That man is simply a Narcissist!

Go and read on it.

I would have said Narcissim is a mental disorder but abeg they know what they are doing.

So sorry that you had to meet and marry this kind of man. Its not your fault dear and there's nothing wrong with you.

The problem is himself. Okay?

A Narcissist cannot stay with one woman sorry. They always believe there's something more exciting ahead and because they believe so much in themselves they expect to always have the best of everything in life.

So if at the moment you are not at your best, you won't appeal to them much especially if they find someone richer, prettier or better than you in some way outside that would make them look good to other people.

They would easily maltreat you without any remorse cos to them you don't fit into their lives.

Now guess what you'd be doing by then....begging, crying and trying everything possible to please them.
And what does this do? It makes them hate you more.

They are not very normal humans actually.

Living with a narcissist is like playing a game.
Give them reasons to respect you. How?

Well, because of the way they are, they only respect people of status, people who can make them look better, people who are doing well in life and all of that. And people who act like they don't exist.



Your husband is back because he is now afraid of losing control over you. Thats their greatest fear.
Especially now that you have a job.


I really don't know how to advise you on whether to stay or leave.

I just wanted you to know that he is a narcissist.

Going back to him does not mean he would change unless you can maintain a high value status in his eyes, be less dependent on him, act like you don't care about him, once in a while pretend to be seeing another man, subtly.

Live in househelp to clean the house and look after the children.

Female only

SSCE

Can speak and write good English

Very neat

Is it working?