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@ezechima132

(its happening to me too, i dont enjoy sex with my wife any more, she is 6 months preg, she is now the one requesting for sex, i have a high sex drive i have another lady am planning marrying this christmass, the cause of this is that my wive has a very very very loose vagina, men i dont enjoy anythinf from it).

I write this with a heavy heart of a sort. Your wife`s dilemma was caused by child birth, another joy of womanhood. This problem can be corrected through specialized exercise and medically. Kindly discuss this with your spouse while working at seeking remedy together. As a fellow man, we must accept the responsibilities of living up to our marriage vows and pride of manhood. With due respect, I hope u are not taking advanatage of the current predicament (which can solved) to fulfill your lust. How will u feel if u suffer some disabilities imparting on ur sexuality and ur wife takes advantage of that to cheat on u or leave u for another man. Another wife does not solve this problem(amicably), what if she also suffers the same fate? Pls jettison the idea of a second wife and stay true to the wife of ur youth by solving `you problems` together. Best

My submissions are from experiences. The greatest gift in marriage(relationship) is unfettered communication. Talk to ur hubby like a friend, tell him about ur sexual needs. seek his opinion about what he thinks should be the sex calender per day/week/month. Both of u might need to adopt mutual sex routine. Several factors can affect the sexuality of a man ranging from stress at work, depression from unattained goals, nagging(note a normal lady talk can be a nag to a man), affairs, unfitness, boredom, dirtiness etc. All the needs of humans(sex, food etc) are liable to obssession, even sexual fantasies and affairs can become more pleasurable than marriage intimacies, the end is always destructive. You must stop everything that feeds ur lust. Your problem in a sentence is `intimacy gap`, I want more, he prefers less so why? When u know ur husbands sexual calender through talking explore it but don`t overdo it. Sometime a man might not be in the mood but u can set him in the mood by seductively dressing, fond talking with ur spouse is arousing in itself, learn to handle his joystick, encourage him to take a bath before sexual escapades, give room for missing each other...Sex(arguably) like sleep is not necesarily enjoyed by how long or how many times but by the satisfaction thats comes from it. Work at attaining orgasm in ur love making. But ultimately three things will help u, God by prayers, ur husband by talking openingly/cooperating, and/or a counsellor by counsels. I feel ur pain dear. Stay hopeful. Best

I will advise the administrators to take down this hate speeches or topic...especially the pictures of starved children used. Let us not underestimate the implications of these hate speeches.