Nnaabros:
Sorry.

This usually happens when money and material comfort was the number one reason for the marriage in the first place. Sadly, women will always keep falling into this and men will keep taking advantage of this.

Most rich men do not really value their wives. They see them as completely dispensable, someone they can do without, after all, you married him mainly because of his money. Personality is never the first thing women consider before marriage. It's always money and comfort.

This is a sad tale that will never end.

Again, sorry

He isn’t a wealthy dude but I would categorize us as the comfortable average Nigerian family.
The kinds of family who would use thrift to make travel trips, and use our last penny to make the kids comfortable. He is also a hustler but an hardworking hustler. I see him going places if he stays focus, and that’s why am stuck with him to be a part of his success story. Am with him because I love him for who he is, . When we met he was living in a self contain, after 2 years we moved to a two bedroom, and 2years later we moved to a bigger place, so I would categorize as a growing couple. Dude that still collects his 1000naira change from me.

(Long message alert!! � forgive me��)
Single ladies, be patient!!!! You are 30 and not married, and so what If you try entering this university without taking your time to prepare for the course, or you go do mistake go choose the wrong course, my dear, if you like read till you drop dead, if you like walk with your head, if the course isn’t yours you will not pass it.
What am I saying; if you rush and marry somebody’s husband, or what God didn’t prepare for you, my dear you will SUFFER..... oh you will really suffer!!
If you like do snake in the monkey shadow, cook the best meal in the world, walk the best walk or dress the best dress, it will only last for that moment, it will not upgrade your love level with the man.... which is how it’s meant to be; when a man and a woman have issues, what they do is bring the good times back to the memory table; and trust me it should be enough to keep any marriage going, but if he is not the one; the wrongs / mistakes you make will be held up and used against you for LIFE.
I am a lovable woman, I am good looking with all the curves, I love cooking and trying new things, I can apologise for Africa once I know I made a mistake (I don’t know how to get mad for more than 5mins) and to add icing to the cake I am a “b***h” for my man in bed. (Goddamnit) don’t get me wrong I have my weakness/flaws... but mhen all the good attributes should be enough to score me points in my marriage, but nah here I apologise for not saying Goodmorning, I apologise for not asking him what he will have for dinner, i apologise for been upset/ angry; here, am not allowed to be angry, once am angry it’s termed a sheen rude/ no manners. So once am upset about an issue i apologise to myself when am tired of sulking, and move on or die sulking, here we get apologies once in 2years.
And the times I manage to hold a conversation on what my concerns/worries are; I hear the insult that can cater for a whole generation;
Here we argue over what can be easily ignored maturedly or laughed over. The course is soo hard cause i probably got on the wrong course from the beginning, It’s soo hard!!!!
I can’t count how many times I have she’s tears on my own and moved on cause of the emotional pain I have to go through... no sort of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, not once not ever, but the emotion trauma is weighty.
Interestingly the guy has opened the door for me to leave, but fear no gree me, the money I make from my two business can’t take care of the two lovely kids I have; they are used to the comfortable lifestyle; if I live catching up with that lifestyle would take a while and I don’t know if my kids have that kind of patience..... they are carat about their dad, cantbgo a day without him.
Dear single ladies, y’all should chill, no where una deg rush go, getting it right at late 30s makes ALOT damn sense than getting it wrong at early 20s. You have always heard it and you are hearing it again!!!
Am still
Keeping my fingers crossed waiting to see if my good attributes will make the impossible possible someday, I hear time heals all wounds; however am not ready to raise kids without a dad. No way!!! Wish me luck✌�

JoannaSedley:
Just bills....only bills... The only thing men are expected to do, they are screaming and harassing everybody.

Who cook, clean, wash, give birth, nurture the infant, give up careers, manage businesses and work to support the family.?

Ordinary bills that women can comfortably take care of when the man is no more. You see many widows struggling to provide and cater for her family but a widower is already jumping around looking for who to share bills with. Bunch of pussies parading as men.


Just provide for your family...just that.

All this new generation mamasboy....waiting to be spoonfed. Looking for a woman to share bills with but won't share housework.... Man up and take over your responsibility

My dear tell me another story I don’t know, bills apparently the only thing this men do,
I was at the hospital with his child myself and his mum, for 3days taking turn, his own was just to visit for few minutes, and after discharge of course foot the bills, I noticed he became aggressive and my presence started irritating him, only for Oga to tell me today that I didn’t even show any pity for him after paying bills of 55k. Am asking him what I was supposed to do, he no gree answer, he said I was supposed to show concern that he paid that much on hospital bill, it’s getting tiring, all we hear is bills bills bills, I cook, I clean, I take care of your kids, I do the little I can, if there is home bill of 10k I drop 4k based on what I can afford Cause I pay office and salary bills too, why should I now now have peace again....
Single girls marry right oo, nothing is rushing anyone take your time to choose your man, long and short of everything.

Wife:Hey babe you didn’t even ask me how my day went??
Husband:Who pays the bills?? (Angrily)
Wife: babe you didn’t even ask me what is wrong with me.....
husband: who pays the bills
Men, abeg is this how you ask these questions. It makes me so unhappy, cause I know men that do more yet they don’t remind their wives. Was chatting with a friend
Then would you advice home bills to be shared. Who should pay what. I run a small daycare and logistics firm... am not making so much but then at least am working.., let’s talk guys, especially those running small scale businesses, what Is you own share of the bill, we are not rich but we are belong to the class of the average Nigerian family who lives a comfortable life, but all his family bills are on his head, his mum, and sometimes his siblings, including extended family, uncle, Aunty, cousins, nieces all on him...
so from my small set up I take care of the weekly feedings in the home and little little bills that concerns the home, but the rent and kids school fees is on him and I think it’s weighing him down thereby making him transfer aggression on me...
But if I ask if he needs help with the bills, he says he is fine and can handle it, but why are you aggressive, why remind all the time you are the one that pays the bills.
Please dear men, is this how it is?? If you pay the bills, should we not have peace in the house because we don’t pay the rent with you
Then women in the house how do you share bill paying in your home

kimbraa:
He wants to prove a point, that the lady is seeing someone else even when she swore not to be seeing anyone on this thread just to validate himself that married women cheat the most.

I guess they don't know why people say love isn't enough.

It's not like you know me or can see me, neither can you beat me up of I tell the truth, there is no need to explain myself any further, my post says its all

[quote author=olaboy1 post=67991143]Nothing you do can ever satisfy a woman, they always quickly feel that emotional emptiness that would eventually make them vulnerable to another d!ck.
I think marriage should be abolished and open relationships encourage, that way nobody can sexually hold you to ransom.
I had to comment because a close friend of mine is having this same sexless marriage with his wife.

Give OP a new d!ck and all that I’m busy with logistic work will fly out the window. [

zomoears:


You have a vibrator!

Look no further. You have fallen out of love with your husband and in love with your vibrator.

Also your pussy is slacking due to regular vibrator use.

But that us the only way I get an orgasim, and I have been using vibe since we got married. We even use it together.

kimbraa:
I had to read the write-up twice to see if my eyes were playing with me or it was actually as a result of your perception. She didn't say she's not attracted to him but that her sex life changed, and I think being easily put off, not always in the mood, always tired, is as a result of how busy her schedule is. 6years of marriage...after a year, don't expect your partner to be as sexually active as they were while dating or when newly married. The spark dwindles over time and once one of the partner takes cognisance of this, they work on it and bring back the spark but the main issue is the slacking vagina. I'm not a doc so wouldn't know why.

Am not always slack. Sometimes am really tight. That's where am worried. I don't want to loose this man because he is thinking am cheating when am not. Which I sense would happen sooner than later

This men though, shout out to all the married women out there who know/ feel they are doing well in this school called marriage, but still getting an F by their examiner the hubby.

After 6years am still not getting it.

I used' to be the sex lover, who I loved intimacy with him from our dating ratings till recently, I won't deny the fact that I observed am loosing it gradually, easily put off, easily tired, not always in this mood, I just want to get in bed and sleep, (I sincerely never saw this day coming, knowing how sexually active I used to be) but whatever, I still make sure am available, i just don't really participate. But does this mean am cheating?

Hubby woke me around 4am and wanted us to get down, I was tired, i just started this new business (logistics) it's taking a ton out of me in a different way, once am tired, nothing gets wet, everywhere is dry and tight. He wanted it from behind, usually I can deal without my vibrator, but I just wasnt in the mood, so I didn't use my vibe, I just took it in that way, it was painful and uncomfortable for me, but I wanted him satisfied.

After we weere done, he said to me it's no more like before, are you cheating on me, and since then hubby has been Moody and all gloomy, I tried to hold a convo with him, but he just isn't interested, all he knows is once my private part doesn't feel the same, them am automatically cheating. I don't think that's fair, what happened to finding out what's wrong with this lady that it seems she is loosing what she used to have, what happened to seeing It from a positive angle.

Am not happy at all, I want to leave him to get over it, but then again I taught, it's not the first time he is asking me if am cheating, claiming the place feels different, when it feels loose, he would say something is different.

Okay here I am stating in 6 years I haven't cheated, sexually or any way possible. So if my body changed, i dont know why it did, if my pussy hole feels larger, i dont know what changed, sometimes am tight sometimes am not, i don't want to be tagged what am not, or to suffer for what am not even close to doing, cause if he wants to make you suffer like he will do it so well, you wont know when you will start begging him to forgive you for what you didn't even do, so please sex therapist in the house come and look into this for us from a different angle other than cheating, hopefully he sees this and reads comments.

Body changes does not automatically mean she's cheating. Men!!! Stop doing it