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YOu are welcome Tolly. all praise to God. when I passed through my ordeal, I cried, I was dissappointed in self , but thruough God's strength I overcame . if the only reason I passed through that is to encourage one person then it was worth it. you know sometimes certain things happen for a reason, to teach us lessons, to enable us to refrain from judging others.
today as I am , I cannot judge even an ashewo, she shall definately bear her consequences though, but you know what who knows what she has been through as a person. some of us would be dead if we went through the unfortunate circumstances some of these "ashewos" have gone through seriously. so whatever we are is just by God's grace u know. ain't no body that's perfect. I just wish people would stop judging others, so that they can genuinely seek help and get it. lets stop acting like stuff doesn't exist. we are not angels. anyways thanks for explaining more in details. stay strong girl . remember its a fight. "fight the good fight of faith". I do not pray for that to happen again, but the feelings have been laid to rest or so I assume . they may come back o, but just always program ur mind from when u leave home that you shall handle stuff maturely.
Stay blessed.
Peace.

first of all I am extremely dissapointed by the way people handle this issues on nairaland, in church, and in the world at large. It makes me sad to see people cursing innocent people . you know what honey  , I would not tell you adultery is a sin because u don't need that irrelevant advice. I would not tell you  to quit the job , because another Nick shall arise elsewhere. I would not say this post is fake , I would give you the benefit of a doubt.
But I would advice you to look inward . you must have obviously struggled with this feelings before u boldly as a mature adult faced reality . perhaps you are in love with Nick, you feel the butterflys etc. but you know what, It is normal to fall in love. the fact you are married does not put an autmatic stop to the flow of  blood. but here's the deal I believe you know the difference between right and wrong. in  this case the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. you got to overcome the flesh o. for real. see I say The Lords prayer everyday. "Lead us not into temptation ". you know feelings would always arise but lets be careful to control our thought process, and not act on it o. YOu have a consience . I believe your consicene is very important to you. for the sake of a good conscience, reprogram your mind . yes you can do it. keep saying "I can overcome this". " ok I am married, I can work with attractive young men and keep it official. I don't want to betray my husband, what if some other women do this to me". NIck is handsome but this is wrong.

second advice is try to stay away from Nick as much as possible. It is difficult but it is possible. Also call you husband. even though u did not mention loneliness in your post. just call your husband more often. discuss with him matters of the heart.
think about the  consequences of blackening your consience. some people may feel a sudden dryness and emtiness inside . they may  not really enjoy tapping into the relationship simply because they know this is wrong. and also what if it doesn't work. you would would have to contend with your consience probably for the rest of your life, oneday u may need to confess to hubby , and then the marriage can never be the same again.
Like I said earlier , do not not  listen to anyone who says you are ashewo, jezebel etc, because u are not . this is a real issue of the heart , but u must overcome. I would leave u with this word of God to Cain.
"sin is crouching at your door but u must overcome it".
Yes u must. don't act on it. try not to meditate on Nick. remember thoughts become words and words bcom actions. abeg o. ok  I shall add u in my prayers 4 strength. God bless. !!!!!!!!!!

if not that I have been through this I would have abused you or said something stupid. but I have just passed through this. I am not a hypocrite. I am a genuine christian and I have just come out of similar situation . I tell you it took only the grace of God and personal will. First I must admit you are a good person, you are brave to speak up. most women who are cheats never speak up. they go tochurch wearing suit, no body would know that all this exists. coz people are pretenders. but I always say who is worst. he who is a cheat and acts like he is not one or he who is about to cheat , who admits he gat feelings but through wise counsel makes a swift decision. I shall come and answer you later I have to go and pray just hang in there honey.

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