Beacause it is a game. non of those men or women are searching out their love interest for selfless reasons. its all for selfish reasons something to gratify themselves.

I see words like, trophy, prize,next beautiful woman, honey pot, hunters and she needs this and she needs that. You all see it wrong, you all see it through the exterior or a person or in selfish ways like how much it sucks when a man and women get together that now she's all of a sudden needy. First of all. yes we all love to see a hot chick as the women like a hot guy but don't you think its more then that. How many of you have an idea of what your perfect girl or guy would be like putting sex, looks, money and nice cars all aside. whats wrong with actually looking for the person of the opposite sex for what really counts within yourself. someone you can actually talk to and neither one of you are worried or afraid to say the wrong thing, you can talk about anything. where her past and his past doesn't mean a damn thing because your love and the depth of your compassion and your desire to nurture and care for that one special person is all that matters. There is one of those people for everyone out there. the reason relationships do not work out is because nobody wants to commit anymore. there was a mention of is it OK for UN-married Christians to have sex before marriage well to some its not right to others its OK. But it becomes OK when the two people have sincerely committed to one another. without commitment and even the thought of marriage it it all wrong not godly and most likely a doomed relationship. you cannot expect to take the physical love from another person before truly loving them for who they really are lie about your feelings for them just to get Ur dinky stinky and expect it to work out. and that goes the same for the ladies. If a man truly loves a woman she will know it and not by him pressuring sex or showing it to her sexually. she will feel it in ways never felt before deep in her soul and when a guy truly does love a woman he will show her in ways that his pants actually stay on. he will care for her, listen to her, not put her in compromising situations and unfortunatley I did that recently with a woman I have loved my entire life and now I think I may have screwed it all up before we really even had the right opportunity to get it going and be all the things we hoped it to be. true love a godly love there are no feelings of mistrust, you know the other person loves you and they don't have to say it, its a oneness a wholeness in your entire being. and the sex I'm sure is far more incredible then even some of the floozies I thought were goddesses in my past. but even that doesn't matter. those two people love eachother for whats inside not whats outside and not what benefits themselves in a selfish way. surely not for being a champion in the bedroom. but if indeed he/she is a champion then wow what a perk that would be.

OK, After reading some of the opinions posted on this topic I have yet to read someone's thoughts that come even close to the reason why most guys lose interest. I hear the word Love being thrown around like a dirty towel. The fact is there is no love involved in these kinds of relationships to begin with. It's clearly selfishness also known as lust. However, I am assuming that both of the people mentioned in this post have had sex. The affection,attention physically and emotionally in the beginning of relationship confuses most people to think it's of love and it could not be further from the truth. With women it's different women love the attention and affection they get from a guy they are interested in and the guy will do or say anything to get what he wants for all selfish reasons. when you come right down to it both parties are wrong for not understanding what actual love is suppose to be in the eyes of God and also where a real true love starts relationship starts from. It starts from friendship true friendship where both people care and are compassionate to one another for who they are and not what they can get or give. real love is selfless real love is godly. If any of you want to know exactly what I am talking about I suggest you look up or go get a book called: I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Don't be fooled by the title is has very little to do with giving up on dating. However, it is a very good guide I wish I used earlier in life to hopefully have avoided some of the women I dated and avoided deadend relationships and did not hurt them or they did not hurt me. We all get hurt in relationships but if you seek a relationship for love you need to change your way of thinking and your own personal guidelines for what it is you are looking for.