wer111:

This situation has also affected me, he knows and he feels bad about it, but is fine my nagging is becoz this is been difficult for me too, so the only thing I can do at times is complain,i can go and still I just take it like that

wer111:


I have always admit it's my fault and I'm willing to change, I learn my lesson, but you are saying things I didn't say, I didn't say is his reponsability to take care of me I just said is nice when your guy can surprise you once in a while, I didn't say I was with him because of what he can give me....if that's the case I will not be dating him, I don't regret what I did, I regret my behavior, you where the one judging me and asking if I can take of myself, and I told you I can , that's why I borrowed him the money.... I know I have flaws but I have good things too, I can change in fact I changed so please don't get offended and try to make me feel bad when you are saying things I didn't say, and no woman can help out a stingy man... Like you... My guy has done things for me non materialistic that means alot. And if he breaks up no problem I'm not gonna die there's a reason for everything God knows best, you wish a woman could fight for you like this

kaboninc:


Lol.....well you don't know what am capable of doing....

If you can borrow your man and still come here to NAG about it, why don't you spend it on yourself? You work, he doesn't...but still tomorrow is pregnant. He makes you happy but you make him SAD by reminding him of his situation, the debt he has, the orisirisi you expect from him, and on top of all these things, you NAG about it! Hiaaaannnnnnnnn!!!!!!!

Babe, the problem here, from your responses so far, is YOU! Not him, but YOU.

You know he doesn't have money yet you NAG about it to his face...he has not even married you ohhh...yet you are NAGGING and no mention of you being PRODUCTIVE to your GUY! Haba na...... I don't mean your kind of support ohhh

I like independent women but I like more, a PRODUCTIVE and ENTERPRISING woman. Not because I would not hustle to make ends meet but as a SUPPORT to whatever I bring, and support does not necessarily mean MONEY but KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM! Do you bring this to him? Do you bring or suggest INNOVATIVE IDEAS to him? He loves you, you love him...but maybe you both love yourselves. I see...

You can give him a billion dollars but if you continually keep NAGGING about the billions you give to him, he'd have no option than to leave you (he just did). So yeah, you caused it and sadly, you no wan see your mistake but still justifying your actions.

If I were him, I'll goan borrow money to repay you oh....I value and cherish my PEACE. A NAGGING woman is worse than an ATOMIC BOMB. Just imagine he was a PILOT....

escapefromusa:


Space for other girls abi !

U think sey na yankee we dey.

Give him space she says ... OP , A lot of guys are looking for girls like you. It's just that sometimes we have so much on our minds we act cold erratic and confusing.

Now is the time to prove your worth, love is only real when it persist through hard times and uncertainty.

Men are logical and like to talk and negotiate

Just kindly ask him to spare sometime to talk about thing that you need some clarity on. And use the opportunity to tell him why your nagging, pls do it calmly and make sure you look your best in that day,show some skin if you must we like these suggestive behaviors.

wer111:


Hahahaha, if I can borrow my man money of course I can do them.... I work and that's what I do, I take care of myself, in an independent woman, look at you.... I can see the type of girl you don't date, of course I knew he is broke when I date him, but he made me happy, he still does, he truly loved me, and he asked me bcoz he truly needed, I can help a friend in that condition too, so had a manic you have money... Or you're comfortable you are not ready to surprise your woman once in awhile?? Then u just stingy

kaboninc:


Words get to us men more than any other thing especially if coming from someone we love

kaboninc:


Did you not know that your guy no get money?

Did you not know that him never make am?

All these things you mentioned, can't you do them on your own? Can't you take yourself to the cinema, surprise yourself with chicken republic and MacDonald, fix your hair and take yourself to moon?

Girls sef ehhh.. .abi are these thing his responsibilities? Or you want to say that in making love to you, he should fulfill your wishes? (because thats your next line of defense )...

Abeg leave the poor dude and go find yourself a man that will take you to Mars. From your comments here, I strongly don't think you're ready.

After all na the money you borrow am him go don use take care of your needs.

Raine80:
Stop reminding him of the time he had to swallow his pride and ask for help. I am sure it was not just nagging you might have said things that might have made him question your suitability as a life long partner.

Raine80:
Stop reminding him of the time he had to swallow his pride and ask for help. I am sure it was not just nagging you might have said things that might have made him question your suitability as a life long partner.

optimusmind:

Bullshit. Insist on it, tell people and dump his sorry ass. He is mad

kaboninc:


Lol.. You're more frustrated than your guy who is yet to make it? Abeg take it easy. Then again, are you frustrated because since he hasn't made it, you've been taking care of yourself...which means that as soon as he makes it, he should start taking care of you? Lol.

Anyway I think you may have committed - especially financial resources - substantially into that relationship and that's why you're frustrated.....

Truth is, we all don't 'blow'at the same time. He's could be now or tomorrow or years later.

If the relationship is that difficult, you guys can just take a break so you can see things from different perspectives.. .love is indeed blind.

Also, if he has shown a commitment to repay the loan, then you guys can see it through.

kaboninc:


Everybody nags.. You nag, he nags, I nag, Buhari nags and every living thing nags. We just have a degree of nagging!

Are you very much interested in the debt (probably your reason for staying in the relationship) or the relationship itself where you are committed to ensure it lasts?

Or maybe your guy is actually down and wants some time alone to think through life.. Or he wants to excuse you because he's found someone 'better' and has some cool cash he's made?
I think he is not just not happy, I'll ask him... If he is with someone he will tell me, he is quite honest...

Just assuming ohhh

allobright17:
it depends on what you're complaining about,and what you're changing to,if he is doing bad things and you complain about it then he can go but if you're complaining over things you're not supposed to then try and stop it,if he love you I don't think he will just quit the relationship all because you're complaining.

On your money,if you can't bear it then ask for it if he give you good if he don't then let go off it.moving to the next level may better the previous anyway,all you need is time luck.

I wish you all the best in whatever you end up doing.

omotogoodo:
So what do you want us to do oo
go and beg him to stop scamming you or urge him to continue drinking your free water?
Ruthu Abokoku

optimusmind:

Bullshit. Insist on it, tell people and dump his sorry ass. He is mad

chigoizie7:
I can see that majority of the girls in this forum and this section is very very biased.

Let us call a spade a spade.


Truth, no one is perfect.

2ndly, u are always nagging him.


3rdly, most of us borrow money from different places(human,banks etc), however, we borrow from the place that suits us well.(thats why he borrowed from u).

He has been with u for yrs now.

He also agreed to pay( he said he will be with u till he pays up and den break up, he still wants to be with u because he has that sense of responsibility, he doesn't want to see it that he collected money from u and den decides to break up)
Let me tell u something, u took ur nagging self and attitude to a whole new level, why? because u lent him some money, which u have not been patient for whatever he used the money for to start yielding(u claimed to be his babe, as such u are meant to know him and what he used it for and also be patient)

For a guy to borrow money from u, invested into something means he doesn't have anywhere else to go. Trust me.





Op, thank God u accepted that u messed up and willing to change, it means that u have been very wrong and also bad to him.


Now, to all those people trying to justify op, or trying to urge her to move ahead, u are all correct, but I also think u all should tell her the truth that she fuccked up. Stop making her feel that what she did was in every aspect good or correct.


Most times when we make comments, we think it goes just to the OP? Or one person? NO, trust me, many people are in same shoes, and whatever u say here can influence their decisions in life.



How could u tell someone to just move one as no one else cares, even when the person knows that she messed up. Yes, she will move on, but telling her that in such a way that she is justified for whatever she did is very wrong

kaboninc:


Maybe he's running away from repaying you oh you're pushing him away, bringing up the loan in discussions with him. Or you're 'riding' him probably because of the loan for which it may appear that you have an upper hand against him.

I sha know that there's more to this ya story.

Anyway try discuss the terms of settlement of the loan. Money makes and mars a relationship

allobright17:
it depends on what you're complaining about,and what you're changing to,if he is doing bad things and you complain about it then he can go but if you're complaining over things you're not supposed to then try and stop it,if he love you I don't think he will just quit the relationship all because you're complaining.

On your money,if you can't bear it then ask for it if he give you good if he don't then let go off it.moving to the next level may better the previous anyway,all you need is time luck.
That money is much... So I can't let it go....we are together until he gives me back.... After then....only god knows

I wish you all the best in whatever you end up doing.

kaboninc:


Maybe he's running away from repaying you oh you're pushing him away, bringing up the loan in discussions with him. Or you're 'riding' him probably because of the loan for which it may appear that you have an upper hand against him.

I sha know that there's more to this ya story.

Anyway try discuss the terms of settlement of the loan. Money makes and mars a relationship

allobright17:
You don frustrate the guy life finish,better find another victim and continue your nagging with him.

wer111:

That's seems the best thing to-do....

Amelian:




Dear, forget the money. Any money rendered to help the sick , is best forgotten. No need going there at all. U won't get a refund.
Also try and reduce the nags and complains. But from now on, he should sort himself out by himself financially.
And watch his actions after 3months of no money from u.

Also he wants a break abi?

Give him the break. Don't call, don't text.. Delete his number and pin. Then be patient, live your life and see what happens.

truthsayer007:


Mumu, berra go and collect your money. Infact use police to arrest him. Boyfriend ko, Boyfriend Ni

vchykp:


You have to get someone he respects to bring him close so you can talk to him, make sure you have worked on urself before seeing him, am glad you know your mistake and ready to change for real.

Piiko:
Collect your money from him first

Gideonaigbe:
Whatsapp me-08033023247...av gat a tip for u

ButterFrost212:

My dear a man is only gentle and humble when he is broke, the minute the bucks start coming in, you're not guaranteed a smooth sail. So if he's serious about breaking up, collect your money first. In some relationships love isn't just enough.

firstking01:
You don't force love my dear, it's just a natural phenomenon that you must allow to flow on it's own.

vchykp:
its simple, call him..! apologise and desist from your previous character, show him you have changed for real and train yourself never to be your old self...

dreamwords:
Switch off your bitchh mode, thank me later