Hi,
I would like to add my opinion to this discussion.
I believe that love is more of a feeling than anything else. Yes choices do play a part but let me ask you this... When you started to like the person you are with did you look at them and say: you have a pretty smile I now choose to like and or be attracted to you? Or was it a feeling that you felt inside, a feeling that this person is special in some unknown way? When that person asks you to date, yes thats a choice. And then it grows to love etc. Now let me ask you this... If love was a choice would there be sadness or hurt in the world? I din't think so. You break up with someone or are unlucky enough to have someone pass away. Why be sad then if you can choose not to love them anymore and then all the sadness is gone. It has been said that marrage is a choice, if you feel something for 2 people who wins in the end? The one the feelings were stronger for, that's the one you choose. Why would anyone choose to love someone that e.g everyone in their family dislikes. They didn't. It just happened... I am in a place where I have lost someone I truely loved and believe me I wish I could choose not to. Life would be sooooo much easier. But this is just my point of view and I respect everyone elses. We all feel diffirent about this or we choose too...lol.