Fearjah:



If you want help person whether na your brother oo or no be your brother help am.

Abi e waste your money?

No be everybody dey talk like woman.

you no get sense l swear!! So calling a person to say thank you ,,, means u dey talk like woman,,, and you wonder why a lot of ur kind remains in poverty for long,, anyway thanks for ur input.. I don hear u

shoodboi2:


You don't have any tangible evidence to claim he hates you. Do you do the same to him? Do you call him every now and then to check up on him? You wish him happy birthday on social media? If you do it, he will take the cue and reciprocate.

I see no issue here.

l do all that if he reciprocate this thread will not be existing

OBTOREPA:

You acts childish, not texting or calling you doesn't mean he hates you.
The boy dey fear you.

they fear me say l be masquerade? Why are his younger siblings not afraid of me if l am such a bad person

Azazyel:



It looks like you're an authoritarian person. He may not hate you but may be scared of you. from the way you talk, you like to be involved in everyone's private life. There are some people you can do that with while there are some you can't do it with. He might be a kind of person who loves to be alone most times. During my school days, I hardly call my parents. Not because I hate them but it's cos that was my personality. I am usually secretive and valued my space to handle things for myself. Another thing is I would advise you to stop having that mindset that your family must love you. Life can be very strange. Most times, people outside would value you more than your family does. I would advise that you overlook those things he's doing. Just do all that you can do for him and when he is able to stand on his own, you can pull back.

Did you read were l said he does this with others,, besides my brother is not a loner ,, He is an extrovert to the best of my knowledge...
And when have demanding for love and appreciation from your own siblings become Authoritarian?
You send money to a person you have to called them to know if they have seen it,, You gave him Money for Jamb,,He doesn't have the courtesy to tell you about his scores..
The same phone you bought for him he won't use it to call u.. when u called pray he is with the phone ,, if he is not he won't bother returning the call.. is that how u treat ur brothers,,put yourself in my shoes oga

OdefaGirl:


Some people don't need any single reason to dislike or hate you. Naturally as siblings, love, understanding and respect should never be found wanting amongst us.

Thank you very much,, He talks as if l am toasting a girl..what investment did the said brother gave me that l am spending my money and resources on him...The fact that you are siblings should automatically generate love and cares

jyz200:

These are not enough reason to conclude he doesn't love you brr
Don't be a pussy
He's probably an introvert and a loner, do your responsibility as an elder and leave God for the reward, be an elder brother for the young niqqa

So an introvert communicate with others and ignore others,, did you read the post well?
I will also learn to be introverted with my resources and love,,, can't deal with selfish people

Akpabio22:
bro I'm facing same issue i regreted doing so much for my younger brother. He is full of envy bitterness always finding fault on me. All my friends outside has never treated me like the way this guy treated me. Truly blood is not ticker than water. Run far from him with time he will learn the hard way. I've completely removed my life or anything about me from my brother he his a devil . I now see him as an enemy and I'm watching him both physical and spiritual I can never losegard for him to kill me instead it will be the other way round. Some brothers are evil immediately they start seeing progress in your life they will change completely forgotting every man has his own destiny. I now dislike my brother now so much because he said so much I never believe he was like that until he can't hide it anymore.

Don't mind them,, if they are not in the situation they will never understand...

Mikuni:
There are people I don't relate with or talk to, but I love them even more than those I relate with. Be careful.

You cannot love someone and claim not to relate or want to talk to them,,

uckay304:

Is not that he hates you, some don't just like somebody that over control them or somebody that shows too seniority, little thing you shout at them, so they try to avoid you
Is like you are one of such people
The little help he's even getting from you is because he don't have, if he has he won't even you at all

see the way you made conclusions,,, The younger ones always calling l dont shout at the right? I pray he honestly gets ,, Because God knows l don't like making investments were it is not appreciated!! Every single person that gave me even a cup of water during my struggling days own my gratitude...
What shouting and punishment did l give to him that l didn't give to others?

BigDawsNet:


Ignore everything is doing right now… when he get to a stage he will appreciate you..

Na just small poking Dey worry ham…

Whr he grow older.. he will treat you as a king

And yet our last born,, his younger sister is more mature enough and understand all this things

LesPieux:
OP. You sound like a beta male.

Which serious male cares about birthday posts on Facebook?

if you are not daft is it only birthday post you can deduct? You have a brother who don't call, don't visit and communicate how will u feel? Or does been an Alpha male reset your senses? This is my blood l am talking about and not woman!!!

JDelight:
Don't stop supporting him pls.
I have a brother that's like that too he will never call to say thank you even I send him 200k. All the little help I have rendered to him no appreciation at all from him but I won't stop cus he's my brother and I change that.

you need to teach him how to be grateful,, or Else that attitude will wey you down one day

Angelfrost:
Family is not always what we desire, but family is always going to be family!

Blood will always be thicker than water!

If you feel your younger brother hates you, then you should be asking yourself what you did to earn his animosity...!

Have a sit down with him, and talk like men...! Get all issues on the table! Involve an elder if possible (very advisable).


Don't let pride overwhelm both of you... Being the bigger man and brother isn't always easy. Sometimes, we have to even stoop to conquer.

For all you know, he might be going through mental issues that might require your intervention... Don't make conclusions from a distance.


This same kid might become a strong backbone for you tomorrow... The future is never black and white!


When you have done all these reconciliatory moves, and he stays aloof and hateful, then you have earned the conscience to keep him where he belongs!

But, in all you do, never burn bridges with Flesh and Blood...! E get why!!!

Happy Sunday All!

Thanks bro,, l have done all this l have spoken to him and he didn't give any concrete reasons

kalvoken:
^^^^^ on the other hand, check yourself very well, there must be something you are doing wrong and he may not know how to put it to you, or you are not heeding his advice.

Smae brother of mine that was always eager to pane beat us for any slight wrong doing is someone I have come to know he leaves the worst version of life he preach to us against.

80% of his way of life is nothing to write home about, and he would never take any advice from me his younger one. This has made me restrict my relationship with him. I'm not happy with his lifestyle but i do not hate him.

I only avoid as much as possible, having anything serious with him. That doesn't mean I hate him. In fact, I hate the fact that he hates himself.


So baba, check yourself well well. You fit be the problem. Even from your write up, you want to abandon your brother because he doesn't post you on social media.

What if he was to be your biological son, who you go leave am for?

you are just typing off point,,, so everyone that dislikes you means something is wrong with you!!
It is the only social media aspect u deduct,, if he what about the calls? What about visit?
Our last born that is barely 15yrs uses my Mother's phone to call me regularly,,, You must be in the same category with my said brother to make this assumptions...
When l was in school l do regularly make contact with my uncles and Big cousin brothers,, l help them wash clothes and do domestic chores and go home with stipends ...
Should l be the one running to him for closure when l haven't done anything bad to him?

Zubeezanga:
With due respect oga u have way too much of feminine genes, u don't know or understand how men love lol, see e get people wey d mind every second of the day but i no be much show of lovy dovy type, brotherly dy different oga, me n senior bro hardly talk or chat buh na my nigga.

But he does it with other people? If that is generally his nature l won't be complaining,,, so ur senior bro can a whole year without calling u if u don't call him,, doesn't tell u about anything going on in his life and doesn't care to know what is going on in your own life? Until when he needs money and assistance then your mum call on his behalf... Bro l don't fancy such kind of relationship

emma2002:
I understand your concerns and feelings. It's painful when family members, especially siblings, don't appreciate or reciprocate love and support. You've done a lot for your brother, and his indifference and lack of gratitude are hurtful.

Firstly, acknowledge that you've tried addressing the issue with him directly, which shows you care about your relationship. Since that hasn't worked, consider the following steps:

1. *Re-evaluate your financial support*: It's fair to reassess how you allocate your resources. Consider redirecting support to siblings who value and appreciate your efforts.
2. *Set boundaries*: If you choose to continue supporting your brother, establish clear expectations and consequences for not meeting them.
3. *Don't internalize his behavior*: Remember that his actions reflect his own character, not yours. You've shown kindness and generosity; don't let his behavior define your self-worth.
4. *Prepare for mother's reaction*: Anticipate your mother's potential emotional response and plan how to address her concerns. Explain your perspective and feelings calmly, emphasizing your desire to support those who appreciate your efforts.
5. *Seek support for yourself*: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor about your feelings and experiences. They can offer valuable guidance and emotional support.

Remember, you deserve respect and appreciation from those you support. Prioritize your own emotional well-being and make decisions that align with your values and needs.

God Bless you bro,, thank you very much

immortalcrown:
1.
You can compel obedience, not love. So, be happy, irrespective of who doesn't love you.

2.
[sub][/sub]There is a difference between helping someone and trying to buy love from someone.

If you do something for someone without expecting anything in return, that is help. But if you do something for someone and expects something in return, that is not help.

Doing something for your brother with a condition that he should show you love means you are not helping him. You are just trying to loby for his love.

l don't want to lobby for his love,, l just want to make sure my investments is going to someone who values it,, the resources aren't that much that l should keep wasting it on someone l have to loby for their love ... Any way thanks a lot for the input

[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

Solofresh2:
Are you sure it is zenith who stole your money

please observe the two screenshots,, l did not have any transactions on this account since Tuesday,,,it is only today l check my balance l saw that 20k have been debited from my account

I had 22,800 naira on Tuesday ,, and by this Saturday l tried checking my Balance and l can only see 2,800 naira,, Money just vanish without alert or trace ...
Please who have this experience before and what measures can l take,,, Thank you as l anticipate your response ..

RepoMan007:
Error. That leaves the gap between imported and locally produced food narrower than ever and will increase demand for forex causing weaker naira to drive local price equivalent of imported food up again.

Give local farmers one extra reason to want to produce more.

God punish local farmers,, they should all fold up and burn to hell if they don't want to produce... This people are the bedrock of food inflation in this country... Enable competition so that they will calm down a little..

pansophist:


Of course it's men that these women are sleeping with, but she can also choose not to sleep with them either. This is not a situation of rape. She has a choice, she can say no, and refuse to participate in the forkfest.

so two people engage in forkfest and we blame one person? I can bet with everything that you are below 30yrs and have no iota of what life entails...
Leave women alone bros,, you will have daughters tomorrow and may not know or handle what will happen to their marital life...
E fit shock u tomorrow,, be mild with ur judgement, alot of your mate are thousand times richer than you and nobody is insulting u

If they ask you why you are not married now you can't give any tangible answer,,
Are you telling me that there is no 18yrs old girl that agreed to marry you?
Most guys that carried this matter on their head are broke unattractive guys that have been rejected by females so they now use every opportunity to vent their anger ...
When you give birth to your daughter ask her to marry at 18yrs,, mumu,, You want an independent woman and still want to marry her at at 22yrs? How many of your sisters have up to 100k in account? You that is almost 40yrs how much do u have? If a girl of 18yrs come to u for marriage do u have money for wedding?can u feed her?
And who told you men are not interested in women in their 30s,, what sort of a village boy are u?

Ed12:
Now that they have ask POS AGENT to register for CAC, make sure you add telecoms business when you are registering.


You must have a brick and mortar shop( main requirements)

Well light environment in the shop,

All others will be communicated to you. Approach their office and ask politely about it.

Thank u very much bro,,, please the pad will l be the one to buy it or the company will give it to me

Hello dear Nairalanders,, l run a POS business in a busy area and want to add sim card registration to it,, please before l visit MTN office next week l want to know the requirements and procedures to becoming a sim card registration Agent..Thank you

Hello dear Nairalanders,, l run a POS business in a busy area and want to add sim card registration to it,, please before l visit MTN office next week l want to know the requirements and procedures to becoming a sim card registration Agent..Thank you

Beautifulday:


Please stop this Emefiele rubbish. Naira is in POS hands. Why should there be POS when we have banks?

This monster will soon become another BDC demon.

see mumu talk,, how much does POS have to hoard the whole money that will liquidate Naira? You fools can blame everyone but your selves,, take away those guys from the street and see if it will solve Nigeria problems

SmartPolician:


Stop asking me a useless question.

I only shared my observation.

please ignore that fool bro

Richtaiwo:

Ipob and logic are lightyears apart. You understand his mind more than him. You also understand his culture more than him. Meanwhile, even the governors action indicates acknowledgement of the cultural respect. This is how they see white but insist it is black. Example is telling us obi is competent when everyone knows he was the worst governor ever exist in Nigeria.

how is obi the worst Governor you fool? You are even more foolish than the person u are accusing,,, how on earth is Peter obi the worst Governor,, what statistics did u use to make such claim

Topman7:


Indeed!

They have imbued him with God-like qualities. Sainthood qualities whereby his mere presence in Aso Rock would have transformed the country overnight into the African version of Japan or Dubai, or even Heaven!

It's ludicrous!

are you inherently foolish or you are just daft? What has obi got to do with the monumental failure of tinubu?
Did tinubu enter the presidential seat to follow obi footsteps? I thought he is better and the best? Or was he taking Obi counsel when he turn Lagos to paradise...
Those of you vehemently supporting evil may God rule your life and that of your family the way tinubu is ruling Nigeria,, may every pain and sorrow brought upon innocent Nigerians by incompetent leaders visit you and your generation...
They both talk about removing subsidy will they use the same approach?

God punish u

FarmPlanetNG:



You are a nuisance and a bastard. Did I ever ask you for a dime you lowlife stupid eediot. If I seek investors, is my business any of your business ? Since Elon musk, Zuckerberg, Dangote has money, go and make publications that they are theirs seeking investors. Nuisamce

useless criminal,, u no go shut up