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Somehow related to one of my topics...

Nice points Op

TonyeBarcanista:
One of the problems of you people is the lack understanding!

1. A man primary duty in the home is provide, protect, defend and care for the family.

2. When he is chanced, he spends time with his family no matter how little (most men I know do this). I have never seen a man that doesn't spend time with his kids when he is chanced... Except for a few irresponsible men!

3. Yet, a woman is always the first point of call for kids because she is usually with them while discharging her wifely duties in the home front, spends more time with the kids and of course bond more.

3b. The above does not in anyway relegate the relevance of the man. Although most kids tend to acknowledge this when they are grown, especially male children.

4. For Xynerise, being an adult male that is expected to know better, to come up with an uninformed thread just like this only shows that he is advancing an agenda to subjugate men/fathers. It is unfortunate and Sissy for a grown up man to reason this way.

5. I don't expect you to grasp my point because you are not a man, husband nor father.

You keep using the sissy word. You don't even know what it means.

This is not about the time duration you spend with your children but the knowledge and inspiration (both spiritually and morally) they get from you even during that short period of time is what matters most.

Tonye, you are not the only father who is going through challenges outside the family.

Dygeasy:
People read to reply and not understand these days.

Many fathers are going through the exact things that you described and it's unfortunate.

I am not surprised though. Many fathers are doing what I advised and they are not dead or become sissy like my myopic minded friend, TonyeBarcanista said.

phemmyfour:
Dont mind xynerise, he's trying to force his opinion on anybody that have contarary opinion.

In this age where we have career women, we have fathers that are even closer to their children than their mothers.

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Where did I try that?
Oga, if you don't understand my post, ask someone to explain better.

Dygeasy:
Lmao I've missed this antelope insult

My brother, some people can be so annoying. Most guys feel I have betrayed the brotherhood because of this post but I have read it over and over again and I only found something that is worth trying out.

They sound like it is a taboo to care for your own children's emotional needs since they work too much. Many are using their fathers to counter my points like I was referring to ALL the fathers.

A lot gave credence indirectly to the point I was trying to make without even knowing it but ended up insulting me .

Your father made you who you are by teaching you how to do this and that and helping you with your assignment...for God sake!! That has been the language I have been speaking since

jaytii:
You just gave credence to the point OP has been trying to make.

Fathers must learn to communicate and bond with their children. OP might not have had it easy like you did, your father did a very nice job putting you through the different stages of your life.
This is the message the OP is trying to pass we need more men like your father in this world. It's not always about the money, every young man needs that father figure to guide him through life so they don't end up making mistakes that could have been avoided.

Thank you.

Dalby:
The first opposition to your school of thought you attack with insults...hmmm

I still do not agree with your position. There has and will always be good and bad father's. Same goes for mothers...

My post is not a stereotype. Come on guys!

martowskin1:
That does not mean father's who don't act like u do are not bonding with their kids in other way. Can we all just face our homes and do what works for us?..

This whole wife and husband thing is getting irritating daily.

Growing up, my dad was a military personal, he is hardly at home. There are a lot going in people homes that we don't know, let's stop this whole comparison madness.

I learnt how to play chess from my dad, till today I don't call him daddy, I greet him like a military man, even when he is retired. But I will tell u, the man did a lot, I realise this when I became a man my self. Life in this country is hard, not all fathers have the chance .. Only few do.

Your case is different. He is not even at home to play his role and I believe if he had been around, he would. The fathers I was talking about know themselves

ejimatic:
. We need to acknowledge the fact that some responsible fathers provide for their families materially and work hard daily while many fathers are lazy and do not care about their families. Additionally. a lot if fathers do not bother about the emotions of their children let alone creating time for them.Why are we having increase in the rate of crime among young ones? Why a lot of teenegers sleep outside today? Even now how many fathers know where their children are this night? Many fathers dont have time to tutor their children again. Can you imagine a part one student buying Corola sport and his father did not ask him where he got money.Instead of querying him they are doing Thanksgiving in church and mosque.The blind leading blind to knowhere.If a man does not have time for his children but just looking for materialism by all means such a father is worshiping an unknown God.Such ones will bite their fingers in future. So fathers, monitor your children and educate them morally and emotionally and spiritually. It is through this that your labour will not be in vain.

Thank you

Fidelcashboy:
fool

It's past your bedtime, kid. Now run along

TonyeBarcanista:
Xynerise is just being a pussy... Honestly

Ok, I believe being a pussy has many routes. You have been there and still there.

If playing with my kids and talking to them about reality of life makes me a pussy, pls I want to be a very big pussy.

ejimatic:
. Most fathers are not just losing relevance but they have failed as fathers

My brother, I don't understand why people are just pained about this and indirectly insulting me.

They keep saying fathers are working their ass off to provide for the family. They forgot they also have some emotional impact on their children too. How else do I make it clear to them ?

0neal:
Bro

It baffles me why someone will think a father bonding with his kids (two is just perfect) is a being a sissy?

It shows you how some people run their families and still look for who to blame when something goes wrong.

Being a father to them is like autocracy

mariahAngel:
Fooling around with your child is not synonymous with bonding. They can easily cross the line.
Make every time you spend with your child count.
Be approachable but strict. No time for nonsense.
Have discussions with them.
Ask them questions.
Teach them to say " sir" when they speak to you.
You don't need to fool around with them to prove that you love them.

Playing video games with them equals fool around?

TonyeBarcanista:
He didn't get anything

Oga, if it is difficult for you, it is not the same for others

0neal:
Another title for this thread can be

"Fathers should endeavour to emotionally invest in their kids"

Other than just focused only on providing, protecting, disciplining...

How many dads can play video game with their boys?

You got it. Thumbs up

Nigerians must get sense by force. Well, all we can do is wailing on social media, daz all..


Akpabio has exposed them and the other man is trying to change topic

Where are the" Nigeria go better" crew?

Dumb comparison

Were you expecting Intelligence to trend on BBNaija?

mariahAngel:
You couldn't think of a better topic to create than one that belittles the sacrifices fathers make for their families.

Huh?

Lots of hidden comments

Family business

mk3jax:
How many kids do you have and how old are they?

You should have asked when do I want to have the next one.

Look guys, if you don't understand the point I am trying to make then it is your problem not mine. I stated an observation in many families and some fathers are taking the challenge to become closer to their kids and feel concerned about their emotional challenges. Does it mean they are weak or they are not too busy with hustling?


If you don't agree with my post, then state it in a civilized manner and stop commenting like you are pained. Though I don't give a fuvk if you are....

TonyeBarcanista:
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My brother, a father's primary responsibility is to provide for his family. He toils, suffers and struggles to achieve that. This is in addition to provide care for the wife and kids and overall leadership.

A mother's primary responsibility is to care for the husband and kids, take care of home front and do any other responsibility assigned to her by the husband/father (feminists should go and die)

You can't expect a father to relegate his responsibility to be competing for attention of the children with the mother.

In fact, it is okay for children to be praising their mother as long as they, alongside their mother, acknowledge their father and are loyal to his authority. It is a welcome development!

When they are grown up they will realise their father's sacrifice!

For my family, we recognise both the sacrifices of our parents and always acknowledge them. As an adult male, I appreciates my father even more...

And cancelling my post supposed to make you the smart and right one?

You want everyone to agree with your opinion?

Bruno, take your penalty and shove it down your asshole

brio:
Why did he not use Ighalo and the formation he always use for FA cup

He doesn't believe in Ighalo

Ole always disappoints when it matters most

I am not shocked at the scoreline but I believe United will score a goal or more in this 2nd half

Ole should be proud of himself now.

Line-up no gree me talk

Rashford cannot do this alone. He needs Martial or Greenwood.

James is minus one

KingTom:
Eze Ndi Udele, na only one eye you get before na

Ewu Gambia