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spiceadole:
Stop sending her money, she will behave.
Some of them are like that.. Extremely entitled.
I used to do same for my mum.
Was sending £200-250 equivalent every month.
She kept complaining and asking for more.
Last December, I spent over a million naira just to celebrate Christmas for her.
All my mum could tell me was that I should buy a new car for her because the car I bought in 2022 is out of fashion.
I just kept quiet.
January and February.. I didn't send her money.
She called and complained.
I told her to make do with her pension.

It will look difficult at first but remember that if you become broke, nobody will save you.

Put yourself first.
Everybody will survive without you.

Thank u brother

ayoncox:
Keep sending the 10k, don't reply just keep quiet your mum go calm down, meanwhile you are enabling black tax. If I were to advise you stop sending them money, keep aside an amount of money in piggyvest and do safelock for one year they will give you 22% up front, be giving them from that for the year do that every year. Whenever you send money your mum sees you no send she will behave

thank u.. l have collected the one l send ,, she claim l have not been doing anything for her despite all the effort l am making for the family,, l guess is time l focus on myself and also start my own family..

muyico:
you no mention your dad??
what happen to daddy??

my father is not financially stable at all... but at least he appreciate every little thing and is not ungrateful

If this habit is coming from a side chick it will be well understood.. but from the person l called mother is unacceptable...
This was a woman l do send money regularly , have given her money to established business,just last year December l gave my brother over 200k to start up something...
My mother got 1 million naira from her church that same December,, l told her to add the money into her business, so l can focus on myself this year and get married and start my own family too...just this February she started Calling me to buy her a for phone,, l told her l am struggling to raise money for my rent and l am not in position to buy phone now...
This evening l manage to send 10k to her asking her to supplement it .. the next call l received was insult and emotional blackmail.. this hurt me to the bone and l ask my brother to immediately transfer the money back... this level of ungratefulness from my own mother really surprised me!!!

gerizzim:
We should ask him

Is it not the same girls you avoid at 18 - 25yrs because of promiscuity or wateva inadequacy that will eventually grow up to be 30yrs above he is giving clearance for dating/marriage? Or is there something that wipes off their character defect when they get to 30?

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can you compare the promiscuous habit of a girl of 20yrs ten years ago to the present girls?
bro do what work for you,,,

SixSeven:
I picked up on your word, guy man. A serious man knows what he wants. In fact, a man at this age already knows this is what I want in a woman. If he sees it, he doesn't waste his time looking for others. He's focused on building his own version of what he wants in life instead of looking here and there.

ManKnowThyself

You still speaking off topic,, if l have gotten what l wanted this post wouldn't have existed... you love younger girls l got u,, it is perfectly your choice,, by this time last year l was even more radical than u..
at 30yrs l don't date any girl above 23yrs ,, l pushed and insulted women in their 30s..
gradually the orientation is changing,, l want to get married and none of them met any of the standard on what l wanted...
l sat down make a good observation and come with my experience and the lie l have told myself instead countering it with a superior facts u are here turning everything upside down... using just one girl u met on nairaland ,,help this make sense to me?

gerizzim:
the OP said it is his experience.
The dynamics is shifting. It all boils down to the kind of gals dt come your way.

what works for or didn't work for him may not infact cannot be applicable to others.

ideally as we get older , we are supposed to be more wiser and must have gathered enough experience about life but the curve doesn't extrapolate as we expect it to be. You can be 18, 20, 25, 30, 40 and still be dumb.

this marriage of a thing has less to do with age and.more to do with character.

I dnt mean she kneeling down goodmorning sir and goodeveng sir the woman will be saying as character here

How stable is the lady emotionally?
How stable is she financially?
How well can she Handle mental stress?
Is she a chaotic person or the one dt brings you peace?
How well can she cope when you have and when you dnt have?
How well does she relate or manage people?
Are the both of them compatible?

A frnd of mine said he cnt marry a woman above 25yrs. He actually marid one less Dan 25. their marriage is still intact while some of dt same grp have seperated.


shebi Na my 37yrs old female frnd the husband separated Frm.her two mnts ago just for one flimsy reason. she marid wen she was 31 dts 6yrs ago

There are plenty young gals now dt are doing well in business now ooo. I use to underrate them till I hear som of them tell.me how much they make doin a physical bizness.

some of the younger serious ones grow in maturity as they handle cash and transaction in their daily biz not as we assume them to be as financial burden.

I bet to be corrected. A lady of 23yrs working at trade fair or lagos island say for like 5yrs is far more mature Dan some unemployed graduate ladies in their 30's dt has Neva worked before.

Why? Her regular conversation with different people on the street which is the real life itself has equip her to handle not just finance but also how to manage diff people.

All in all. go with what works for you.
either way the argument shifts , that's the individuals opinion not really a generalized fact .

how percentage of 18-23 girls fall into this category? give me verifiable link or data of 50 Nigerian girls below 25yrs that are CEO of their business or have built any reputable organization by themselves? you are twisting everything around with the 2 percent u knew and that is not right

kiddaz:
Same way you're labelling all younger ladies as bad for marriage because of your personal experiences. See do what works for you and let others live.

were in the post did u see me make any generalization... u are desperately trying to drag an argument were there is none ,,, did l hold u on the throat and ask u not to marry them? why all this defense mechanism?
If you are a guy man u can't use one girl you met on nairaland to make a hasty generalization on a topic like this... date more ,, relate with more of them and then make ur assessment...and if you are not convince u can exist the topic to another one

[quote author=Vikto17 post=137939282]There is always exception we are talking about majority here... out of 50,of this young girls how many of them are well behaved like the girl u met on nairaland?
Is just like saying boys of 20yrs are more experience than men of 40 yrs because u happened to find one brilliant boy ..
do what work for you bro,,u will learn the hard way... by this time last year l see even girls of 27yrs as old and expired... when reality hit u ,, wen u are Ready to finally pick a wife u must definitely adjust ,unless u will blindly go and experience it .

kiddaz:
It's what they fail to understand. Sometimes back I met a 20 year old girl on this forum who is way more, interesting, intelligent, mature in mind and attitude to many of the older ladies. That she's above 30 doesn't make her marriage ready. In fact most of those 30s ladies mostly only want the status of "wife" and "Mrs" but aren't ready for all that comes with it. Compatibility is just the key like you said. Later the same people like op will open another thread of lamentations when they find out the hard way that they have been used and they married who no really send them but is only looking out for herself.

There is always exception we are talking about majority here... out of 50,of this young girls how many of them are well behaved like the girl u met on nairaland?
Is just like saying boys of 20yrs are more experience than men of 40 yrs because u happened to find one brilliant boy

Okoroemekah:
if they are bringing fresh kpekus what else do you want them to bring ? Money?virginity? Pls be realistic

what fresh about their kpekus ... most of them have not less than 15- 20 body count... some of them have outnumbered some women in their 30s already

yemre:
I agree 💯.

However, could you believe I've also seen some ladies in their late 20s with zero sense and zero knowledge about life?

I know of one always chasing clout online with no iota of seriousness for her life. Yet, she's already a graduate!

God will help our ladies but for 18 -23, for me it's a no-no. Primarily because I can't relate with someone that can't reason on the same frequency with me. She can hardly take care of herself without your input and she will want you to fund every of her lifestyle. She can't even contribute to your career and life in anyway.

Everything is not sex. Sex is just an addition and like an icing on the cake, just to bond and add salt and pepper to the relationship.

Thank u for understanding bro,, they are the one with most lose vjay self,, most of them are too exposed for their age... the tightest woman l have slept with this year is 31yrs ...

shortgun:
You've not been meeting the good ones. You are carrying negative energy. The younger girls are always more reasonable, loyal and submissive than the older ladies who carry bitterness and vindictiveness from all their failed relationships

bro forget that thing may be we grow late in this country ,, even the church one that seems reserve and calmness have their own constant need for validation and fantasy world in their head...most of them are no in tone with reality.. a girl of 29-30yrs seems more emotionally ready built for marriage.. if you are extremely wealthy as a guy,, going for girls of that age grade won't help u at all...

kiddaz:
Yes the 60 and above are better suited.

Radarada... How many of the so called mature abi older ladies are mentally ready for married life. 89% just need the name and title but aren't ready to play the part. They still want to live independently off you, claiming it's their right with all the modern false classifications. If you like marry a dinosaur it's her mind that matters and not her age. Any girl with the right mind and attitude from 23-27++ is good to go.

Older women are not bae anything, they're problems! The major problems of society today starts with thier twisted ideas and they infect and corrupt the younger ones!

oga when it get to your turn go and marry 10yrs old ,, l am speaking from core experience ... if it get to ur turn marry a girl that is always dancing on tik tok

A girl of 18 - 23yrs have zero financial strength, have no career of her own. she is coming in as a full time burden to you.

Majority of them are not mentally ready for marriage , they have no ideal knowledge of what they want.. she will love you today, wake up tomorrow and develop feelings for another,, many of them will hate you in future for taking away their youth with marriage..

Majority of them are not virgins.. they are sexualy exposed at a very early age..

In conclusion if a younger woman is not bringing finances, not bringing a good career and not bringing virginity,, how are they better than a woman in her late 20s or 30s..
As man of 33yrs l have dated a lot of them and God knows l will be deceiving my self if l will be taking any of them to the altar,, beyond sex most of them have zero knowledge about life and it realities..just tik tok and social media trends..
Guys who married their age mates and mature girls seems to be enjoying life to the fullest quietly and we are here trying to follow societal norms..
As a man think deeply about this in your free time.. l am done with all this small girls honestly..

A girl l invited to visit me ,,told me she needed to make her hair for 10k ...
l promise to give her the money when she comes...
Today this girl inform me she is coming, l cancel everything l am doing and arrange the whole room and also prepare food,
when she came this girl refuse every form of intimacy, her reason is that she is on her period,, l was honestly disappointed , why will she visit knowing fully well she is on her period,,, l didn't force her and the next thing she told me she is going since she live down the street,,,
she ask me to give her the 10k l promise and l told her how disappointed l was with what just happened....
l gave her 2k and told her to come next week after the period.. though she collected the money and was still angry and complaining... please did l offend her? how better should l handle this kind of things next time?

Sofistcatdmoron:
Why do you want to marry your age mate, you should be older than your wife with up to 8 years and above
Women age faster than men, in the next 5 to ten years , people would think she is your elder sister

who are the people? what business or contribution did they have in my life that their opinion should matter?
l am asking this questions because l am personally concern and not what any people will think....
Don't Genevieve Nnaji looks better and hotter than any young girl u see around?
Ned Nwoko that married with 40yrs gap did people not talk? l need medication for my girl not what people will talk

tbliss22:
How can you say you love this lady and still have all these flaws in your head...

In marraige, this issues will go worse.... Leave her alone let her be if you can't love her the way she is...

You can aswell taje her to a good spar for good facial routine treatment if you truly wish to keep her

your second line was why l open this topic.... if you genuinely love people u help fix their flaws... this should not be easily misunderstood

MarkNsukkaBread:
If this is the case why then are you bothered about the fact that she looks older than her age?

l want her to look her best? don't parents love their child? why do they still discipline them when they do wrong?

shoodboi2:
She is most likely lying. Manh people forge their age and secondary school certificate so they can go for NYSC. Her primary school certificate and testimonial will give you a better clue of her age.

l have met her two elder sisters ... honestly don't think she is lying.... if u meet me in person l look older than my age too ... is just that mine is not pronounced because l am a man...
Anyway thanks for your contribution

eventainment:
Women that look older than their age as mostly fat or in Nigerias tone thick or have some skins. If that's her case her loosing weight will work except her facial structure is not looking good.
Facial points -
1. Nose points :
a. Pointedness 1-10 points
b. size: -5 to +5
2. Chin Points
a. Sleekness 1-10
3.lips point

Etc all these are what you accumulate to get facial beauty points that's how you can see a fine lady and still conclude that another lady is finer than her. So investigate all these points that cumulates to determine even if a lady looks older or not. Some facial points can be gotten without surgery while others cannot be altered easily

thanks bro

shoodboi2:
Have you ever considered that she may be lying about her age? You can review her school documents to know her true age.

Thanks bro... we serve the same time during our nysc... her Nysc certificate was showing 1997,, she was the one who even open up to me that she was born 1995

Goo0dHardDick:
You want a woman of 30 to be looking like 18? What are you even doing with a woman of 30 to start with?

A woman of 30 looks like a woman of 56 na and that's how women's nature is.

so a woman of 56 will look like a woman of 100 right? swear you haven't seen women looking younger than their age bro?
What am l doing with a woman of 30? l found peace bro.. l find fulfilment bro

Diamond098454:
I understand you perfectly well. Is she fair or chocolate ? A guy looking out for his woman

fair

2cribz:
E no mean.check her siblings nd do the maths.
U no fit tel me say u be 30 but ypur younger sister or bro looks 35
Run

her elder sister looks younger than her ... l knew the family well...

APOPTOSIS:
What do you want us to do now?
Despite the warnings on this platform.
Facial surgery or what?
Do you think she is really 30 as declared?
U forgot to add 10 to 30 like we explained on this forum, so why torment us with such now?
Do you think same lady would embrace you if you were compromised ?

The only reason you should compromise as a man is if the lady in question has a lot to make up for such. U must not be seen wishing away your most cherished gift, " your Freedom" just like that. U must be a proud beneficiary of an empire.

we serve together during Nysc,, l didn't meet her at 30,, we have actually been dating for 4yrs now,, so there is no way she will be lying about her age... l guess the stress of business... it is not easy been in a shop from morning to night

Smitaro100:
She worwor abi she old which 1 you dey complain because I no understand how person go old only for face if she no fugly.. abi she get wrinkled face?🤔

wrinkled face... my girl no worwor at all

laivwire:
I hope you're at least okay with the face because it will puff up when she gets pregnant. God help she doesn't have acne breakout at that stage either.

Is she enthusiastic about her looks too because she's the one who's supposed to be asking this question, not you.

she is...when l met her the cream was using didn't suit her at all ,, she took my recommendation and now how beautiful colors are back... it is just the face that l am concerned about...
And the issue of pregnancy l honestly need solution before she takes in

advanceDNA:
Ask for her WASSCE certificate first.....?? I want to check something......I come.in peace

..that's how our friend nearly married a 43 year old woman claiming 28......I fear all those petit women .......them go use that their small fine stature run you lamba....

lol l know her elder sister self,,, that one looks younger than her in the face... l felt nature cheated her in that aspect

Kobojunkie:
The one who ought to be asking these things if the women if and only if she indeed deserves to look younger than she does. Otherwise, I will say this is probably a you problem than it is her problem. Why are you making an issue of her looks?

honestly not making any issues ,,, still love her more than anything on earth ,, just want my woman to look her best

Hello dear Nairalanders ,,, l am 32yrs and my fiancee is 30yrs... very loving ,, sweet and excellent soul... she tick everything l need in a woman and l will be getting married to her next year by God grace...

My major concern is that she looks older than her actual age,,, and this is her face alone... l have seen girls her senior who looks younger...
we are not poor .. she eats well and have all the necessary things a woman will want...
please what recommendation should one take to look their age and younger too,,, thanks