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Call me stingy but I find it difficult to invest in a relationship with a lady.

To me, it's likely placing bet on Arsenal to win champions league 🏆.

So I just mind my business and move on.

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I get you!

So here the thing. If you sense doubt in a relationship, then you are probably on to something.

One thing is for sure, you are just an option to her, she is keeping her options open. That MTN staff is your backup plan.


So in your own best interest, manage your emotional and financial investments in this your relationship.

It's obvious that both of you living together because you probably have a plan to marry, however, you need to consider, your next move.... To stay and act the fool, after all, She is probably chatting with MTN staff.

Or

You prepare your exit move.

You could start chatting with MTN staff but you could take it a notch further, you get like three other MTN staffs, you could laugh and chat with.

Aura for Aura.

Listen!

I get you!

You are already in a mess. But let me tell you a story. A family member of mine practically raised a lady from humble background. But all he did was never enough.

He sponsored her education and that of her siblings, then he placed the mum on salary.

Yet, this guy decided to take stock of this life and found something.....

He, too, was also from a humble background who through sheer daint of hard work and determination became successful.

He discovered that after he got prosperous, he decided to invite a new Partner with nothing to add or offer him. But by association with this partner, he is bound to share his money and success with but he gets nothing in return.

What annoys him most was that after hustling, this partner feels entitled to his cash like he practically works everyday and hands his paycheck over so that peace would reign.

There was a contract he got to build a house and boys quarters included too was money to purchase the land. He was a trusted fellow.

He questioned the girlfriend what he should do. The lady gave him a list of things to buy, a Murano SUV, clothes, and stuff but nothing about buying land and building that property....

This guy did the unthinkable.

He broke up with this lady even though she was pregnant with a child for him.

He told me back then that she is not an asset. I didn't get him then but I do now. This happened 25 years ago.

So what's my point?

You should have decided by now what you want to do with this barrage of advice of everyone here. This is a public space, agrees. But one thing is certain, moving on with this lady is going to buy you a load of grief and pain.

So much words, lots of words but what's the point of all these

Well. Back then. If the lady cannot foot her transport and come see me, then it's a no-no for me. I promise them that I am going to double their TP if they come. They should borrow and come.

The psychology is simple. If the lady decides not to come, girl never wanted to come. And the times I get so invested emotionally, they Ghost me with my cash after I send them TP

Later I focused on ladies in the same city.
If she still wants you to send TP, then you are the problem.

In my experience, most ladies that ask for TP don't plan to come.

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Where is the sense of rationale in this matter?

You decide to change roles from house wife to side chick.

Where is the sense in all this?

I see absolutely nothing wrong with what the lady did. Infact you are the red flag!

Testing or tricking your fiance is born from a place of insecurity. Do you understand?

And the mother is correct. Why are you making a big deal out of nothing. If she is already married, I will be the first to come for her.

You are just in a relationship. So while at that, she is free to chat and explore her options. You too should be exploring your options.

Moreover, You haven't paid her dowry so she isn't yours yet. So you cannot claim double dating.

While you are looking out for yourself finding the right one, who said she can't look out for the right one for herself.

Guy, you see, a woman should exercise absolute prudence in picking a spouse.

If she chooses wrongly. She will spend her entire life ruing her choices. This is nothing new, expect you weren't experienced.

Heck, she told the fake you no sex.
So, why the fuss?

That's the best response you should be expecting.

As a woman or man, you should keep your options open.

It's up to you to take my advice or leave it.

Derry December nor longer sure for this guy.

Seriously of all countries to a scam guy man choose United States Of A.

It is a wow indeed.

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There is a joke circulating in the social media space. If a person can explain Nigeria to you and you understand, then the person didn't explain Nigeria well to you.

Imagine the lady even left with the guy in front of her husband. Imagine the nerve to say that her man is embarrassing her.

The guy even had the nerve to take the lady to his car.

Husband: hold my phone.

Seconds later guy man dey ground and the lady even dey blame her husband.

That lady is for the street

This is really terrible to see a marriage woman messing around with another man

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I disagree. Everyone has to survive both male and female and the ladies are the ones advocating for equality. With the world favoring ladies, a beautiful lady doesn’t need to sleep with men, to be able to gain from them. Just a little pulling of strings and she has the man wrapped around her finger.

No one has monopoly of hardwork and some jobs that were mainly occupied by men are now infiltrated by women. All sectors in the world are accepting ladies. So why does she needs a man to provide for her when are fellow ladies making more That doesn’t justify laziness. If she knew she would need a man then I don’t think there’s any point in her acquiring a degree or fighting for equality.

The lie sold to us is that women are the weaker gender but we have lots of top positions occupied by women in World Trade, Banking sectors and even entrepreneurs. Even though there’s a chance they got there through power play, theres still a chance their body counts are still lesser than the average girl on the street. It will shock you to know majority of the ladies that have higher body counts are those on the street than those in higher positions. The problem is not hardwork but more of laziness and greed.

This is your opinion. And I see your point. And that's fine. But I would like you to indulge and to look at what's on the street.

These are things I have seen and experienced in workplaces, in the fields, in tertiary institutions and even secondary schools that cannot be swept aside based on just an opinion.

I am not talking about one random beautiful girl. Or some intelligent random girl gifted at pulling money out of some guys pocket.

I am talking about everyday ladies who have to feed with no source of income or skills to earn a living. These kind of ladies are been dumped on the street on the daily.

I am not talking about feminist ladies who hold their own.

Granted, you mentioned laziness and greed, which is what it is.

But that doesn't change the fact, that ladies these days even married ones compromise to enhance their lifestyle.

That's the point.

While I agree with the theory on body count and pattern count.

There is a factor that is often ignored.... The need for survival.

It is becoming increasingly important to ladies in this terrific economic that having multiple partners means multiple streams of income.

One guy cannot guarantee a full stomach, bone straight on the head and skimpy outfits on the body.

I daresay that more that 90% of women walking on the street are into coded runs and hook-up.

So while these body count and pattern count theory persists, women are not known to earn their money through grit and sweat. They are mostly known to get their money for their clitocurrency.

Add that factor to your metric then make it make sense

Social media is now like a village square where almost everyone launders their dirty linens.

In any case, Don Jazzy has set the story straight.

If he didn't pass the sobriety test, he would have been hit with a DUI charge.

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A sad loss!

Artists who made our childhood beautiful are just going off.

So I was having this discussion with some old time friends. For some weird reason, we ended up discussing office work, something became prominent. Success at work place is not solely depended on personal abilities.

Most times, it's dependent on doing your home work and teamwork.

During office politics, you realise that who you know is more important than what you know.

How to relate with others and kick it with them determines your progress.

Your ability to communicate extensively is sure to guarantee you open doors.

I have seen guys with limited skills progress in life and talented guys botch things up

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Yes i am nervous and sweat while i teach. But how can i gain their attention

Just focus on delivering value.

That's something you have control over.

You are an overthinker, you feel you are inadequate but preparing well will fix that.

Sorry about that.

Get the course outline. Study and use chatgpt to guide you.

For context explain to chatgpt your unique situation and how you want to teach These kids with confidence and clarity.

A friend of mine who doesn't know jack about teaching used this method. It worked wonders.

You should try it.

One more thing. You are very nervous and the kids are having a field day to over that

Nice development.

It's better meeting DR Congo than meeting Cameroon.

Based on past antecedents, it doesn't bode well for Nigeria.

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With those kegs on the chest.

Na Foursome loading.

I go first of all lock 🔐 door 🚪 then swallow key 🗝️

Lord Jesus!

The struggle!

The pain.

It's hard to truly comprehend how guys cope with disrespect and on top of that you want sex from her.....

I can't believe that they are such kindness spineless guys in this country you mean your wife with her pregnancy which you doubt the paternity still has the end country and you

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Some some people are just kids.

So she blocks her friend because of her inability to take in.

So if she quarrels with her husband she's going to blame you for that too.

I've always maintained match the energy of your friends.

Availability does not translate to loyalty.

Some friends are just there but they are not there for you.

When shît hits the fan you will know how far

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