught in our streets. But he shall say, I tell you, I know you not whence ye are; depart from me, all ye workers of iniquity".
Luke 13:24‭-‬27 KJV
http://bible.com/1/luk.13.24-27.KJV Shalom.

obinna58:
Why don't you believe in durga, Brahma, Shiva, Buddha, Mohammed, Krishna, Panku, fsm, Ganesha, vishnu, mahavira, Odin, hanuman
Why would leave the love of those God and choose Jesus Christ of Nazareth

Though you weren't referring to my post, but the Bible says Jesus is the only way to God. He is the only saviour from sins. Many of the religions you mentioned recognized Jesus as being extraordinary. Accept Jesus and be saved today. Only Jesus can save from sin. Shalom

BluntBoy:
I am certain when Jesus faced the Pharisees in a manner that no one would dare to, there would be people like you who would be saying that Jesus was drawing the wrath of God by severely criticizing the Pharisees.

My good brother, do not be deceived. There is no Church anywhere, anymore. The flock has been driven abroad and if we don't save the body of Christ, the man of lawlessness will have a field day ravaging Christians. Look at you for instance. What makes you think Suleman has more anointing than you? What makes you think he has a superior priesthood compared to yours? Can't you see that these pastors are the offsprings of the Pharisees that Jesus criticized when He said:

"Everything they do is done for men to see: They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long;

they love the place of honor at banquets and the most important seats in the synagogues;

they love to be greeted in the marketplaces and to have men call them `Rabbi.' (Matt 23: 5-7)

I am glad you know the Bible that Jesus said I will build my church and the gates of hell will not destroy it. Though I am not his fan, it is not my business to speak about what others are doing, rather I have an obligation to preach the right message to counter the wrong message. Criticizing others is not a message and also unproductive. Preach Jesus. If he is lifted up, he promised to draw men unto himself. Jesus saves. Preach it, Say it Shout it at every opportunity. God bless.

BluntBoy:
Because it is a scam. I am a man of God and I can tell you that it is very unbiblical. People fell under anointing in the Bible but not in this manner. This is a Pentecostal scam. Nothing more to it.

My brother Pastor, it's a shame that this type of comment is coming from you. Please go to God and ask for wisdom and grace to function. What you criticize you may never become. Jesus was criticized by the religious leaders of his time. Did that make him fake? The way you handle your freedom before speech may affect your freedom after speech. Be careful for God is supreme and does not need human opinion or consent before acting. Don't attract his wrath because of social media. Be warned.

AnonyNymous:
ONLY religion can do this. If you check now, there might be PhD holders among them. Professors. People with insanely high IQs. But religion makes them put all of that on 'pause' and start acting like they're under some sort of mind control. I don't know how anyone can seriously believe that the supposed master of the whole universe of which earth is nothing but a nearly insignificant part (in terms of numbers, when compared to the rest) would be happy with you for rolling on the ground and screaming incoherent words.

My friend it's worth experiencing. In God's presence your status and wisdom becomes inconsequential. Jesus saves and not any man of God. I pray you won't realize it when it will be late. Don't judge what you don't understand. Shalom.

Hello fellow Nairalanders, it's a shame that this platform is fast becoming more sentimental than ever. Since Nigeria's problems are caused by the PDP. Pls who are the people now shouting APC? Are they not the same persons who ruled under PDP? They only changed party because their interests weren't met. Be wise and think outside the box. The content is still the same they only changed the container.

Hello fellow Nairalanders, it is actually unfortunate that most of our comments are geared towards insulting people or religions other than ours. No country can ever survive without the help of others. No tribe is superior to others and the earlier we stop this hatred the better for us all. Peace.

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@ Bizbloke
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BizBloke:
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BizBloke:
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@ Bizbloke

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BizBloke:
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