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It would be very easy for me to connect to hookup girls for sex, but i want my first sex to be with a normal girl.

The reason is because first time for everyting can't be forgotten.

I can't forget my first kiss, so I want my first sex to be with a normal gil(not holy, because no one, is holy).

Just don't want that thought of a hoouker being the first girl i slept with.

I might engage in the services of hookers later, but my first one is what i want to be memorable.


Matured advice please. I am 27

There is this loss of zeal, loss of interest in life that comes with full force when you engage in this dirty act.


Don'tlet them fool you, no matter what you eat to regain those nutrients and vital things your body losses when you engage in that few seconds of dirty self pleasure, it will take some time to rebuild it.

Now, if you do it all the time, you cannot be focused in life or have that zeal to pursue your goals.


Choose one, A few seconds of self pleasure that will reset your will power and render you useless, or a lifetime of fullfiment?

Now, I have regained back my confidence and can look any girl in the eyes,i can standup to any one!

Life becomes more sweet when you abstain from this dirty act!

Regain your will powernow, say no to this dirty habit!

If you want to focus in life, if you want to make it in life, don't tamepr with your energy, the energy within your waist. Use it for something productive and focus!

The more you abstain from this dirty act, the stronger it is for you to control your urges.

Urges don't kill, they only show that you are a man, and are healthy!

Channel your energy, that excess energy in you into something productiove, something yu are passionate about.


free time should be used wisely!

be intentional with your life, and this evil habit will flee from you!

Still Standing strong!


18 days gone, no relapse!


My advice to all those trying to comeout from this deadly cage is simple:

1. Don't view adult content.

2. Don't touch your pravaite part except you want to urinate.

Regain back your life!

Please pardon my English, I feel so disgusted right now and drained!

Look at me that was bustling and vibrating with full confidence just before 12pm today.

Please never let anyone deceive you that masturbation is normal! It is not!

I have been battling with this energy sucker and destiny delayer for some years now.

There was a time I went one full year plus, feeling so high and confident, I could talk to anyone, approach ladies and be full of confidence without fear.

But I ignored a warning, which is no matter what, never view adult movie!

I felt I was immortal and immune, because my will power was so high that I felt I was untouchable, but I fell for my weakness, and a whole one year plus few months of abstaining from masturbation and fulfillment, courage and vibrant mind and body came crashing before my eyes because I viewed adult movie!

I didn’t know when I was taken by surprise, and I fell terribly deep.

It wasn’t easy for me to bounce back again, because this time because bad, but not everyday though. I struggled to stay a week, sometimes two weeks, and rarely a month.

Once or twice I stayed over a month without that destructive sin, and I could tell the deference.

Then, just last year November 2023, I took that bold step and abstained from masturbation till today, 10th of January 2023! Over 60 days of full confidence gone down the drain! Now am I about to go back to living like a loser?

I am in big pains!

Imagine, me that was bustling with energy, chatting well and flowing with girls casually both online and offline, that courage just disappeared! I open my whatsapp and fear just came, the fear that comes with energy drained from masturbation.

I couldn’t reply a voice note from a girl we have been flowing well.

If I make a voice note, my voice will be shaking, and timidity will be written all over it. I will delete, make another one, delete, because masturbation has drained all my energy!

Mind, you, I am not a religious person, I am talking from a physiological and psychological point of view.

Masturbation drains your energy, and create tension, fear, imbalance of hormones, weakness, loss of memory and so much more.

No matter what they tell you, don’t listen to them!

Do whatever it takes to cut off this destiny destroyer from your life!

During my one year pus sreak and other few mothns I abstained from this disgusting act, I cameto realizie that there aresome tips that can help you build a stronger will power to overcome this

Tips to overcome:

General summary:
Avoid adult movies. Simple. Just don’t view, no matter the urge. Kill that uge, and replace it with something else. With time, it will be easy to resist the urge, but I warn you, don’t think you are immune and make the mistake I did! No matter how manytimes you have killed the urge and it is no longer strong, never view adult movie think that you can overcome! No!


Other tips:

Get busy. Don’t juts lay around pressing your phone. You might come across a suggestive post on social media, and the strong temptation to view adult images and moves forces itself into your mind .

Try staying outdoors or with people. I get it, some people are not social, but if you want to cut off this destiny destroyer, avoid idleness indoors. This is necessary to build your will power and become more resistant.
No matter what, never you touch your male organs. Leave it, and only urinate with it. This is where your energy is stored as a man, so don’t tampar with it!

Get a girlfriend or friends with benefits, or whatever girl, the point is get used to physical female body, and it is better to have se with real female than with yourself (As stated earlier, I am not a religious person)
If you are struggling to stay pure for few days, a week, or few months, Avoid foods that will build up tension to let off your semen.
Never stay totally naked, except you are changing clothes or bathing. Do so quickly, and if bathing, be fast about it and don’t look down there, bath sharp sharp and leave.

If you want to sleep, no matter the heat, wear at least boxers.

If you fall and engage in the dirty act, stand up quickly and seek ways not to do it again, because if you stay there, after an hour or so, the urge will be back fully, and you would easily fall because your will power has been watered down. Remember, the more you stay away from the dirty act, the stronger your will power. Avoid the chaser effect which makes you want to indult in it without stopping once you fall. This is digging you into a deeper mess, so once you fall, seek for ways to stop immediately. Don't lay there walloying in self pity because it will take you deeper doown the drain.

No matter what, never lay on the bed idle, doing nothing. This is where the urge is stronger. Let the bed be only when you want to sleep. Punish yourself a bit, if you want to rest, don’t lay down. This will go a long way to help you!

If you are still struggling to stay clean for a few days to a month or so, if you find yourself falling back to your phone to view those disgusting movies, I strongly advice that you ditch your Smartphone and other internet enabled devices for some time, probably a month, then look for something that will consume much of your time, especially an outdoor activity, then try as much as possible to mingle with people, no matter how antisocial you are.

This is the deadliest addiction because even if you are locked up without anything, the temptation is there, and you can fall. Other addictions, you need something else apart from your body, so if they take away all those things or if you lock yourself up, you would overcome, no matter the withdrawal symptoms.

Please you can drop ore hints to help more youths free from this bondage.

Pardon my English please, my energy and will power is drained!

I will write more, in summary, just don’t view adult content!


I know I will bounce back!