Hi All,

This is really amazing, some of your views made me to be skeptical.
I’m surprised that some men could say that they were doing it because of what their wives are doing like not taking care of themselves e.t.c.she na cutting of head be solution for headache?
Listen the way you lay your bed is the way you are going to lie on it and whatever you sow you are going to reap shikena. When last for heaven sake if you have ever done it did you give your wife money to fix her hair let alone take her to the saloon? Can you point to the clothe let alone clothes that you bought for her in her wardrobe and yet you expect her to look attractive without a single effort on your part. Whereas those girls you chase out there have more than enough from sugar daddies to lavish on themselves and why not? They have no ‘bukata’ (responsibilities). I pray you don’t contact something that would make you to sit at home from them.

I don’t want to sound like I’m preaching but we should not rule out what God says about adultery. Whether you are a Christian or Muslim even if you are a pagan you still believe in God and you know that he has the final say over your life. He says don’t do it and if you did you have to pay for it and it could be with anything such as your health, money, career, progress in life and you could even become impotent in the process ‘lo ba tan’. A beautiful car without an engine! With all these some men will still not hear. There is an adage that says a dog that will definitely be lost won’t hear the whistle of the hunter.

I don’t wish to be one sided but concerning women who cheat on their husbands I would say it’s an abnormal situation that needs divine intervention. I strongly believe that a woman would not go out of her way into adultery on her own accord unless there are some forces beyond her control. Several reasons might have been the cause.
It could be she has a spiritual problem: Some women don’t know why they are doing it despite the fact that their husbands satisfy their needs to the best of his capability. These women need serious prayers because they are heading for destruction.

It could be lack of money to feed her children: some men are irresponsible. They saddled their wives with the responsibilities of taking care of the house, children, inlaws, feeding e.t.c. and in other to make ends meet, they engage in it.

Her husband must have forced her to it due to neglect: Ask yourself this question when last did you take your wife out. Now she is married she should be home to take care of it and children everytime while you go about socializing. What do you expect from somebody who is bored and needs a change!

BUT for heaven’s sake ALL the above are not enough reasons for a woman to engage in it if she is truly a woman or a mother.

Mendax I’m a female and I’m married
Osareka 2 wives double wahala
Rawphyhat: Even when you are ready bring a shock absorber with you.
Godslead you are right.
ClimieNH89 you can go to hell to bring it.
Olanajim you are right but only few know they are sick.
Cammax7 I will send it to you
+Osisi: Thanks. People will learn
Nezerst then they will know how it feels and how it hurts
Tayokem No 80% men could do it with 10%’dogs’
Rubbermaid God bless you. Some of them don’t even open their bibles it’s a pity.
Bimbliss 10q. Men who look for money that way are looking for it in the wrong way they will end up not getting a faden but problem becos God is the giver of wealth.
Thessyzib: to those men who are faithfully I dove my cap and the one dat women sh keep their hubbies I want you to know that a man meant for the floor will definitely fall when put on a bed.
Kokomica thanks. I know some do it secretly but I’m sure before long they will be exposed
Cotton a time will come that women will allow their hubbies to go wherever they want and not halla till they learn from their mistakes.
Coleslove there is no excuse for infidelity. You can get more than you bargain for from it why not be faithful and allow God to deal with woteva problem you see at home.
Presideo cudos
Octupus that was a nice one God bless you.
Omerihe should women cheat on their husbands too out of frustration?
Sleekdot no wahala. By the time your wife starts cheating on you then you will know that it is not man’s nature to cheat.
Iyken I beg help me drum it into his hearing o.
Charlione with you and your ‘must do’ how many ‘must’ have you done for your wife if you are married. So it’s solely the duties of the wife to make a home what about the man. I beg this is simply egocentric. I’m not saying women should not do their part.
Jaguar1 infact you are 1 in a million and you are highly appreciated. There is no doubt you will always be the best among your equal just keep it up there is always a reward for faithfulness because God is really interested in marriage that was his first institution.
m_mwankwo: Wao! That was wonderful thanks a million. Please if you are looking for a cure please read what m_mwankwo wrote.
Amaikama: huh! Na God go judge
Sojioguns be sincere there is nothing you want outside your home that is not in there it’s just that your ego wont allow you men to do anything to make it work. Women alone are saddled with that responsibility.
Ono: thanks.

INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE, IS THERE ANY CURE?

The rate of infidelity in marriage is becoming too alarming these days and mostly, men are the culprit!

Based on personal conviction I can say that 90% of married men have at one point in time engaged in extra marital affairs. Out of the remaining 10%, 8% are not caught yet and the reaming 2% are scarce if at all they exist!

Most married women, at least 50% must have caught their hubbies at one point in time and some men have confessed to their wives of their involvement with other women. At times you sit down and wonder what these men are looking for outside their homes.

A friend recently shared her experience with me. She caught her husband in the act and the man owned up to the fact that he has been dating these other girl few days after their marriage and he asked for forgiveness. At first the woman found it hard to forgive her husband but she later did. But to her astonishment four months later she saw a text message of another girlfriend asking her husband if he got home safely after spending the weekend with her in Abuja leaving the wife and two children all alone at home under the pretext of traveling on official duties. The woman could not take it any longer and packed out of her matrimonial home taking the children with her.
Another newly wedded lady said she discovered that her husband was having an affair with a married woman with kids when she hasn’t even got one as at the time!

Many homes have been broken this way because of extra marital affairs. Atimes a woman may not see packing out of her matrimonial home as a solution on her own accord but if the other woman uses diabolical means the real wife might be forced out of her home.

Moreover, your wife may not leave but you have broken her heart somehow and it may be hard to love and trust you again. Some women may not forgive but retaliate and I wonder how you will feel when you discover your wife is having an affair. Also after the discovery that they are not the only women in your life, some women would pretend as if all is well but within them my brother you are on your own! All the love, care, attention, devotion e.t.c given to you when they feel they have no rival would be reduced or totally withdrawn and be diverted to their children. Is that a home? A place where there is no peace, harmony and unity.

Unfortunately that is the kind of home many men are building. You may think you don’t have anything to lose, after all if she is not cooperating you can find solace outside from a woman who is more beautiful than your wife and somebody who can even help you financially. But, listen to me you cannot go far without the support of your wife because she is the only helper God created for you and it is with her support and prayer that you would have help from other people. And if you want to obtain favour from God, be true to your wife. I don’t understand why men don’t put all this into consideration before gallivanting around.

A Dr. explained that women have the same anatomy, so what are these men looking for?
Can somebody please explain to me what the problem is?
What is the position of God concerning Adultery?
Morally is it ok?
Socially is it acceptable?
Spiritually?
Is there any drug that can remove the cataract called lust from the eyes of our married men?

On a last note, my advice to our men is that they should try as much as possible to run away from infidelity because of the way God looks at adultery and the penalty for it.
for the sake of their children and home and lastly
because many destiny have been sacrificed on the altar of adultery.

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